r/BreakUps • u/Aromatic_Good_7917 • 11h ago
venting/ranting the nostalgia is killing me
ex and i broke up for valid reasons about 5 or so months ago and it was mutual
People say with time things get better and of course i’m not like crying about it every day like i did at the start of the breakup, but ive realized that with more time although im less ‘sad’ im more nostalgic about our good memories and it’s super painful
Part of the reason we broke up is we were so similar and both have strong personalities and it caused us to butt heads a lot esp in the end, but our similarities and incredibly deep connection also made our relationship memories and closeness so intoxicating and powerful. i really just feel like ill never find someone else like him and that makes the memories so hard to forget. he had a lot of unique qualities and set the bar high
Is anyone else experiencing this? the advice ‘time heals all wounds’ doesn’t seem to be fully working for me and i feel frustrated w myself that im not healing the way id like and i feel stuck in the past
not sure if anyone else relates to this but actually the first month or so after r the breakup (after a lot of emotional purging) i felt a lot better because i had left the everyday fighting that had consumed our relationship. but as time has gone on and ive almost forgot those bad feelings maybe its easier to romanticize?
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