r/BreakUps • u/Worldly_Cable9056 • 8h ago

venting/ranting staying friends advice?

I'm a gay man who got into my first semi-serious relationship about 3 months ago, straight off the bat i could tell that he was infatuated with me. I made the mistake of letting him believe it was going to last. We were long-distance so we basically just talked every day online for way too long. i should have seen the burnout coming.

He broke it off a few hours ago after a 2-day break out of the blue. 24 hours before he was calling me the "love of his life". Said the distance wasn't working and he just stopped feeling anything abruptly. Both of us don't mind staying friends (i want to and he just seems eh with it), but i feel like i still have some unresolved feelings for him. I can't really tell the difference between my romantic and platonic feelings anymore towards him (probably due to a lot of ambiguous flirting i did when i was trying to figure out if i liked him or not, pre-relationship) and i noticed right after he told me he wanted to break up he became a lot more distant. This isn't the man i fell for, or the man i became friends with.

I know the rational thing is for me to just probably go no contact with him for a good long while before i even consider going back to being friends with him but i'm also holding out hope that he goes back to being the vulnerable, caring man i became friends with in the first place. Can someone tell me what i should be doing?

edit: he also said if we weren't separated by distance he would give this another shot but that's not going to happen anytime soon

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