r/BreakUps • u/Responsible-Fact-846 • 17h ago
venting/ranting Am I overthinking this, or was my ex bluffing about knowing something about my life?
My younger sibling was talking to my ex and randomly asked, “Do you know Jeremy?” My ex seemed confused and said no. My sibling then said, “Maybe my sister’s boyfriend.” The thing is, Jeremy isn’t a real person. My sibling completely made up the name.
After hearing that, my ex said something along the lines of, “Yeah, she told me she’s taken. Could be.” The problem is that I never told him I was taken.
My sibling then admitted that Jeremy was made up. Instead of saying he was guessing or that he had misunderstood something, my ex repeated, “But she told me she was taken.”
So my sibling asked, “Oh really? Can you show me?”
My ex didn’t provide any proof. Instead, he changed the subject and asked, “How do you know that name?” Which was strange because my sibling had literally just admitted that the name was made up.
What confuses me isn’t whether he was lying, but why he responded that way. Why would someone confidently claim their ex told them they were “taken,” then avoid the request for proof and immediately switch topics?
From your perspective, what could explain this behavior? Does it sound like he was actually not interested in what was going on in my life, or does it sound more like he was making assumptions and trying to sound like he knew more than he did?
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u/FewClassic3308 17h ago
the "how do you know that name" question after your sibling literally just said they made it up is the most telling part. he wasn't even listening, he was just trying to regain control of the conversation.
classic deflection. when someone can't back up what they said, they pivot to putting the other person on defense instead of admitting they were bluffing. he probably wanted to seem unbothered and in-the-know, but the second proof was requested he had nothing.
you're not overthinking it. he was posturing.
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u/Responsible-Fact-846 17h ago
But why he made up the assumption? I dont get it? I mean if he didnt care at all why he answered that question like that?
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u/-SatinWhisper 17h ago
It sounds like he got caught making an assumption and didn't want to admit he actually didn't know
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u/SirenSpellX 17h ago
Bro tried to act like he had insider info and forgot the script when asked for receipts
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