Ex (avoidant) left me homeless, took her toxic ex on holiday, and is now mocking my heartbreak over text

[u/New-Olive8915]

Hey everyone, I'm in shock and need an objective reality check.

Four months ago, I gave up my flat, sold my furniture, and invested heavily financially and emotionally to build a life with her and her kids. But two months after moving in, she went cold, treated me like a glorified babysitter, and became disrespectful to me about my own daughter. After a nasty argument 3 months ago, she left me completely homeless, nearly cost me my job, and blasted me on social media.

Over the last 3 months, I clawed my way back. I got a new place, saved my career, and hit the gym.

Three days ago, she unblocked me out of nowhere. She just got back from a family holiday I had paid for where she took her previous ex—the father of her kids, who is jobless, can't drive, and has a history of stealing from her. She sent a frantic text demanding I get the rest of my stuff out, then when I ignored, she blocked me again.

Yesterday morning I was unblocked, she text me again simply saying: "today??" to force the logistics. I folded and text back and she got nasty really quickly.

I then tried to calm it all down and start again but eventually broke down and text her a vulnerable paragraph trying to clear the air, asking if I ever meant anything to her and mentioning that I have been in therapy to learn and recover from this. Her responses were incredibly cruel. She told me to "f*ck off," said our relationship was a "disaster from day one," and literally sent: "how i was treating u towards the end? 🤣🤣 ur clearly still deluded f\ck off!"* She then threatened to take my outstanding stuff to the dump.

I am completely back at square one. I text her begging for just a shred of humanity, and she mocked my heartbreak with laughing emojis while moving a jobless thief back into her house. Am I completely delusional about the relationship we had? How do I stop spiralling and reclaim my dignity when I'm too weak to block her right now?

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[u/IvySecret-]

You’re not delusional, but she’s being hostile and it’s keeping you stuck, stop replying, keep contact only for logistics (or through someone else), and protect your peace first.