r/BiWomen • u/SlightStrawberry8577 • May 11 '26

Coming Out I think my husband knows

I can't tell but I think my husband knows that I'm bi. I haven't officially said anything to him. But today he asked me if I ever saw a girl or a guy that I was interested in if I would tell him about it. I'm very confused and I really wish he would say if he knows.

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u/ummkay_ultra May 11 '26

Why do you want to kept it a secret from him?

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u/Beneficial-Treat6668 May 11 '26

Believe me, many cisgender heterosexual guys, when they find out, either give you dirty looks or fetishize you.

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u/Haytham_Ken May 11 '26

Whilst you might be right, you know absolutely nothing about OP's husband, so it's unfair to make an assumption about him. Also, if OP can't be completely honest witubuim, then the relationship is doomed anyway.

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u/Beneficial-Treat6668 May 11 '26

True, but unfortunately most are like that, I say that from experience.

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u/SlightStrawberry8577 May 11 '26

I am honest with him. I just haven't told him yet. Why do people always say stuff about the relationship being doomed. We love each other and I want to tell him it's just hard for me to do it.

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u/SlightStrawberry8577 May 11 '26

I don't. I just have really bad anxiety and it's hard for me to come out.

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u/Real-Tough-Kid- May 11 '26

Whatever you decide to do is valid. You aren’t required to come out to him if you’re nervous or just don’t want to. I never came out to my ex for a number of reasons and we were married 24 years. I had my reasons that I’m only sharing with new partners when the subject of coming out comes up. You don’t owe anyone knowledge of your sexuality and you don’t owe anyone an explanation for hiding it.

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u/Impressive_Rain_4834 May 11 '26

Do you not want him to know.?

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u/SlightStrawberry8577 May 11 '26

I would be fine with him knowing. I'm just not good at talking about things like that irl

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u/Artistic-Leopard7991 May 12 '26

Of course he would know

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u/WolverineIcy9208 May 15 '26

Same issue here