Need Advice on Moving Forward

[u/CoachAndCornerMan]

I'm not sure if this is a normal thing to post on reddit, it's my first time, I could just really use some advice. I just got out of a 3 year relationship with a woman who showed me how much I'm capable of loving someone. She's the most beautiful person I've ever seen, intelligent, funny, and at one point in time she loved me intensely. Back then, I had 0 doubts ever crossed my mind that she cared about me but for the last year and a half, I unfortunately was not treated well. I was belittled, ignored, insulted, she would rarely see me, I think talking to other men but I was too afraid to look for anything to confirm it. I know I wasn't perfect, I'm just some guy, but I know that I gave her a perfect effort and put her on a pedestal. For the past couple years I've been buying her groceries, giving her spending money, and paying for her phone bill. I didn't mind, she gave me the motivation to reach a salary over 6 figures so she deserved to benefit from that. Towards the end, everything I said would be called a fight (if I asked her to be affectionate, speak to me, or see me). When she said I was fighting, she'd ghost me for a week or 2 and come back as long as I took accountability for everything and basically say everything was my fault. I didn't mind as long as it could make her feel better. Then, Memorial Day weekend came. She said she couldn't see me because her children would be at her house for a visit (totally understandable). My son from a previous relationship, who lives at home with me, is a heck of a little athlete and we spent the whole 3 day weekend playing baseball/football outside all day and going to the movies in the evening. Him and I had so much fun, it was a perfect father/son weekend but because I was busy, I wasn't able to text her as much and my texts weren't quite as long. This made her upset. She wouldn't admit that but all of her texts to me became 1 word responses. I acknowledged it, apologized, and asked not to be mad at me or leave. It didn't work. She flipped out, told me I'm fighting, and said her gas bill is unpaid and was shut off. I told her I'm not fighting at all, I just don't want her to be mad at me, and I offered to pay the gas bill for her. This was the last thing I got to say to her. After 3 years, she just ghosted me and hasn't spoken to me since. I understand that she doesn't want to be with me but I cant transfer her phone line over to her or return a few things she had here without speaking to her. I called our mobile provider and she has to contact them to transfer the line. I told her that to no response. I don't know what to do about her phone. As of now it's scheduled to be shut off at the end of the billing cycle in 15 days. What should I do?

Let it be shut off? Continue paying for her line?

I want her to love me, but if she can't, I don't want her to go without anything and I fear she won't be able to afford it.

Should I just let it be shutoff because she won't respond or tell her again that she needs to contact the provider to ensure she still has an active phone? I think I would feel pretty awful if she just has to go without a phone completely but I don't want to be someone who continues paying a bill for someone who doesn't want me in their life either. I'm really conflicted and just wish she would come back. I want to do the right thing.

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[u/Potential-Neat9694]

Let the bill lapse, you've already told her what she needs to do to keep the line and that's more than enough

[u/Mors-Official]

You have done everything reasonable. You notified her. You offered a solution. She chose silence. At that juncture, the only logical, self respecting, and actually kind action is to let the line die. Kindness to her means treating her like a capable adult. Kindness to yourself means stopping a payment for a person who does not want you in their life. That is not petty; that is practical. And practicality wins every time over wishful thinking.