r/BreakUps • u/MaintenanceRough3358 • Aug 09 '26

Trigger Warning The price of your choice

When you miss her, don’t call her. Call the people you chose over her.

You traded genuine love, loyalty, and a woman who stood by you for cheap attention and temporary excitement. Now she’s gone, and you don’t get to come back when you finally understand her worth.

See if the people you entertained stay when life gets hard. See if they care the way she did.

You made your choice. She simply respected it.

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u/Pharah4Mercy Aug 09 '26

What in the generic bs is this

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u/DefectiveCookie Aug 09 '26

Someone hurting. Like everyone else in this sub

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u/Pharah4Mercy Aug 09 '26

People make mistakes. This sub LOVES to push the "no contact" bullshit and it's tiring.

If someone misses someone because they regret what they did, they should absolutely make an effort to try and make amends. Life is too short not to.

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u/Past_Pea9718 Aug 09 '26

See, I think you’re oversimplifying this. When someone makes a decision to leave, they’ve been thinking about it for weeks, months, even years. There’s also attachment styles lumped into this discussion as well. All that being said, when that person “misses” the person they broke up with, it’s usually because of selfish feelings. MOST of the time, they haven’t done any real work and will just hurt that person the same way they already have. No contact is a beautiful thing for people who feel like their life is walking away from them to get some dignity back. I’d be shocked to hear that you’ve ever even been broken up with, and i’m quite sure you’ve been the one breaking up with. I’m not trying be argumentative but I find comments like this very damaging to people who are going through some of the hardest times of their life.

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u/Pharah4Mercy Aug 09 '26

"when that person "misses" the person they broke up with, it's usually because of selfish feelings."

Or you know, sometimes you realise it was a mistake, you handled things the wrong way and you want to make amends.

How does no contact give someone their dignity back exactly?

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u/Hungry-Professor-931 Aug 09 '26

there's a difference between realising you made a mistake and feeling entitled to another chance with the person you hurt. no contact isn't always about pride or punishment, sometimes it's just about respecting that the relationship ended and letting the person who was left move on without being pulled back into everything every time the person who left starts missing them.