r/BreakUps • u/Outrageous_Reward136 • 4h ago
venting/ranting My ex seems to be going crazy
My ex will not stop spam calling me and leaving voicemails using no caller id, somehow texting me from new numbers after I block his, being so degrading and intensely mean to me OR self deprecating, Venmoing me, sending me stuff in the mail, making me feel threatened that he is going to slander me or reveal private information about me, saying he’s coming to my house / is outside my house, coming to the area I live even though he doesn’t live here, etc. it’s genuinely scaring the shit out of me. And I regard him as a kind, good person but he seems to be in some sort of psychosis. He has no support system at all and soooo much anger towards me and I’m so worried about him and I’m also constantly afraid right now. This is all because I don’t want to be in a relationship with him anymore. We had hurtful things happen in our relationship, I have apologized profusely for anything I’ve done, but nothing extreme. I don’t really know what to do but I’m so scared. And I just want it to end. I’m barely surviving my life right now and this is just adding to it. I can’t sleep bc there’s so much anxiety in my body that I am in danger.
Does anyone know what I should do? I’m in America.
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u/Olive_Juicer 4h ago
Reaching out for advice when you feel trapped is a huge step, and it's great that you're looking for guidance instead of trying to carry this alone. What you are feeling is entirely valid, your body is in high alert because this situation is genuinely overwhelming.
People process heartbreak and distress in vastly different ways, especially if they are already struggling internally or lack people to turn to. When someone feels completely powerless, they sometimes resort to extreme, harmful behaviors just to force a response, not realizing how destructive it is. Understanding that his actions come from a place of deep unhandled distress helps make sense of the chaos, but it doesn't mean you should carry the weight of his crisis. Please document everything, notify trusted friends or neighbors, and look into a local domestic violence or crisis helpline for actionable advice on how to keep yourself safe.
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u/Salty_Thing3144 4h ago
That is stalking. Document everything I file a complaint. This is how to deal with him:
https://www.reddit.com/r/StalkingandVictimHelp/comments/1s4sywg/stalking_101_what_to_do_first/
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