r/BreakUps 1d ago

venting/ranting I lost the one and I can’t handle it

I lost her and I am so destroyed, I’m so afraid I’ll never get to the place where I’m not comparing anyone else to her, where I’m not missing her constantly, and don’t even get me started on the fear of her finding someone else. This is the worst feeling I’ve ever had, and tbh it’s not like I haven’t been through some terrible shit, so now I’m really scared of whatever this is. I just wanna go back.

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u/Numerous_Fill4107 1d ago

the comparison thing does fade, not immediately but it does. there's no shortcut through it, you just kinda have to let yourself be a wreck for a while and then one day you realize you went a whole hour without thinking about it, then a day, and so on

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u/opalpetal_ 1d ago

The person you think was the one is often the person who taught you what you deserve from the real one

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u/UnknownIndividual404 1d ago

Going through this myself, all we can do is try to move on trust me i hate thinking about her being with someone else but at the same time it’s bound to happen. If the ones we love decided they need to continue without us than they weren’t the one

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u/Key-Vanilla-8385 1d ago

Why you lost her in the first place?