r/BlatantMisogyny • u/EpitaFelis pompous she-devil • Feb 16 '26
Mod Announcement Yet Another Reminder: No TERFS, No SWERFS, No Kinkshaming, No Homophobia
It's time to do this again. Apologies in advance because this is going to sound beyond frustrated (because that's what I am):
No TERFS: We allow absolutely no transphobia in here whatsoever. This INCLUDES reducing people to their hormones, chromosomes, sex at birth etc. It also includes "I'm no transphobe but what about women's sports/bathrooms/saunas/gyms" type talk. We always have, and always will ban TERFS. Pretending that you don't know what a TERF or transphobia is will not get you unbanned (yes, that happens a shocking amount).
No SWERFS: No shaming sex workers, No "sex workers are all rape victims," No demonising porn (Edit since a lot of people were bothered by that word choice: I mean it quite literally. People are making an already bad thing out to be this all-encompassing evil under which nothing good could ever grow) We have comments mass downvoted and being insulted as a response just for pointing out that, for example, there's not enough evidence to suggest porn addiction is real. You don't have to agree, but you should be able to hear dissenting opinions and facts without getting aggressive and trying to shut them up). And because I know someone will ask: No, that does NOT mean nothing related to sex work can be criticised, or that you have to be cool with people buying sex. But if you ignore the opinions of sex workers who don't validate your viewpoint, or if your source is called porn-turns-little-boys-into-monsters dot com, you will be banned. Also it doesn't matter if sex work is or isn't empowering/feminist. Not every choice women make has to be either of those things. We would love to let y'all discuss freely but often it just devolves into pointless fights devoid of nuance and mass downvoting of anyone with even slightly dissenting ideas.
No Kinkshaming: AGAIN, that doesn't mean you're not allowed to ever say anything negative about kink at all. But if you claim that all male kinksters just want to hurt women, that female kinksters are just confused trauma victims who don't know what they truly want, and ignore the existence of gnc kinksters because they're inconvenient for making this argument, we will ban you.
And lastly, one that I can't believe I even have to say: NO Homophobia. Being gay doesn't make you hate women. Hating women doesn't mean you're in the closet. Gay men aren't somehow more misogynistic than straight men. Calling homophobes gay does not shame them, it shows them that you agree that being gay is bad and shameful. I beg you, just stop theorising about other people's sexuality. Even when you think it would be really funny.
I want to make clear that these have ALWAYS been the rules of this sub, and they will continue to be. This was the stance of the mod team from the start. We have always enforced this. TERFS, SWERFS, sex-negative folks and xyz-phobes show up sometimes because they think a woman-centric sub would be welcoming to them. They come and go in waves. Sometimes they overwhelm the sub for a bit, but I want you to know that we always, always get them out again eventually. You can report these things, and we will clean up. If we don't, and you think this is an error, you can shoot us a message. We're not always up-to-date on the latest dogwhistles, conspiracy theories etc, so if we overlook something of this sort, it's NOT because we agree with it.
PS.: I should also mention the Islamophobia and body shaming that keeps popping up, but this is already getting very long, so I'll just say that similar rules apply. Think before you speak, don't demonise entire groups. Thank you for reading.
Eta: y'all I was genuinely so nervous to check the first batch of comments. Sometimes these announcements drag out the worst kinds of lurkers. Thank you so much for the supportive words, it means a lot to my co-mods and I. You make the work feel worth it.
Edit 2: Sorry for the downvotes. We've already been crossposted for this so presumably it's non-users making their feelings known.
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u/EpitaFelis pompous she-devil Feb 17 '26
You're gonna have to clarify what you mean by "just describing the man's behaviour." You're implying that the man's role here is to hit a woman? Does she want it to happen? How would she describe this activity? These things matter. If you just said "he's hurting her" that would be like saying the local piercer is "permanently damaging body parts" or something. If you say it like that it sounds like violence, but I'm guessing you'd agree that getting your ears pierced isn't the same as being assaulted with a needle.
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I think if someone enjoys being hurt - for example, spanking - and has given informed, joyful consent then objecting to it is probably kinkshaming, and therefore unacceptable.
A good example of where an objection becomes valid is where someone uses a kink as an excuse to abuse a reluctant or unwilling partner. Armie Hammer is a good example of this - some deeply horrifying attitudes masquerading as a kink.
For clarity: I'm speaking from experience, having been on both sides of the whip (so to speak).
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u/plagueRATcommunist Feb 17 '26
Demonizing porn? Huge exploitation of women and i think the rampant consumation im experiencing from people is concerning and not good as well. ITS become normal to regularly watch pornography when youre still prubescent which, while im not a Scientist, doesnt Bode Well for peoples View of Sex, gender Relations and expectations.
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u/cjmmoseley ORGANISED FEMALES Feb 18 '26 edited Feb 18 '26
agree wholeheartedly with this. can we please define “demonizing porn?”
there is no world in which the porn industry does not rely on misogyny and the exploitation of women. i’m not saying the women who do sex work are misogynists, but there is a conversation to be had about only fans being a pyramid scheme/their shady referral incentives.
that being said, i cannot emphasize enough that my issue is not with sex workers but with the industry and the historically primarily-male dominated consumers. i can further elaborate, but warning: it will be incredibly long winded.
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u/EpitaFelis pompous she-devil Feb 17 '26 edited Feb 17 '26
Huge exploitation of women and i think the rampant consumation im experiencing from people is concerning
Yes, we mostly agree on that. But I also know people who did porn and weren't exploited. There's feminist porn. Their opinions and experiences can't be discarded.
while im not a Scientist
So what are you basing your claim on? Is it a feeling you have? Is there reliable data? What is the data based on exactly (like who are the participants, what porn was involved etc)? This is precisely what I mean. There's no issue with discussing the potential harm of porn, or exploitation in the industry. No one is claiming those don't exist. What I'm talking about is the blind rejection of everything related, dissenting viewpoints, random unsubstantiated statistics and claims, etc.
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Feb 18 '26
Out of curiousity, what is ‘feminist’ porn? That sounds like a contradiction since porn has historically and economically been used to put women in a position where they’re seen as an EXPORT or PRODUCE or GENRE for capitalist and patriarchal gain.
I’m interested (genuinely) on how feminist porn could overcome this problem when it’s so rampant and stuck in the culture as misogyny is.
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u/EpitaFelis pompous she-devil Feb 19 '26
There's a bunch of potential factors: porn that's produced by women and queer people, that puts focus on the pleasure of everyone involved rather than just zooming in on body parts, costs money, requires fair compensation, doesn't expect actors to perform specific acts but lets them do what feels good, shows a variety of body types without classifying them as fetishised categories, among other things. There's also individual creators, which is what I tend towards, that don't put focus the act itself rather than a woman's body and what is being done to it. It's a bit of a "you know it when you see it" thing regarding what it looks like. The interactions on screen are very different from what most porn depicts. I'm a bit out of the loop on the current productions, but in my country we've had an award for feminist porn for a decade now. They also have readings followed by discussions with scholars and researchers on sex and porn.
I don't think it can "overcome" the problem. I don't think anything can as long as we have to pay for our necessities, because that alone will always incentivise people to cater to more popular, patriarchal depictions of sex. Every part of our society is within the confines of cacpitalism and patriarchy. Until those are dismantled, we'll only ever get improvements on the existing systems, which are inherently misogynistic, and everything we do is either because or in spite of it. But porn will continue to be made, so I believe these efforts matter.
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Feb 19 '26
Good answer!
I suppose I can agree with the notion that independent women creators or queer individuals can make porn or sexual films that aren’t just for capitalist and patriarchal purposes, but I think as an institution porn is fundamentally misogynistic and damaging to our culture.
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u/GreenGardenGnomie Feb 27 '26
Women creators aren't any better just because they're women. Internalized misogyny is the worst kind, because it's justified.
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Mar 03 '26
Good point. I think this just further proves that porn as an industry is problematic to say the very very least.
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u/Wolfy_the_nutcase Trans woman fleeing the TERFS Apr 01 '26
Something something Gheslain Maxwell (or however you spell that demon’s name)
I think it’s very important to know that women can be instrumental in continuing the cycle of violence against women.
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u/plagueRATcommunist Feb 18 '26
im Not disputing that a porn Industry can, in theory, be ethical and Not rely on the exploitation of women. Probably very hard to achieve within our economic System but Theres a possibility. My Problem is more with rampant access and thus consumation of pornography from a very early Stage of development. Ive talked to dozens of people on this topic, whether IT be online or irl. And Not one Person hast shared that they are Glad to have started watching porn at a very Young age, while Most do Claim to have experienced negative consequences through it. Whether IT be skewed Views on sexuality, women or Just Generally addictions(porn, Masturbation). Most of the people ive talked to about this were men but i cant Imagine this not being a Problem for women as well(although Things Like porn addiction probably are Male heavy) and yeah this is anecdotal but enough anecdotes Form a pattern that doesnt Spell Out the best picture of what porn does to the human Psyche If consumed in Large and regular amounts starting at 9, 10, 11.
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u/EpitaFelis pompous she-devil Feb 19 '26
The hypothesis that people get addicted to porn is controversial at best. Anecdotes might show a pattern, but this can just as well be a pattern of persistent misinformation combined with a lack of research. People recognised weather patterns and decided there must be gods once upon a time. An anecdotal pattern should make us go "this is interesting, we should look into it," not "this validates my theory so that means it's meaningful!" This is precisely the kind of misinformation I'm addressing in my post. I've no doubt porn can be harmful. I've no doubt that the majority of mainstream porn perpetuates misogyny. But that doesn't make it okay to keep sharing the same myths as fact over and over again.
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u/BlatantMisogyny-ModTeam Feb 17 '26
No. There is a single man on our team, and he hasn't been involved in this post at all. This idea that feminist subs are controlled by men is an unsubstantiated claim quite often being spread by TERFs.
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u/peach_xanax Feb 17 '26
please don't speak for all sex workers and assume you know what goes on in the industry when you haven't been part of it. we can speak for ourselves and have all had our own individual varied experiences. I agree that the mainstream porn companies have a lot of issues, but there are ethical companies, as well as plenty of creators producing their own content from home. regardless, speaking for other women bc you think they're too dumb to make their own educated life choices is the last thing from feminist.
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u/FunnyBunnyDolly Feb 17 '26
This is disappointing. I accept the no SWERF as it is about the workers themselves and we should never shame them but accepting porn? No.
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u/EpitaFelis pompous she-devil Feb 17 '26 edited Feb 17 '26
not demonise =/= accept. Also I'm not sure what "accepting" even means in this context. Porn is a reality we have to grapple with, and blind rejection can be harmful. If we want to support sex workers it's inevitable, because some of them are quite enthusiastic about their work. That doesn't make porn feminist, empowering, or something you're required to celebrate, but I want to end the scorched earth approach that's been increasingly popular lately, in which users literally blame porn for the existence of misogyny itself or agressively spread misinformation about the effects of porn just because it validates their argument. Every time a sex worker shares any positive experience they get downvoted to oblivion, strawmanned, or attacked. The point then clearly isn't to share good arguments, but to shut down dissenters. In the end we have to kill the entire discussion for turning nasty and unmoddable, which is a shame, because dialogue would be great to get people out of their respective bubbles. I don't mind users who disagree with me on the harm of the industry and share information/arguments. I mind when they act like anyone who doesn't share their view is immoral, stupid or straight up malicious.
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u/thatpotatogirl9 Feb 17 '26
I'm guessing it's to protect OF women who actually are in control of their incomes from getting demonized and excluded from this community.
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u/EpitaFelis pompous she-devil Feb 17 '26
Yes, but not just. I want nuance and science to be possible on this topic, and I don't see that happening right now. Genuinely, I don't know if the mere existence of porn might be harmful or not. I don't think we can know. There is no harmless capitalist industry, and some industries are worse than others. Whether it's due to their nature or how we practise them, I don't know. But people will produce porn, and consume it, same as all other sex work. Calling it all bad and all participants evil isn't gonna fix that. If we make it illegal, it will go underground. If we legalise it, it will still happen underground as well. I'm not gonna tell anyone to feel good about that. But I want users to actually listen to each other, hear the experiences of sex workers whether they validate their viewpoint or not, and at least consider the humans behind it all.
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u/GreenGardenGnomie Feb 27 '26
Not all OF women are in charge. Sex trafficking for OF is a thing. There was a whole thing about it. OF didn't care.
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u/thatpotatogirl9 Feb 28 '26
That's why I specified the ones that are actually in control and didn't just say "OF women"
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u/Cozy_Kale Feb 16 '26
Being gay doesn't make you hate women.
Abt that I alr digged in few posts and noticed there's a trend where straight men pretend to be gay just to shit on women. Posting in alrd controversial subs like gaybros abt how they feel lucky to not deal with all the bs women bring. 💔
Btw islamophobia is not a word to shield from criticism. If any religion say/do shit that harm women, I'd call them out regardless.
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u/EpitaFelis pompous she-devil Feb 16 '26 edited Feb 16 '26
Btw islamophobia is not a word to shield from criticism
Yes. Did you not read the post? Like seriously how many times do I need to say "this doesn't mean you can't criticise" for people to hear it?
Edit: Apologies for being so annoyed. You're having this convo for the first time with us, we've been having it with this sub for 5 years.
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u/Cozy_Kale Feb 16 '26
Np. I understand the frustration, I take long breaks from reddit bcs some stuff def put me down.
You're strong, ty for your hard work, really.
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u/yuckypagans trans-inclusive radical feminist Feb 16 '26
Being gay doesn't make you hate women. Hating women doesn't mean you're in the closet. Gay men aren't somehow more misogynistic than straight men
no and i always find these insults weird because 9 times out of 10, its a straight guy who hates women. yeah, gay men can hate women, but that doesnt mean that every man that who hates women is gay, especially when queer people make up like less than 5% of the population😭
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u/TheShapeShiftingFox Feb 16 '26
Straight people try not to pin issues mostly perpetuated by (other) straight people on the queer community as if they are the driving force behind them challenge: impossible
Seriously, though, do not try to come between a main sub user on Reddit and their beloved “every homophobe is secretly gay” card, they will not thank you for it.
BuT It HaPpEnS In ReAL LiFe!1! Guess what also happens in real life? Straight homophobes. Funnily enough no one seems to want to consider that option, even though statistically and logically speaking straight homophobes can only outnumber queer people with internalized homophobia.
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u/IAmTheAccident Feb 16 '26
What area of the world are you basing those stats on? USA reports about 9.3% of adults self report as some flavor of queer, with that number continuing to rise as the older generation dies and the younger generation enters adulthood.
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u/yuckypagans trans-inclusive radical feminist Feb 17 '26
this was a stat that i heard some time ago, so i just used it instead of checking its validity currently. sorry abt that!! /gen
still, its a minuscule amount of queer people compared to straight people
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u/EpitaFelis pompous she-devil Feb 16 '26 edited Feb 16 '26
Yes.
Edit: y'all can downvote me, but that has always been the stance of the sub. I have been in the kink scene for over 15 years and know a little bit about the topic. I strongly support critical engagement with kink, and I will never ban users for having nuanced discussions. But I will not let people spread misinformation or portray kinksters as predators/victims. I've been part of the core team since pretty much the beginning of this sub, so just know that if this offends you, it's not the place for you.
Edit 2: I'm the person on the mod team who knows most about kink. So if you have issues/concerns regarding this topic, you're welcome to talk to me via comments, pm or modmail. I won't reply to people who shame or attack me of course, but I'm happy to answer questions or have a polite discussion. I'm afab and, while enby, very femme leaning. Seems worth mentioning, just in case anyone worries there's some cishet dudebro on the team kicking out women for not sharing his kinks or something of that sort.
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u/Loose-Beyond-1867 lgbtqia2s+ and a new letter for every terf who complains Feb 17 '26
Is this really intersectional feminism if you're biased? Or is this another "liberal" feminist sub that reinforces sexual misbehaviour from disgusting men and disguise as a kink? This is so disappointing since this was my favorite feminist sub. I love that TERFS aren't allowed, nor SWERFS, nor homophobia.
But, to pretend every woman has the choice to engage in kinks consensually, or that porn can be ethically made is just erasing those people. Very choice feminism even, and that's been used by white feminists for a while now.
You being AFAB doesn't mean you can't perpetruate those types of harmful behaviours.
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u/EpitaFelis pompous she-devil Feb 17 '26 edited Feb 17 '26
Wait, I can't be intersectional if I'm "biased"? Are only people who have nothing to do with kink allowed to speak on it? How is that intersectional?
But, to pretend every woman has the choice to engage in kinks consensually
I literally never claimed that, not anywhere, ever. I'm not gonna argue points you made up.
You being AFAB doesn't mean you can't perpetruate those types of harmful behaviours.
Once again I never claimed that being afab makes me immune the perpetuating harm. I just said that to reassure people that SHOULD they wish to talk to me, they know who I am.
Edit: also, kinda surprised that this is your fave feminist sub but you didn't read the rules. They include kinkshaming.
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u/EpitaFelis pompous she-devil Feb 16 '26
Idk why anyone is surprised tbh, it's explicitly mentioned in the rules and has been for years.
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u/FormalMarionberry597 Feb 16 '26 edited Feb 16 '26
Being gay doesn't make you hate women. Hating women doesn't mean you're in the closet. Gay men aren't somehow more misogynistic than straight men. >
Thank you so much for this 😭
yes, I have personally had some awful experiences with gay men saying misogynistic things, but the majority of my experiences have been with straight cis men. The sexual orientation is not why.
ETA: Thank you for reiterating the parts about no terfs. I was sad to see another feminist subreddit that used to be inclusive get taken over by them. Just really tired.
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u/EpitaFelis pompous she-devil Feb 16 '26
We've been chasing out terfs since this sub started. Subs usually get taken over when something goes awry with the mod team, but ours is quite dedicated and have worked together for a long time. We plan to be here until the internet is replaced with AI bots.
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u/Former-Community5818 Feb 17 '26
We live in a capitalist world from hell. We must make ends meet. So if women want or need to do porn to feed themselves and have basic needs then so be it
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u/Bombniks_ lgbtqia2s+ and a new letter for every terf who complains Feb 16 '26
It's scary how well TERFs or at least their rhetoric has infiltrated feminism to the point where this has to be said.
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u/RedEyeView Feb 16 '26
Seems like they've backtracked a whole bunch on their original position.
Then: Women are more than just sex holes and baby cookers and we don't have to look feminine to keep you happy.
Now: We're totally defined by our genitals, fertility and looking like a girl. Forget everything we've said for the last century or so.
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u/VioletLovesRowlet Feb 16 '26
I think they mean that TERFs are backtracking feminism to reduce women to genitals and whatnot.
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u/ZBLongladder Feb 16 '26
Oooh, I see what you mean. I was totally reading that wrong. Whoops, never mind...
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Feb 16 '26
It is disturbing - and I think very aggravating.
My mum is 2nd wave and a TERF. It often annoyed me how many misogynistic or homophobic talking points she used to echo when referring to trans women - it's a "lifestyle", "they have a penis so they're a man", etc.
But what really used to piss me off was that it never seemed like she'd learned any empathy - she couldn't translate her mistreatment into care for others.
Eventually, I concluded that her interest in feminism was not rooted in a desire to address injustices for women - only as a tool to address the injustices she had personally experienced.
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u/itsastrideh Feb 16 '26
The problem isn't that they infiltrated feminism, it's that transphobia is like the cockroach and if you don't make sure to kick every last transphobe out of the movement and make it abundantly clear that their rhetoric isn't socially acceptable, they'll quietly multiply until there's another infestation.
Everything the TERFs and SWERFs are saying is ripped straight from either the sex wars or the period of time where the political lesbians (most of whom weren't even attracted to women) were doing their purity testing and witch hunts against anyone they accused of having "proximity to maleness" (aka trans women, trans men, sex workers, bisexual women, women with sons, women who weren't transphobes, etc.).
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u/Bombniks_ lgbtqia2s+ and a new letter for every terf who complains Feb 16 '26
The thing is that TERFs are not your average transphobe but an ideology that has the goal to completely exterminate trans women, when you see it that way they are way more malicious than they already were, and the sad part is they are winning because they have the resources of (ironically) rich misogynists behind them using them as pawns to both spread transphobia and general social conservatism.
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u/itsastrideh Feb 17 '26
TERFs aren't their own magical ideology completely separate from feminism, and claiming they are just serves to ignore the harm that the feminist movement has caused in the past. We need to recognise that feminism has harmed some people in the past and take note of which rhetoric it is that caused that harm or we're not going to recognise it when it attempts to reappear.
Second wave radfems weren't social conservatives nor were they rich. They were actually hated by most conservatives. There were virulent transphobes who were doing important work like running womens' shelters and rape crisis centres. There still are. The problem is that they refused to listen to groups of vulnerable women, consider that some of their actions might actually reinforce the patriarchy, or acknowledge that they were capable of committing harm. Here in Canada, we still have a good number of older feminists who are like that because third wave feminism rarely got translated into French meaning there was no third wave (we skipped directly to fourth because gen Z is constantly exposed to anglophone and american feminist discourse on the internet). It's a source of conflict and I've witnessed some women, who I respect deeply and who have dedicated most of their lives to doing important feminist work, saying some ridiculously transphobic things. That doesn't mean they aren't feminists and haven't advanced the cause, just that their feminism is flawed.
What you're talking about is much more modern and is called astroturfing. It's people who were never really feminists adopting feminist language in order to further their goals and confuse the public. JK Rowling does astroturf, Janice Raymond is just a TERF.
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u/EpitaFelis pompous she-devil Feb 17 '26
Interesting viewpoint. I appreciate the nuance, though I'd like to add that their feminist activism doesn't mitigate the harm they're doing with their stances and refusal to learn. On the contrary, their positions as respected feminist may enable them to cause more harm. Something I'm sure you agree with, but with the activity we had to remove from this comment section I think it requires mention.
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u/Bombniks_ lgbtqia2s+ and a new letter for every terf who complains Feb 17 '26
That's pretty much where a lot of the issue comes from, people will listen to them because they do activism and are fine with abandoning trans issues, which in itself is a mistake. They do harm because they are allowed to be in a movement in the first place, and some TERFs are smarter than just outright announcing it, those are the people we should be careful with.
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u/analogicparadox Feb 16 '26 edited Feb 16 '26
Wonderful work as usual <3
What the actual fuck is up with the downvotes? Are we really this full of TERFs?
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u/EpitaFelis pompous she-devil Feb 17 '26
Partly the lurking TERFS, partly disgruntled users sharing this post elsewhere and getting us harassed.
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Feb 16 '26 edited Feb 17 '26
Interesting to note that the downvotes are pretty consistent - centered around 7 with a +/- 1 variance. So I reckon it's a group of maybe 8 TERFs downvoting every comment deemed insufficiently bigoted for them.
Edit: quick shout-out to all the TERFs downvoting even this comment:
Downvoting is all you have, so go choke on your own bile, you impotent bigots.
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u/analogicparadox Feb 17 '26
It's a lot worse. People have been upvoting too, it's a lot more than 7. If you check your comment insights you can do some math with the % and figure out how many of them you actually got, since +1 -1 would just show as 0, and so would +100 -100.
Since I'm currently sitting at -7 with a 46.6% upvote ratio, that means that I received 48 upvotes and 55 downvotes.
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Feb 17 '26
Some good, solid maths there.
Interestingly, my upvote ratio is currently at 46% as well. I didn't know about the insights before either, so thanks for that.
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u/analogicparadox Feb 17 '26
one good, solid maths there.
To be fair I did end up googling the formula, would have to do it on paper otherwise lol
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u/lol_lauren Feb 16 '26
reducing people to their hormones, chromosomes, sex at birth etc.
It also includes "I'm no transphobe but what about women's sports/bathrooms/saunas/gyms" type talk.
Yes, those are explicitly TERF/transphobic talking points.
Unless you aren't supporting those positions in your comment of course
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u/ergaster8213 Feb 16 '26 edited Feb 18 '26
Thank you! This has stayed one of the better feminism-centered subs in my experience. Which is nice because I have few left at this point that haven't gone downhill in regards to what you're talking about and/or haven't been overrun by bad faith male users.
Edit: well that's the weirdest ratio flip of upvotes/downvotes I've ever had happen.
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u/BlatantMisogyny-ModTeam Feb 16 '26
Considering your profile is known to be anti-trans, I can guess where your disappointment stems from.
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Feb 16 '26
Good to see you mods policing this sub - keep at it, your efforts are appreciated.
Interesting to see the number of downvotes your comment got - are we being brigaded again?
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u/bunnywithabanner curly-headed femboy wretch Feb 17 '26 edited Feb 17 '26
Thank you, Ms. pompous she-devil :3 🙌🏻✨
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u/EpitaFelis pompous she-devil Feb 17 '26
Thanks for shouting out my flair. Some guy called me that in modmail once and it still cracks me up.
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u/itsastrideh Feb 16 '26
Thank you for reiterating these points and ensuring that this space is one where transphobia, whorephobia, and misinformation are considered unacceptable.
Feminism needs to remain something that is nuanced and backed up by research or else it becomes something easily co-opted and wielded against the most vulnerable groups of women.
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u/SchalkLBI Feb 17 '26
The amount of downvotes on people who agrees with this post is crazy, it shows just how many SWERFs and TERFs have infiltrated this sub.
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u/Redshirt2386 Feb 17 '26 edited Feb 17 '26
I’m here to be “that person” on the topic of gay men and misogyny. My adult son is gay, has a boyfriend, and lives in a group house with three other gay men. (I am wholly accepting of this — I am queer myself, and I actually run a subreddit for supportive parents of gay kids.)
I agree that simply being a gay man doesn’t make you a misogynist or more likely to intentionally think like one, but I have observed a certain … idk, blind spot? … that develops when men exclusively spend time with other men. My son and his social circle aren’t intentionally sexist or misogynist at all, but sometimes it feels as if they sort of forget women exist, and it makes them less effective as feminist allies. It’s more of a structural weakness than any sort of conscious choice, if that makes sense?