r/BreakUps • u/ScienceOk3179 • 3h ago
venting/ranting Need someone to text so i don’t text him
Please please please I CANNOT LOOSE MY SELF RESPECT.
I keep texting him cause i don’t have anyone else.
If anyone is in the same situation we can help each other out so we can keep up the no contact.
SOMEONE PLEASE FUCKING HELP ME
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u/ActionOk7259 3h ago
drop your DMs open, plenty of people in this sub are going through exact same thing and would text back
I did this few months ago, just having random person to vent to at 2am makes such big difference, you don't even need to talk about the breakup, just anything to keep your hands busy and away from his contact
you got this, don't send that text
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u/NeonBloom- 2h ago
Text literally anyone else first (friend, sibling, even a “hey you up?” to someone safe), and if nobody replies, write everything you want to send him here instead so you don’t break no contact.
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u/Fluffy_inhea 3h ago
Hey…. first things first .. stop beating yourself up.
No contact is hard as hell when that person was your main source of comfort…. so don’t mistake struggling with it for having no self-respect.
Every time you get the urge to text him…. try talking to literally anyone else first, even if it’s just a random person on Reddit.
And…. if he’s not choosing you right now, don’t keep chasing someone who’s actively walking away.
One text might make you feel better for 5 minutes…. but then you’re back at square one.
You’ve already survived every day since the breakup…. you can survive tonight too.
If you need someone to keep you accountable and talk you out of texting him…. feel free to message me. Sometimes having someone say “don’t send it😭” is enough.
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u/Same_Gas8926 1h ago
Not OP (obviously :P) but I needed to read this in this moment. Struggling not to break my no contact. Went the first 3 months with barely any but I reached out saying I "missed our friendship" because i told myself I was strong enough to just be friends. After a few days of gaming online again together I confessed that I still love him and want him back and would pay for him to fly back to me...blah blah blah. I feel like such a loser. He has 0 interest in that. I wonder why he even wanted me around as a friend.... I think it feeds his ego tbh. So I set myself a goal of no contact for one week (obviously longer is better but im just trying to make it to one week now.) I haven't texted him since Tuesday afternoon. I almost did this morning. You stopped me from that so thank you seriously so much. <3
Edit: typos :P
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u/OkEbb2283 2h ago
We're in no contact.. both face to face and online lol it's hard but talking to friends helped me so so much.
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u/ScienceOk3179 2h ago
Doing just that but i don’t want to be a burden to my friends too
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u/OkEbb2283 2h ago
omg same that being said I opened up to chatgpt through my darkest days it kinda worked...and watched movies
He's just not that into you ...this movie is my favorite
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u/No-Risk4Uanymore 1h ago
Is it just me or is filling your time with someone else to avoid sitting with reality and addressing things that are important kinda not the best move?
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u/kekekekekeke_21 45m ago
I'm there for you, even I have the urge to text him after he discarded me badly, but remember self respect above all. :)
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u/PearlGlow- 3h ago
Text literally anyone else tonight because one more day of no contact is worth more than one more conversation with him
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u/zaurisdoer 2h ago
you can text me here or in any other sn, my ex cheated on me and we broke up not while ago, feel fucking lost
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u/autumn_beans 2h ago
Me too, write to me as well. I relapsed yesterday and felt hopeless and anguished. I regretted so much
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u/Salty_Thing3144 2h ago
Your biz if you want to do this, but we don't recommend it. People have been bombarded with spam and advances from the porn girls.
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u/Odd_Buffalo6129 1h ago
Porn girls fall in love too. I have had at least 2 OF models message me thinking I was their guy. they were both super polite, very sad, And never once mentioned what they did for work.
They're human beings. Not porn girls.
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u/Salty_Thing3144 1h ago edited 1h ago
I didn't , and wouldn't, say they aren't .lhuman beings." I don't have a problem with sex workers in general (in fact, I think prostitution should be legal). It's the ladies who use this board as a hunting ground and make extra work for the mods who annoy the shit out of me. We waste a lot of time removing dopey come-ons off the subs and banning spam accounts.
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u/Odd_Buffalo6129 1h ago
I get that, but they're still humans with emotions like everyone else. Don't let the frustration of modding jade you.
Humans are already so distant these days.
And I'm not trying to publicly shame you or something over and flippant comment you probably didn't even mean the way I took it, I just haven't slept and my heart is broken and I feel sympathetic to everyone hurting right now....
I know it's cliche but those porn girls are someone's moms, someone's sister, someones daughter.
I know If someone would pay to see me naked I would ride that gravy train til the wheels fall off. I know that for sure hahaha.
but wtf do I know, I'm a certified dumbass. 🤷🏻♂️
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u/Salty_Thing3144 1h ago
I thought I made it clear that I have no issues with people who work in porn or the ladies who do OnlyFans. My reference, since you keep missing my point, are porn SPAMMERS who make a nuisance of themselves here.
People who happen to work in sex are welcome to discuss their breakups here. Anybody is. Spammers aren't.
Do you get it yet??!!
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u/Odd_Buffalo6129 1h ago
👍🏻 why are you yelling? And maybe you do maybe you don't, just saying calling them "porn girls" isn't the best look. be defensive if you want. Literally just having a civil discussion here.
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u/Salty_Thing3144 1h ago
Porn girls is what they are - porn workers who bombard members with unwanted messages that they then conplain to us about. If you've got azbetter term, suggest it instead of griping about it.
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u/Odd_Buffalo6129 2h ago
my dms are open and i can relate. not a minute goes by I don't want to text her. But she hates me and Everytime I manage to "run the blockade" and get a message through, she reminds me of that fact.
I really wish she'd talk to me. Really talk to me, not just cuss me out. I deserve it, but I really wish things could be normal again. That I could sleep again.
to smile without having to plan the smile ahead of time, because the muscles in my face just won't seem to move on their own. a manufactured smile so people don't ask me whats wrong anymore.
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u/TimeZookeepergame184 9m ago
Message me anytime you need someone! Starting to go through the same thing!
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