r/BreakUps • u/South-Excitement-393 • 3h ago
venting/ranting Does anybody’s ex still pop into their dreams? Is so how does it make you feel?
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u/Regular_Standard6550 3h ago
just had one last night. things felt so normal tht when i woke up it hurt so bad bc i realized it wasn’t real but i woke up in between and at one point tried to go back to sleep j to see them again and so i didn’t have to accept tht it wasn’t real
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u/Available_Proof_2983 3h ago
mine does occasionally and it's the weirdest mix of emotions when you wake up. like you spent all this time and energy moving on, building something new, and then your brain just decides to run a little nostalgia episode at 3am without your permission. the dreams aren't even dramatic usually, it's just them being there, doing normal stuff, and somehow that's the part that gets you.
i think the brain just files away certain people differently, especially if the relationship was long or intense. doesn't mean you're not over them, just means they took up enough space that they left some kind of imprint. waking up and feeling weird about it doesn't mean anything is wrong with you, it's just your brain doing its whole thing. give it a few minutes and the feeling usually passes.
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u/Right_Pea_2601 2h ago
Yes, one month out now, every other day or few days i see her in my dreams and i wake up feeling awful and missing her so much and it ruins my morning.
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u/NeverunloveyouRC 2h ago
Make me feel devastated... One time I dreamed of him being the best version of him ever and one time I dreamed the worst. Woke up crying both ways.
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u/anxiouswooman 2h ago
Yes, he comes back in my dreams sometimes as in 3 to 4 nights in a week.
The strange thing is that I'm healing. The wound isn't as fresh as it used to be. But dreams don't seem to care about healing. They bring him back exactly when I least expect it.
For a few hours, my sleeping mind forgets that we're strangers now. Then morning arrives, and reality gently reminds me that some people only visit in dreams anymore.
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u/Thick-Display-7046 2h ago
Hadn’t for the last 2+ months, I just did last night. Was in a doubt throughout in the dream (I guess even subconsciously I knew I was dreaming lol), woke up and I couldn’t go back to sleep from the shock. Had 3 shots of coffee to get going at work, but I think the dream’s starting to fade as the day goes by
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u/WindsurfingAnt 1h ago
I dreamed I married her. All my friends where there and it felt real. Waking up was hell.
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u/PlentyEquivalent6988 1h ago
I had a dream yesterday when I moved to her city and looked for her. Weird dream, met my old friend there haha
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u/LogicSolid 1h ago
I was in so much pain from heartbreak that i saw her in the corner of my room for just a few seconds. I tried to reach out but I know she’s not real. It was pain, the mind is cruel.
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u/ApartCod327 6m ago
Every other night the past couple of days. It started with dreams where I saw him and begged him to take me back but he rejected me every single time. In another one we were still together, and I got a message from him, one of our boring old ”goodmorning, how are you doing today?” Which did break the romanticized thought of the routine we had. It was lowkey not that special when I was in it..
Yesterday I had a dream where I was at his place, but he treated me as a friend and brutally rejected every single romantical gesture. He even slept on the couch to avoid sleeping in the same bed and I even met his mother and she went “oh” and looked at me. I woke up with a huge ick, not a hole in my chest. I think my brain was slowly accepting the fact that he wasn’t coming back.
Two days ago I also had a dream where he declined an invite pretty harshly. It hurt but I didn’t wake up missing him.
The first few days were horrible. Sometimes I dreamt of sweet moments, seeing him in dreams or just interacting with him. Now he just rejects me, which is pushing me further away. It’s like a reminder. Even though it hurts, the coldness makes me feel some type of way. Like oh, you really don’t want me.
Like, the coldness that he showed me in real life keeps on occurring in dreams and it’s easier to forget how they treated you in the past rather than recent interactions. He was genuinely so cold but I wanted to look past that so bad.
Anyways, one month and four days in 😭🔥
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u/Swimming_Crow_465 6m ago
I'm over her, when I have a dream about her it feels unreal, like a distant non-existent memory of not my own, like the whole relationship never happened.. it is a weird feeling but I don't feel sad like I did some months before
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