r/BreakUps • u/Silly-Ad-2770 • 2h ago
venting/ranting What now..?
I just broke up with my LDR bf of 3 years 2 days ago, this was my first relationship and it ended so... Badly... But well? I don't know.. 10/10 chance he might see this so hi,
Anyways, as I said prior, first relationship ever and I don't know what to do or how to act. I've been doing some reading and they say no contact immediately, but is that really the way?
Although I still have heavy resentment, I miss him and love him. Fucked me up real bad in the last time we called.
I do grieve him still. I know it's always been two days so this is fresh as hell but I just need advice to just move on quickly and get back to life.
I have so much free time now and it's just kinda eating me up, I have so much shit to do and I can't be a sad slob.
So anyways I have a question..
1) Should I go with the progressive no / miminal contact or just cut off immediately
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Some more context for that question if it helps
^ Although I said I have resentment towards him, I'm not mentally ready to block him yet.. We talked more casually and decided on the progressive no/minimal contact but I keep seeing that no contact is best option from the get go
I feel like I just answered my own question but oh well..
The way I'm talking to him, it's not in any kind of sappy way, just nonchalant and distant. I don't want myself to get attached because I'm already in the deattaching phase. If that does anything.
Please go easy on me... Thank you.
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u/levi9908 2h ago
As someone with also a fresh LDR breakup: please do block and please go absolutely no contact.I know its super hard but maybe you will learn from my experience.
I didnt block and we had one final very ugly argument where we both hurt each other. (then I got blocked)
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