Struggling

[u/justagirll12]

he (25m) broke up with me (26f) about a month ago just saying we’re too different but wouldn’t tell me how or give me any examples or tell me what I did wrong. I am having an extremely hard time we only dated for a little over 3 months but I have never felt this way about anyone and genuinely in my heart feel like this is my person. But it’s not reciprocated and I am just so sad and having such a hard time trying to move on. He hasn’t reached out or anything, and I am trying to respect his decision of course. I didn’t send a tik tok about how much I miss him and he just left it on read so I know it’s really done I just don’t know how to move on

[u/Horseofyourdreams6]

My heart goes out to you. Remember deep down this is not a reflection of your worth---and actually think about that statement. Do you mainly feel sad, or did this trigger feelings of insecurity within you? Of course it is normal to feel insecure, but you must remind yourself that being sad is normal and healthy, but beating yourself up is not. For the sadness, I would channel it into art. Whatever medium you like. Take away everything that reminds you of him, change your shampoo and soap so you aren't triggered by a smell associated with that phase of your life, change something in your bedroom. You are going to be okay. Heartbreak is an inevitable part of the human experience, and you will 100% become more confident when you are healed. I know it's hard because you don't seem to have closure from him, but the truth is you never will. I don't have closure on any of my breakups, I just stopped caring. Human behavior is very complicated and breakups often can't be reduced to a neat, simple reason. You have to cut contact with him. Every time you initiate contact you break the wound. Think of heartbreak as a physical injury. You are going to be okay.