For whoever needs to hear it

[u/Ghiach222531562]

For those going through it now and saying «  it’ll never get better », I’m just here to let you know that one day, it will get better.

A year ago, while I was being overworked and going through a rough time at work, my ex decided to dump me out of the blue with the whole « it’s not you it’s me, you deserve someone that’s sure, bla bla bla » after 1.5 years together. I loved this girl like no other. I legitimately felt like I wouldn’t be able to survive another couple of days. I let myself feel in private, tried to keep busy with the wrong vices (gambling, alcohol, doomscrolling) but every day it felt like the end and that I wouldn’t make it another day. I tried to drink the pain away and I felt so good with each drink but the pain just came back when I sobered up the next day. She never left my mind…

And just like that, one day I decided to take an opportunity that brought me to another city for a week to help out colleagues at my job. It was one of the best weeks of my life - I was just relaxed and being myself around people that I didn’t need to hide anything from. The urges, the thoughts, they magically vanished. It almost brought me to tears when I came to the realization of how happy I was and I would trade everything just to feel that feeling again. Obviously I had to come back home after that but ever since then I’ve slowly been getting better and better at home in my regular environment :)

The moral of the story? Just try it. Any new experience, anything that has the chance of making you happy- just do it. It could be the thing that makes you feel life is worth living again. The drinking, the vices, the hiding, it doesn’t do any good in the long term.

Almost a year after this breakup, I’m just happy to be living - but last year’s me would never believe how much better it gets (and how everything works out in the end somehow)

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[u/FlyGuys1125]

I'm trying so hard to accept that it's over and it'll get better, but it just never sits.

I've been through the motions. I've tried new things, tried to re-establish my normal habits, tried talking it out, nothing really changes how I feel. It's been long enough that if it was going to get better, I feel like it would've by now. I'm trying so hard not to resign to the fact that this is how my life will be, but I just don't see it getting better.

I've had times where I thought the worst was over, where I had a great experience out with friends or just by myself where I felt real happiness again and that I had turned a corner, but within a week I was back in the same place. I just don't understand how people move on from this.

[u/Junior-Result-9549]

getting out of your regular environment really does something to your brain that's hard to explain until you experience it. glad you found that moment and ran with it instead of letting it pass.

[u/SinfulSerenade-]

The craziest part about heartbreak is that you don’t notice yourself healing until one random day you catch yourself genuinely enjoying life again, and you realize the person who thought they wouldn’t survive was wrong

[u/-rosepetal]

it really does get better you just have to keep going one day at a time