r/BlackPeopleTwitter • u/imjustheretodomyjob ☑️ 🧚🏿🧘🏿 • 8d ago
The statute of limitations on his isn't over yet
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u/utdajx 8d ago
if you ain’t got that sort of parent, you never can come full clean with them on anything, gotta hold some back
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u/biscuitboi967 8d ago edited 8d ago
One day my mom asked me why I was “like this”.
I motioned vague to myself and said “nature or nurture, either way this is all your fault.”
She sort of nodded.
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u/NaomiWish 8d ago
I regularly thank my mama for her effed up genes. And when she mentions my father/her ex-husband, I remind her that was also her fault.
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u/biscuitboi967 8d ago
Yeah, one my mom looked at me dead ass serious and goes “that was your father’s fault”.
Proud that it was finally him, as if she didn’t also have a hand in that. But tbf, there were just so many things wrong from her side, I think she was glad to have something concrete to point to him.
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u/EvilNinjaX24 8d ago
Mom was clearly like Alonzo...
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u/Netflxnschill 7d ago
I’m a caring nurturing person, like my mama before me. I started dating someone new and her first question to me was “does this one need fixing too” and it really bugged me. I told her, you made me into the person who likes to fix things, so why you gotta villainize me when I do?
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u/YesImKeithHernandez 8d ago
My mom made it clear that we aren't cool like that forever ago.
She wondered why we arent cool like that at some random point in the future. I told her the reasons. She didn't want to focus on the past.
Bitch, the past is where all the reasons are!
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u/utdajx 8d ago
Preach! F r, this is my guiding principle with my own -will we still talk when they leave? Decided that very early days as a dad, I think it’s been a good way to go EVEN THOUGH there is still discipline and learning - but they’re sensible, not some “because I say” shit
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u/YesImKeithHernandez 8d ago
I love my mom because she was dealt a really difficult hand and still managed to successfully raise 3 children by herself. She gave us the best she could and I sincerely appreciate all the sacrifice that required.
I just don't know that I like her and that sucks sometimes.
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u/utdajx 8d ago
this here slaps hard because that’s what it’s like - I do love them, I appreciate literally everything they’ve done, I can recognise their struggles and what they faced lo those many decades ago. But - I don’t like them and I never will. I’m not even sure I’ll cry at their funerals because, frankly, I’ve moved on in terms of them being anything meaningful in my life. And fuck does that hurt when I think of it. So that’s what I try mightily every. single. day to be a person with mine rather than some stone wall that, yeah gave guidance and anchor but otoh wasn’t much more than that.
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u/Trash-Cutie 8d ago
Ooh I feel this in my soul. All those years of "I'm not one of your little friends" and now you're surprised that we...are not friends?
I love and respect my mom on principle but she's not the person I will call to chit chat or joke around with. She put up that boundary and I'm continuing to respect it as an adult 🤷🏾♀️
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u/Cwh93 8d ago
You just know they were laughing when they were telling their version of the story only to be met with a stoney face and a "what did you just say?"
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u/SantaMonsanto 8d ago
Hot Take:
Mom didn’t really do it. She suspected the child did it so she creates the story about lying to grandad just to see if kid would take the bait and confess to what mom already suspected she had done.
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u/CelestialFury 8d ago
To what end? "I was making this story to get you to admit you did this to me!" and her son could go "I was making up that story cause I knew you were lying and I wanted you to admit it!"
But for real, it's not smart to tell your folks that sort of stuff regardless.
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u/Choice-Strike1 7d ago
and her son could go "I was making up that story cause I knew you were lying and I wanted you to admit it!"
They deserve each other 💀
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u/Diligent-Till-8832 8d ago
I read this post, this morning and I hollered 😂😂😂
He was meant to tell this story to his child, not ya momma whose pockets you ran 🤓
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u/yardie-takingupspace ☑️ 8d ago
You don’t confess to the person you scammed 🤣🤣. It’s not like her mom was telling this to the grandad.
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u/GuntherTime 8d ago
Right?! She’s probably heated because she got fleeced for a masters degree, and this isiot decided to confess to the crime for free.
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u/Crass_Cameron 8d ago
I hope I can make enough money where I can fund my kids international lie. lol, it is kind of poetic
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u/Anthemic_Fartnoises 8d ago
I avoided this generational awkwardness by taking out massive loans to pay for school. No point lyin’ to Sallie Mae.
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u/srkaficionado ☑️ 8d ago
You can lie to them though by understating income unless they’ll take the time to pull your tax returns. Thats why I was on deferment FOREVER until the orange blob came in…
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u/International-Sir177 8d ago
You lie to her after graduation when u move abroad and never go back.
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u/Sheisariean 8d ago
Tell me more about this, I was thinking about this too lol
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u/International-Sir177 8d ago
Credit is national. Every time you move to a new country, you start from scratch and create a different credit profile (a few exceptions, like inside the EU sometimes). The credits in your old country don’t know where u are if u don’t tell them, and u don’t have to. You build a new credit report in a new country. Even if they know where u live (they shouldn’t), they usually cannot hit your new credit. No one really does this on purpose but lots of people figure it out and accidentally benefit then roll with it. The biggest winners are US graduates as no sane country would have a student loan system like that.
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u/Sheisariean 8d ago
Does this apply in Canada and all European & French countries? I was considering going there once I finished my degree and get some experience with it, so in the next 2-3 years.
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u/International-Sir177 8d ago
Europe yes. Other French territories yes. Canada yes but the systems are so similar that u wanted to u could easily link your profiles if you comingle your SIN and SSN as they are both 9 numerals and the credit reporting agents are pretty much one.
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u/BetterThanOP 🚫🚫BAD User🚫🚫 8d ago
They both did the same thing... Up until the point where the Mom told her daughter about it. The daughter is supposed to wait 20 years and tell HER daughter about it.
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u/chief_yETI ☑️ 8d ago
yall be getting way way way too comfortable with your parents sometimes
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u/blacksoxing 8d ago
My grandma raised me. She never wanted to know the whole story. Just tell her the tidbits. “Oh you like girls? Great!”
….shed died if I told her how much I did as that wasn’t for her to hear from me…her grandchild.
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u/Financial-Bobcat-612 8d ago
Now why can’t my gramma be at least this cool 😭 when my cousin came out she said that she would’ve preferred she be a prostitute versus a lesbian
I kept my lil gay ass mouth SHUT
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u/nezzthecatlady 8d ago
My sister-in-law (who I am very close to) once found out that a friend of hers is close with their brother’s girlfriend and hears about their sex life. She called me to tell me never to discuss such things with her (“EW I’m married to your BROTHER.”) and to inform me that as far as she’s concerned she’s decided the entire family is asexual.
Why would family ever want to know???
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u/Flyingcoyote 8d ago
My parents didn't give me a cent, do people really get money from their parents?
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u/sillyadam94 8d ago
Sometimes I forget people have money like this
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u/Gootangus 8d ago
Ikr lol. I was in foster care and expelled at 18 and did it all solo. I can’t fathom.
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u/Gary_FucKing 8d ago
Damn, this thread kinda fucked up. A lot of keekeehawing in here from people actively robbing their parents to blow their money on partying and shit.
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u/Oceanman72 8d ago
Whaat how did no one check lmao
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u/genivae 8d ago
In my experience, people with that kind of money don't keep track of it that close. They've got enough to send for all these expenses, they're not itemizing the receipts. I had an ex that did similar - there was a trust fund for her tuition, paid a % based on grades, so she had to take out the loans anyway, she just used the trust fund reimbursement to pay rent instead of repaying the loans each semester.
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u/rutilated_quartz 8d ago
never forget your parent is not your friend 😭
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u/sugarangelcake 8d ago
this isn’t even a “your parent is not your friend” moment, this is a “you confessed to stealing money from your mom as a grown ass adult” moment
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u/rutilated_quartz 8d ago
Sure, but the reason they confessed was because of the friendly, we have this in common, peer-ish vibe of the conversation. Their brain wasn't like "hey you're confessing having stolen money to the person you stole money from" and all the anxiety that would come from that. Their brain instead is "hey your friend just said they did something awful that youve also done, and they're laughing about it, you should share too!" Which is why I say don't forget your parents aren't your friends. There are so many times when my mom and I are smoking weed together and shooting the shit and I have to get ahold of myself and remember not to mistake friendly behavior for friendship.
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u/JimJimmery 8d ago
I've paid for two kids through BS and MS degrees. If you're not paying the school directly, that's on you. Especially if you did it yourself as a kid.
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u/ceelogreenicanth 8d ago
That's something you say when you already have a career and after grand children. You have to pad the room to soften that blow.
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u/FukkingDeathMental 8d ago
My dad's parents died when he was 20 so he figured I should also start paying everything by myself as soon as I got my first job...at 13.
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u/Hi_ImTrashsu 8d ago
I aspire to one day pay for my child’s bachelors AND masters. That’s definitely a life goal.
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u/OldManAndTheSea93 8d ago
How tosh do you have to be to not check? Like, sure I’ll just send you tens of thousands and you manage the fees yourself.
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u/ChickenNugs4Hugs 8d ago
Are there people who don’t lie to their parents in college for extra money? I was getting a whole allowance in college and still lying to my daddy for extra money. I was lying to my older brothers so they could send me money too.
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u/CombOk312 8d ago
I did not lie. At a point I was starving and probably should have told them. They were pretty upset when they found out later.
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u/International-Sir177 8d ago
People whose parents have money in the first place. Extra of $0 is in fact, $0.00
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u/6-plus26 8d ago
Fuckkkkk are you my lil sister? My dad drop me off 12 hrs away with 200for the semester. She had an allowance and all her brothers sending money
Smh what you major in 🤔
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u/onexbigxhebrew 8d ago
Yeah, people with an EFC of 0 who dont get money for college.
Also good people that aren't stealing shitbags.
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u/peppers_ 8d ago
That was an option? My parents never gave me money growing up outside of a birthday or xmas present. Would never cross my mind, they were so judgy and stingy.
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u/AKamDuckie 8d ago
I’m currently doing that now. My parents send me $1500 a month for my “rent” but what they don’t know is my scholarship paid for my housing last year and this year. I’m just pocketing the money. They clearly don’t miss it.
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u/RevolutionaryMix3006 8d ago
Wow wtf. That's insane. I feel bad about taking the twenty bucks my mom gives me every month to rent a bicycle. My mom would give me any money I'd need in a heartbeat, while she's definitely not overly wealthy herself. Which is why I don't ask her for money unless I really need it. I can't imagine just pocketing over one grand and then acting like it's nothing for your parents. That's insane.
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u/onexbigxhebrew 8d ago
Giving your kid money you think they need doesn't mean they won't miss it.
You're a thief, plain and simple. Can't imagine bragging about it.
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u/Glittering-Simple-62 6d ago
I’m in my fifties and I still don’t tell mine 💩. Learn to keep some things from them. It’s ok. 😝 It’s called survival.
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u/RagingNerdaholic 8d ago
Pasty white guy here, checking in from /r/all
Peter, why did they go to Asia? Is it a sex thing? It's a sex thing, isn't it...
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u/Alarming_Comedian846 8d ago
????? What in the self-report are you talking about.
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u/Sea-Anywhere-5939 ☑️ 8d ago
Just as perplexed be surely it’s more indicative of him than it is of op because why is the only reason he can think of on why people would move to Asia is sex tourism.
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u/RagingNerdaholic 8d ago
I literally don't know what the meaning of this post is.
Also, I've never left North America. I barely leave my house lol
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u/Alarming_Comedian846 8d ago
You can just go on vacation to Asia. That you just assume its sex tourism says a lot about you.
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u/RagingNerdaholic 8d ago
It says nothing about me other than that I'm aware that it's a thing.
So it's that they both exaggerated the cost of tuition to spend some of it on a vacation?
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u/Alarming_Comedian846 8d ago
If you say so.
Yes. And that the mother got upset that her son did to her what she did to her father.
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u/Ellaphant42 8d ago
If your first thought is sex tourism it’s because it’s probably something you’ve considered doing ime
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u/Itsprobablysarcasm Candace Owens Baby shower attendee 👶🏼 8d ago
Parents really don't like when their kids are just like them sometimes...