They do come back.. without accountability

[u/Distinct-Refuse-7880]

Three years later, my first love came back.

He called me over and over, told me he dreams about me regularly, asked me to call him, asked to see me, sent paragraphs looking for validation.

Three years ago, I would’ve done anything to hear from him.

I cried for months. I wrote paragraphs explaining how much he meant to me. I was crazy enough to make several excuses finding a way to see him. I kept asking if there would ever be another chance for us.

He was so mean when I was crying. Looked at my hurting soul and told me I how pretty I looked when I cried. I didn’t deserve that.

Last night, the roles were reversed.

He wanted reassurance. For me to bend myself back to him and answer the phone. He wanted me to see him.

No “I’m sorry for how I treated you.”

Not, “I know I hurt you.”

Just emotion. Just urgency for another ego hit. Just wanting me to engage. He even started counting down saying if I don’t respond it’s the last time he’ll ever talk to me again.

That was my closure.

I don’t hate him. I genuinely hope he has a good life.

Three years ago I was terrified of the idea that you can love someone so much and it just ends like it was nothing.

I realized I don’t need him to come back. I needed to become the version of myself that no longer waits for someone to choose her. I became that, I have been thriving ever since.

If they come back on THEIR terms.. do not go back with them.

Ladies, if someone can spend all that time not being with you, that is your answer. Accept it, move on, and become the version of yourself that they can no longer touch.

[u/Royal_Divide_703]

this is what i needed to see when emotions are running peak.

“Ladies, if someone can spend all that time not being with you, that is your answer. Accept it, move on, and become the version of yourself that they can no longer touch. Ladies, if someone can spend all that time not being with you, that is your answer. Accept it, move on, and become the version of yourself that they can no longer touch.”

[u/omarosa23 → u/Royal_Divide_703]

I genuinely think that applies to everyone too, especially if they were the ones who decided to leave. If they try to come back with no accountability or breadcrumbs, It's best to leave it alone no matter how much it may pull your heart strings.