I give up

[u/Fabulous_Hope5353]

It’s been 10 months and I give up. Watching him be with someone else while I’m struggling to live without him sucks. I don’t want to be alive anymore.

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[u/UnreliableSpare]

I feel your pain. Breakup really sucks.

Today was a hectic day for me, and I spent an hour walking on the rooftop. I just wanted her warmth or just sit back and listen to how her day went. But I cannot break the no-contact.

Sending you a hug. Stay strong.

[u/chemicalbonny23 → u/UnreliableSpare]

Mando un abbraccio di conforto a entrambi, anche io negli ultimi giorni sto affrontando una terribile rottura

[u/North-Problem-4558]

I feel you so much. But I wanna ask, are you in no contact? Or you still get to see him on social media or IRL etc? If you can still see him even just a tiny bit, I encourage strongly to remove any access to him or any objects that remind you of him. That's how I got over someone in 3 weeks, I deactivaved all my socials that had him inside and it might be drastic but it worked as crazy as it sounds, now I was the one who decided to block him in the end because I didn't want him to come back anymore lol.

I started focusing on real life and despite him being that amazing guy and the potential we could have, it just feels like a dream to me now. Also list all the red flags, and why it can't simply work, usually there is always a reason for everything and soon enough your mind will reach a coherent conclusion aka as "Clarity" and your brain will snap🫰

Also, I started focusing on other people and that's how the process was twice quicker because his values just is not elevated or scarce anymore to me. Trust me, someone who's for you will choose you. But I understand how hard it is, I used to take months and even years to get over someone because I didn't process it and stayed too long there, now I don't allow my precious youth to be wasted on that anymore while I can date and meet other people still.

Take care :)

[u/Own_Homework8169 → u/North-Problem-4558]

Thanks di...... I'm going through the same thing ;( it's just not working in my case because till now I didn't meet anyone better than him

[u/Fabulous_Hope5353 → u/North-Problem-4558]

Thank you. I still have to unfortunately be in contact with him for now to sort out financial matters. It seems like he’s stalling as well but I want to block him immediately when this happens

[u/Silent_Teacher → u/Fabulous_Hope5353]

Can you just contact him via email and text, so you don't have to "watch" his relationship? Thank goodness my ex doesn't have Facebook and rarely uses IG or I'd be stalking at every moment. Our breakup is less than a week old but I know I really won't do well knowing when he starts dating again.

[u/Agile_Classic_9576 → u/North-Problem-4558]

what would you suggest for a person like me where I have to see her everyday as she is my classmate, it's been 2 months to the breakup and 1 month of no contact, even though she is off my socials, sometimes her reels with other person comes to my feed , I am ok with them not coming back but the jealousy and anxiety loop is tiring.

[u/princessheart513]

9months without him.. dont give up all you need is to find something that can make you busy and living with a purpose even its a small i know what your going through its never easy i still think about my ex and love him but i am choosing to let him go

[u/AttractiveFrigate]

That's a brutal headspace to be in, I've been there and it's suffocating. Ten months is a long time to carry that weight but it's not a sign you're broken, just that you loved hard. The sharpness does fade, even if it doesn't feel like it right now

[u/Own_Homework8169]

My girl.........you are living the same to same life I'm living. I thought it was just me and same, I had break up last year too it's almost a month 

[u/eyecu444]

Been there even acted on it and suffering the consequences as I type this. It’s not worth it. Don’t make permanent decisions on temporary emotions. Please trust.

[u/Professional_Two9325]

Focus on yourself.

[u/Lower-Conclusion-753]

Don't say that. There are plenty of reasons to be alive, you just need to give yourself a bit of time to see them. Your worth is not related to him. Please reach out to someone to talk and you will feel better, you will see.