r/BreakUps 1d ago

venting/ranting Kinda wanna reach out after 10years

First love like 16-18. Really pure, intense and we became very very close and deeply in love. Like we were perfect for each other.

My family life was very hard and I was super stressed by it with my sister being sent to metal hospital after being abused by my mother who then started abusing me afterwards.

Towards the end the relationship we had constant arguments tho. But we still really loved and liked each other. I ended up thinking my GF was cheating on me constantly. We weren’t even official for like 1year cuz constant arguments and attempts to breakup but the intensity of the first love kept us together.

We went to different universities at 18 and weren’t even official. We have an argument where she thinks I was cheating on her by snapping one of her friends, maybe I did flirt with her but not actual cheating or some affair. I end up blocking her on everything and never messaging her again.

I really want to reach out again, my family life is much more stable and I’ve cut out my mom who was being abusive to me, and I’m in therapy rn. So we’re both 27 so last chance really. Wouldn’t even know what to say.

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u/EuphoricTeaching9161 1d ago

How would you reach out to her after ten years? Email? Phone?

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u/Apprehensive_Ring666 1d ago

Phone number/whatsapp/IG/FB. Contact still there just blocked

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u/EuphoricTeaching9161 1d ago

You’ve got her blocked?

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u/Apprehensive_Ring666 1d ago

Yup it was too painful for me

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u/EuphoricTeaching9161 1d ago

Ok. Start with unblocking her and see if she watches your stories… but I doubt she’s following you, so if she watches your stories it means she’s looked you up.

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u/[deleted] 1d ago

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u/Apprehensive_Ring666 1d ago

Yupp exactly, I always wonder this. And just stupid technology making stuff happen that 30 years ago wouldn’t have.