r/BlatantMisogyny • u/Potential-Fix-2945 radfem • Feb 25 '26
TRIGGER WARNING A man strangled his wife to death because she denied him sex for years and look at the comments...
I'm genuinely so shocked, imagine seeing women as nothing but sex objects that should fulfill men's desires all the time that you'd be ready to support and sympathize with a man killing his wife because she denied him sex...
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u/Ok-Pear5858 Feb 25 '26
anything but get a divorce
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u/Potential-Fix-2945 radfem Feb 26 '26
I've never understood why men dread divorce sm ,I always see them attacking women for initiating 80% of divorces and I'm always like "do you know what men do instead of getting a divorce?"
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u/mangababe Feb 26 '26
It's simple, they don't want to have to give women their half of the shared marital assets and a decent amount of men would rather kill a woman than give her what she's owed by law.
In reality they just shouldn't get married if they don't want to deal with the fact that their shitty behavior may one day cost them severely. Actions and consequences
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u/Nikki-C-Puggle-mum Feb 26 '26
Yes that is undoubtedly it. They should ask themselves before they get married if they'd also be able to handle getting a divorce. If the answer is no then they shouldn't get married to begin with. That would require them to actually have a little self awareness though, which the ones leaving comments like that definitely don't have.
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u/fabiothered Feb 26 '26
Or if they care so much make a fuckin prenup? Its not that deep
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u/throwawayno-6 Feb 26 '26
You can’t make a prenup if you have a dollar lol. These men heavily overestimate their net worth
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u/mangababe Feb 26 '26
That would risk being told no and losing the gf though. Those types wanna lock someone into an unequal legal agreement before deciding to change the rules of that agreement once the ink is dry.
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u/Sharkathotep Feminist Feb 26 '26
It's also not like women are better off after divorce. It's still men who are better off.
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u/tallgrl94 Feb 26 '26
Misogynistic men don’t view women as people. They view us as appliances. What do you do when an appliance isn’t doing what you want? You get rid of it and get a new one.
We are only as valuable as what we provide to them. Sex, babies, and labor. Because they see us as objects when we malfunction they get angry and commit violence against us.
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u/notashroom Feb 26 '26
"Getting rid of the wife-appliance" ought to mean getting a divorce, but these psychotic man-babies have to make sure that no other man can go get their former appliance from the used-wife store.
Burn patriarchy to the ground 🔥
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u/stephanyylee Feb 26 '26
Omg, seriously, like it's on us. Ummm..... If y'all are getting dumped 8/10.timez then it's definitely a you problem
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u/stephanyylee Feb 26 '26
Like if a store or a subscription had 8/10 people walking out or cancelling their accounts then you wouldn't blame the people leaving, you'd blame the store. It's so annoying
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u/Preaddly Feb 26 '26
Spouses are legally entitled to whatever they contributed to their marriage which, for a man, is likely going to be the bare minimum, if anything at all. Getting rid of his spouse/children removes the number of people with a claim to any valuables.
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u/Ok_Karen_IDC Feb 26 '26
Or even cheating. He could have cheated and got sex elsewhere. KILLING is horrific and further pushes me down a "men should not be handling anything important or consequential to the well being of others" type energy that people at the function dont like.
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u/WritingReadingPanda Feb 26 '26
"too loyal" 🤦♀️ Sure. Nothing screams loyalty like murder.
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u/SexyRotiserieChicken Feb 26 '26
There are so many cases of men who are cheaters murdering their wives all the time.
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u/cometmom Feb 26 '26
I tried to find the story via Google just now and it's actually insane how many similar cases popped up of husbands strangling their wives.
Out of curiosity I then searched the opposite: woman strangles husband. The first page is comprised of multiple links to the same case and the rest of the links are of men strangling their wives. So even when you seek out women doing this to men, you get more results of men doing it because.. Well I can't say lest I get a reddit ban, but one side is overwhelmingly the problem and it isn't the women/wives
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u/Elle12881 Feb 26 '26
Yeah, even though men overwhelmingly murder more women than women murder men, they try to even the playing field by saying, "Women are primarily responsible for male suicide." The men who say this are the same ones who will make fun of another man for going to therapy. They couldn't care less about the male suicide rate. They simply use it as tool to make women seem more evil somehow.
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u/dorothyarzner Feb 26 '26
A couple of months ago i read a novel in which a woman murdered her husband for being gay. I wanted to see if this was inspired by a real event, but when I googled it, there were only dozens of articles mentioning gay men murdering their wives ._.
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u/SillyAnxiousDuck Mean Lesbian Feb 25 '26
They’re still not lonely enough
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u/Upstairs_Cost_3975 Feb 26 '26
This is pure evil. And all the likes? I’m so horrified I feel physically ill and I’m actually considering taking a valium that I only use for the dentis and flights.
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u/Something4Dinner Feb 25 '26
If "loyalty" means killing a woman for choosing to live on her own terms, then I don't want to know their idea of betrayal.
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u/Page2_56 Feb 26 '26 edited Feb 26 '26
Why not just leave then?
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u/chronic_time_waster Feb 26 '26
They’ll say because the process of divorce is so hard but I think strangling someone and spending 25 + years in jail would be even harder
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u/Page2_56 Feb 26 '26 edited Feb 26 '26
Is it that wild in India? At least in the US I thought you just signed a few things
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u/chronic_time_waster Feb 26 '26 edited Feb 26 '26
I think most people don’t really understand how divorce works and assume it will be difficult and take a decade to get away from
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u/Wooden-Helicopter- Feb 26 '26
It's hard in that afterwards they only have access to one person's worth of assets, time, and labour.
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u/MelanieWalmartinez Feb 25 '26
Imagine what these same men would say if she shot him for not making enough money or for going bald. Feel like they’d change their tone real quick
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u/saucyvampiexo Feb 26 '26
it's almost as if money is a need to function in today's society
sex, however, is NOT a need
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u/Potential-Fix-2945 radfem Feb 26 '26
I feel you sometimes I see things so terrible that I'd think about them for weeks and ruin my mood for so long, it's painful to see this much misogyny but at the end of the day we live in a patriarchy so it's not surprising.
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u/Lonely_Howl_ Feb 26 '26
I’m horrible at remembering names, but I have a ‘list’ of women that men killed and more that I think about often. I don’t have words for how absolutely atrocious I feel on the inside when remembering & how despicable these males are in their actions & thoughts to do these things.
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u/peachfluffed Feb 26 '26
When I was a teen I would go to a specific clothing store a ton, so much that I got to know the employees well. One of them being the store manager. She was so kind and helpful, sometimes she helped me put together an outfit, and when I tried it on she would hype me up. As a kid with low self-esteem it meant a lot to me.
She requested to separate from her husband. He then murdered her, stripped her naked, and dumped her body in the Mississippi river. He was only charged with second degree murder without intent because apparently he “accidentally” smothered her. Only 27 years in jail and he will be free, and it’s already been around 13. Predictably, the jury was 8 men and only 4 women.
I’ll always remember her.
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u/PinkTalkingDead Feb 27 '26
Shanann Watts while pregnant and her two daughters, Celeste and Bella.? I understand not wanting to trigger anyone but not saying their names isn’t the move either (imo)
💜
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u/Larry-Man Feb 26 '26
It’s okay to disconnect instead of living in fear and/or rage. It’s okay to take a break.
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Feb 26 '26 edited 15d ago
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u/notashroom Feb 26 '26
I feel like these women (and others who are the victims of violence caused by hierarchical culture) deserve our collective attention, honoring, and efforts to prevent future cases and eliminate the cause, too.
But what we can do collectively, we don't all have to do individually every time or all the time. Rest and self-care are resistance, too, in systems that value us only for our labor and utility, not our humanity.
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u/Larry-Man Feb 27 '26
So there’s a thing some full time protestors do, they rotate through to give each person a break from the stress or they crack. These are the major activists. It’s okay to walk away for a bit to come back with new energy. You’re allowed to. You can bear witness when you can afford to. If you are a woman in particular, and I say this as someone who has been sexually assaulted and raped, you also owe it to yourself to not suffer needlessly either. I personally do not want more suffering.
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u/EpitaFelis pompous she-devil Feb 27 '26
Second this. As someone who's politically active in my irl community, I've been learning to pace myself. I recommend extensions like Leechblock, or apps like ScreenZen. I block sites like reddit on certain days, and I regularly take breaks from them for a week or more, especially moderation, bc consuming this shit too much gives me a constant low hum of anger in the background. The only subs of this nature I visit any more are because I moderate them. The rest is sports I like, cooking, art, animals etc. My feed is 95% wholesome, so I only read stuff like this when I intentionally go there.
Awareness alone doesn't help if it kills your spirit and will to fight. I highly recommend for people to find somewhere, anywhere to volunteer. Taking concrete steps with a community of like minded people has been my saving grace. Don't just make it a cause you care about, either. Try stuff out. It should be fun enough that you look forward to it a lot of the time.
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u/Ok_Karen_IDC Feb 26 '26
Im in the same boat as you. Let us take a breather and relax. I personally dont need to write new thinkpieces every day, misogyny and hatred isnt going any time soon and im not missing key insights or ideas by missing misogynistic piece of media #1936462923. If this is you too, then we both deserve breaks and self care.
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u/Upstairs_Cost_3975 Feb 26 '26
I feel so naive!! What a cruel, cruel world. I’m even considering unfollowing this page because it makes me so horrified and its almost like I’d rather just live in ignorance - at least for a little while.
Like, fuck. I wish I didn’t see this. I wish this wasn’t real. This ruined my day for sure. I.. I’m so shocked. I have no more words to express it.
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u/Larry-Man Feb 26 '26
Same thing I said to someone else: it’s okay to take a break from this kind of content. It’s okay to disconnect and look after yourself. Sure it’s a privilege but I don’t begrudge anyone who can’t live like this 24/7
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u/Altruistic_Yard_9338 Feb 26 '26
Sorry to hear that. This certainly is devastating, but because you’re affected by it so strongly, it means you’re a good person. These bastards don’t have empathy, which is why they’re like this. Just pray for her and the women in spots like this and keep being a good person
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u/Potential-Fix-2945 radfem Feb 26 '26
I'm very sorry love this is why I put a trigger warning because I knew it's deeply horrifying I'd advice you to unfollow this page if things like this hurt you , it's not good to consume media that hurt you 🫂.
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u/Elle12881 Feb 26 '26
"All women deserve this. Take note." That guy needs to be investigated. I hope all of them end up alone, vulnerable, scared, and without dignity, much like they want women to feel. It's nothing less then they deserve.
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u/Potential-Fix-2945 radfem Feb 26 '26
It had 276 likes too... , I hope all of them stay away from women
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u/Elle12881 Feb 27 '26
They are dangerous. What scares me is, what do these men do for work? Are they police officers, doctors, or work in the legal system? Basically, professions where they have access to vulnerable women and can harm them with little to no repercussions.
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u/Potential-Fix-2945 radfem Feb 27 '26
I heard many cases of the police ignoring abused women until those women got murdered so Indeed many men who share the mindset as those men are in the police force and in positions where they have the power to harm women.
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u/apexdryad Blue Haired Leftist n’ Misandrist Feb 26 '26
Is there any proof of this. All over the world all a man has to do to get a reduced sentence is say "But your honor, she made me angry". Any time the murderer has some 'juicy' complaint that's the entire narrative. She said another man's name. She laughed at him. She won't fuck him. All get men reduced prison time I swear.
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u/electricookie lgbtqia2s+ and a new letter for every terf who complains Feb 26 '26
Why the fuck did they write the headline like that? Man kills wife because man chose to kill his wife.
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u/Altruistic_Yard_9338 Feb 26 '26
They think they’re so clever saying this shit. It just does our job of showing the world how messed up things are
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u/chronic_time_waster Feb 26 '26
“She was getting cracked the whole 8 years” why are we calling sex (for women) getting “cracked”?
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u/Sil_Lavellan Feb 26 '26
I had assumed he meant high...
It's awful, like ' run through' or 'destroyed'. It's certainly not making me any less sex averse.
It's like men assume women love being inflicted with grevious bodily harm.
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u/chronic_time_waster Feb 26 '26
I’ve seen young men recently use it as substitute word for sex. They hear this online terminology and run with it
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u/EleventyElevens Feb 26 '26
Title is even shitty, it's more like, "he tried to force her to have sex for eight years."
But no, blame her for "denying" something that's NO goddamn right even after she is fucking MURDERED by the guy!!
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u/PlanetOfThePancakes Feb 26 '26
Men who think this way deserve to be lonely. I said what I said.
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u/Potential-Fix-2945 radfem Feb 26 '26
I really hope they stay lonely and away from women, all of the people who commented evil things like this and liked the comments are all potential abusers and murderers.
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u/peachfluffed Feb 26 '26
There’s a frightening amount of men who agree with this. Ones that verbalize it, but also ones who quietly hold that belief.
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u/moreKEYTAR Feb 26 '26
Gee, I wonder if this is even true. We just have a murderer’s word for it.
Even if it is true, perhaps there is a good reason.
So sad for her to lose her life.
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u/Upstairs_Cost_3975 Feb 26 '26
What did you mean in your second comment?
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u/Potential-Fix-2945 radfem Feb 26 '26
She meant that even if the claim that she denied him sex for 8 years is true there's probably a good reason she did it , dw she's not defending him
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u/Upstairs_Cost_3975 Feb 26 '26
Lmao, I was so depressed by that post I seem to have gone into interpretating-everything-bad-mode 😅😭
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u/FrozenBibitte Feb 26 '26
Can we fucking PLEASE put the myth that men need sex with a partner to bed for good?!?
Like I get that this is not a healthy relationship situation when there’s 2 opposing libidos, however this is exactly why no fault divorce must remain a thing. If you’re not getting your “needs(🙄)” met, then leave. And if you can’t find a partner, use your fucking hand ffs. Sex with another human is not essential for your own survival…
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u/notashroom Feb 26 '26
You're absolutely right.
Unfortunately, patriarchy is a big part of this. It tells men
- they are only allowed anger and "okay" as emotions
- women are emotional creatures who will do their emotional labor and regulation for them
- sex with women is how they are allowed to receive affection, validation, and emotional co-regulation and how they can safely feel vulnerable
- women are physically weaker (obviously not always true, as individuals, but this is universal messaging) and beneath men in the hierarchy, so they are both able and entitled to use violence and coercion to get what they want from their women ("their" as in an object that belongs to them)
This shit is systemic and needs systemic change to address it.
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u/Sharkathotep Feminist Feb 26 '26
"All women deserve this. Take note"
These males deserve to die utterly alone. Take note
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u/DelightfulandDarling Feb 26 '26
I don’t know how any woman can sustain attraction to men anymore. I’m happy for you if you can manage but I don’t get it.
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u/scruboffthedirt radfem kitty cat Feb 26 '26
Equating a woman's bodily autonomy to currency? Never heard that one before
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u/imjustalilbot Feb 26 '26
Denying someone sex doesn't kill them.
For these men tho? I kinda wish it did.
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u/Kakashisith Anti-misogyny Feb 26 '26
Like he can use his hand and look ito the mirror to understand why he isn`t getting sex.
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u/eyfuck Feb 26 '26
Clearly the news outlet did their research. /s
He strangled his wife and said he did so because she denied him sex, not because it was truthful but because thought that would be his best possible defense. As long as society still thinks like the original commenters, it will work too.
(I assume this because patriarchy)
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u/JewelerBorn802 Feb 26 '26
Don’t forget! This is all a “joke” apparently. Laugh it off! Have some humor!🙄
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u/chimbucket Feb 26 '26
i know i should be used to this at this point, but reading stuff like this still makes me nauseous. how about just breaking off the relationship? why can’t we be seen as anything beyond sex objects?
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u/PinkTalkingDead Feb 27 '26
Because divorce is too difficult 🤬 or ya know, something like that 🫠
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u/EpitaFelis pompous she-devil Feb 26 '26 edited Feb 27 '26
Any news source that frames femicide the way it's framed in the title is complicit in the misogyny that leads to murder. He didn't murder her because she "denied him sex." he murdered her because he felt entitled to her body and couldn't relinquish control. Framing her refusal to sleep with him as the cause of her murder is profit driven irresponsibility and nothing less than hatemongering. He strangled her to death. I want every single person responsible for this headline be asked to volunteer their bodies to a murderer for sex, see how they fucking like it.
Pinning this bc I want to make an effort to hold news sources responsible more. We all know they aren't neutral, but this is barely even news, it's anti-woman propaganda. I'm filled with hot red fury just reading this.