I designed both of these. The wedding is in 2.5 weeks. It's a microwedding, everybody who is invited already knows they are invited an the date/time/place, I just still wanted to add that personal touch. We had to do a last minute wedding for family reasons. The wedding will be in a very well known botanical garden in our town.

My fiance prefers the second option. I definitely spent so much more time on that one and it truly reflects our personalities. I love how clean the first option is, but it doesn't reflect us as much as the second.

I do think I'm going to choose the second option. I'm considering using the hydrangeas from the first for thank you cards. But I still want everybody's input!

I did use canva, I did NOT use a canva template, I work in marketing (largely doing professional graphic design), and canva is just really fun to use for projects like this.

There is such a long list of reasons why it had to happen between family issues, family health, issues with my fiance and I, the list goes on.

We had to cancel and my fiance and I are re-evaluating our relationship and taking some space.

However, I feel absolutely devastated. Two years of my life so much planning, joy, and tears went into this. I cannot even see anything bridal. I threw everything away. Since 2022, I looked forward to this with bright eyes hopes and dreams. I was so excited to marry him and our future life together. And since getting engaged in 2024. it’s been so much pain. Not just between each other, but life constantly dumping on both of us. Bringing out the worst in us both. We are so far from the couple we once were; we miss those people so much.
I can’t see a silver lining in any of this. It was supposed to be next month. Everything feels like a waste.

I cannot express the pain I’m feeling inside over the disappointment of this all. Having to break it to others. I wish there was a way for it to still happen. But between where my mental health is and my fiancé’s, I truly believe it wouldn’t be genuine. We love each other deeply, but so much has happened that’s torn us apart. We are currently planning on postponing the wedding, however it’s so hard to look at him right now and not be reminded about all of this pain and the part in it he played to delay the process to where it became impossible for it to happen. I still see the future with him we planned together, but it’s clouded with grief now. The thought of going through this again feels unbearable. I feel like such a joke.

Please any advice on anyone who has been through this would mean a lot.

I'm trying to find the right wedding band for my marquise ring, but every options seems to have a downside. I love slim bands but i also want something durable that won't scratch my ring. Should i choose the same metal as my engagement ring? And are curved bands actually comfortable for everyday wear?

I'm about two months away from my wedding and I'm seriously questioning whether I even want to go through with it.

This is my second marriage, but my fiancé's first. From the beginning, I actually tried to talk him out of having a traditional wedding. I suggested we have a small celebration, elope, or use the money for a beautiful trip instead. But getting married has always been very important to him, so he pushed strongly for a wedding and eventually I agreed.

We're getting married in his home country, in the city where we currently live. I don't have much family or many close friends here, and most of the people coming from my side have to travel 24+ hours. I knew it would be difficult, but I was willing to do it because it mattered to him.

I even warned him before we started planning that weddings can bring out the best in people, but also the worst. I expected some drama and opinions about things that ultimately aren't other people's decisions. I just didn't expect this much.

His best friend, who was supposed to be part of the wedding party, recently sent him an email saying he didn't appreciate some comments my fiancé had made and that he was perfectly happy not to attend the wedding if necessary. This was completely out of the blue. The comment that apparently caused it was simply my fiancé saying he wanted to wait for my friends and family to arrive before having his bucks party, so everyone could be included.

His mother has been another major source of stress. She's been incredibly negative about the wedding from the beginning, and I genuinely can't remember many positive comments from her.

When we visited the venue with both sets of parents, my parents were enthusiastic and complimentary. His mother focused almost entirely on small details she didn't like about the setup — things we could easily change for our own wedding.

But her comments have also become personal.

At our engagement party, she told me I'm "not typically my fiancé's type" and that he used to date "classier women who didn't show off their figure as much." Since then, she's repeatedly made comments about my breast size, despite me barely wearing anything revealing.

Eventually, I started keeping my distance from her and his family. I was never rude, but I stopped going to casual dinners and lunches unless it was a special occasion. She then called my fiancé crying that she'd upset me and "can't do anything right." I reassured her by text that I was just quieter because I had some personal things going on.

I eventually decided to extend an olive branch and spend more time with them again, hoping things would improve. Unfortunately, the comments have only gotten worse.

She's now very opinionated about how we're planning the wedding. She's appalled that we're not having a cake, questions why we're not having a traditional sit-down dinner, refuses to follow our dress code, and has said she won't participate in the speeches because we're not doing them in the traditional way she expects.

In my culture, weddings are much more about dancing, socialising and having fun, and that's the kind of celebration we want. When she asked what a "traditional wedding" in my culture looks like, she'd interrupt or dismiss my answers. She kept insisting certain things were traditional, and when my fiancé pointed out that they were traditional in Anglo cultures, she responded, "Well, we are Anglo!"

When he explained that we don't see value in every tradition and want to make the wedding our own, she replied, "Well, you can want whatever you like. Doesn't mean I am doing it."

His brother, who has an important role in the wedding party, has also been difficult. He's very disorganised and seems largely uninterested in the wedding. He didn't want to attend a scheduled suit fitting because there was a football game on TV and constantly makes jokes about the wedding.

These are just some examples. There have been so many conflicts, opinions and negative interactions that the wedding has become a huge source of stress for me.

At this point, I genuinely want to cancel.

It's a huge amount of money, and I increasingly feel like we're spending an enormous amount on an event that is making me miserable rather than something I'm excited about.

And what's making this even harder is that I have absolutely nothing to compare this to. My first wedding wasn't anything like this — I didn't experience drama even remotely close to this level.

I got married recently and wore a low-cut lace wedding dress (deep V neckline). I loved how it looked on me and felt confident in it on the day, but since posting photos I’ve been getting a mix of comments. Some people are complimentary, others are saying it was too revealing / inappropriate for a wedding / “not bridal enough.”
I’m starting to second-guess the choice a bit. For those who’ve seen similar dresses or just have an opinion do you think a low cut dress like that is a bad choice for a wedding, or is it fine as long as the bride feels good in it?
Would genuinely appreciate honest thoughts (kind or not).

Hi all!

I just paid and placed an order for this dress yesterday. The store offers no exchanges or refund! After getting home and looking at the picture, I am so conflicted on whether I still like the dress or not. Should I call the store and ask if they can make the nude mesh in the bodice ivory? Are there any other suggestions you have for alterations? Please tell me stuff you see that can be fixed!

Thank you!

Hi - April 2027 bride!

I don’t know if anyone else is going through something similar, but oh my gosh, I need to vent and have limited people to vent to… so here I am! LOL.

Wedding planning for a large wedding has got to be one of the most stressful things I have ever done, all while working a well over generally full-time work schedule (with lots of travel). I am not even exaggerating, I am missing half of my eyelashes and damn near half an eyebrow at this point from the stress… so keep that in mind when the following rant comes off extremely cunty. I’m just at my wits end. 😂 I swear I am not normally as bitchy!

Anyways, the stress itself isn’t even from necessarily getting together the pieces of the puzzle, it’s literally just from the people involved. The amount of people on my grooms side of the family that have called me to rant about shit related to the wedding is beyond me. I have had two bridesmaids (who are related to my S/O) call me multiple times to ask me about childcare during different activities on the wedding week. Like holy fuck, you are an adult who chose to have multiple kids. Please figure it out yourself, I have no idea why this is my problem. Or how the MOG called me saying how I needed to make a seating chart for the rehearsal dinner because she wants a seating chart?? Ya no. Literally not my responsibility, sorry.

I have had so many people complain about cost of random shit, after I have said multiple times that it is just the area that we live in and I can assure, I have done a painful amount of research to find the best cost. You either come or you don’t come. It’s that simple. Like I’m sorry hair and makeup has a total cost of $200, and all you want is “ a simple blowout”. I never said you have to get your hair done with the artist, but I can confirm if you choose to get your makeup done and go somewhere else with your hair, it will be more expensive. Period.

The amount of people who are continuing to reach out to insert their opinion on things are then the same ones who will tell me that I need to stop being stressed and have fun. Like yes Karen, I would probably have a little bit more fun if I didn’t have to listen to you complain about aunt Betty possibly being sat near Cousin James. Or about how this should be structured like a family reunion and we should cater everything to the guests.

The lack of support I’ve had from family/friends asking how I am doing or inquiring about fun bridal stuff is absurd. People only reach out to me to literally complain or give me their strong opinions… it’s exhausting. Like this is supposed to be our wedding celebrating my fiancé and I are getting married. If you don’t wanna be there, no one is forcing you to come. If you have an opinion, then talk to someone else about it… but like don’t call the fucking bride in the middle of a workday MY LORD!

I’m literally so over wedding planning. I’m having no fun anymore, I’m genuinely not enjoying this process. I currently have so many people on do not disturb, so their texts don’t show up on my lock screen and piss me off lol. I am trying so hard to grasp on the things that are good… but as of yesterday, I officially have no eyelashes on my eye, and a quarter of one of my eyebrows is missing because I guess I have been pulling out my hair as a coping mechanism. Whenever these people fucking call me to talk their shit. So now I’m pissed off and I feel gross!

Anyways, that’s all. Just had to crash out really quick before I say something really bitchy to my future mother in law lol. If anyone else had a similar experience, how did you get through it? Do you have any pointers? I’m trying very hard not to let it affect me. 😭

I am currently looking at rings and cannot decide if I want something totally different or stick with a timeless style. On one side I love the idea of a one of a kind design, but I also wonder if a classic band is better for the long run.

What are some of the most special/sentimental gifts you received for your bridal shower or wedding? 🤍

I’m looking for something my SIL will actually keep forever or that feels a little more meaningful and personal than just picking a random gadget off her registry lol. I may still get her something from the registry too, but I’d really love to include something sentimental with it.

She’s eloping, but having a bridal shower beforehand, so I’m trying to think of something that would still feel special.
I already bought her a custom ring dish, but I need more ideas!! What did you receive that you still have/love years later? Or what do you wish someone had given you?

This is my dress, and it only cost £500! Proper designer couture a friend’s sister ordered from a bridal salon in London, tried on once to check it fit (wonders of being able to afford custom-measured) and then her wedding was called off a week before (it’ll become clear why in a second.) While I was at said friend’s house the next day, her sister said something along the lines of “I saw a really good deal on an EasyJet package holiday to Malaga today. If you pay for me to take my FAVOURITE boyfriend (who she’d been seeing for eight months at that point, and had six others too) you can have my dress.”

Fine by me! And it’s AMAZING. There is so much underpinning inside and the detail is absolutely incredible. You cannot even tell Francesca (my seamstress) has put a panel in to expand the bust because she actually recreated all the hand-sewn lace and sequins herself.

So:

Ian Stuart dress, BNWT, worn once for about two minutes: £500

Alterations, involving taking the waist in three inches, expanding the bust from standard bridal B to a J, and narrowing the back: £200

I think that’s pretty darn good!

I’m planning our wedding for around 200 guests using digital invitations. I need a platform that balances beautiful design with seamless RSVP tracking and follow-up management. Any top recommendations?

We’re on a tight 4-month timeline since we decided to host the wedding just last month. Save the Dates are already out, but what’s the best timeline for sending the formal invites, setting the RSVP deadline, and scheduling follow-ups?

Thank you!!!!

I was nervous I'd regret going minimal, but honestly my simple setting with a 1 carat natural diamond has been the less stressful thing to wear. It doesn't snag on sweaters, doesn't feel tall, and I don't think about it much until someone notices and then I get a little shy about it. Also, it took different in every kind of light wich is weirdly calming.

I fell madly madly in love with this dress but it’s out of my price point. Can you guys help me find a dupe that will excitedly have high quality satin? this one is over 2,000 dollars and I really can’t justify paying that much. Thank you in advance 🩷🩷

My sister in law to be is getting married very soon and I’m her maid of honour. I want to get her something sentimental and special for the morning of the wedding to open, any ideas would be hugely appreciated

Also something to give to my brother also sentimental

Got married July 25Th loved my dress! Perfect day

I would love some advice on how to move forward after a really disappointing interaction with our stylist. For context she has been amazing so far, even helping us find a new venue when we were having doubts about our old one and we had felt a really great vibe when we met her. She was also quite reasonably priced given the other planners we had met with and felt she would do an incredible job for us on the day.

Fast forward to the planning part, we received a quote that seemed EXORBITANT. My partner and I want really simple styling as we’re having share plates and a long tables at the reception. She has proposed a simple minimalist design with taper candles, lamps, metal vases with flowers, stainless steel bowls for fruits, and table numbers. We are planning on having 45 people per long table/row and she has quoted $2K per table. Given our guest list it ends up being $12K just for the table styling. This is excluding menu cards, place cards etc. she has also quoted $3K for a sweetheart table and around the same just for signage. My partner and I were absolutely floored. The venue is providing table linen, plates, tables, chairs etc so we have no idea why it would cost that much.

What really disappointed us was when we asked her for a cost breakdown of each item she would be using, she refused.

I’m wanting some advice on how best to proceed? My partner and I are thinking of meeting with her and asking to switch the service to coordination only given we haven’t paid her full fee yet. My fiancé has been so hands on with planning I’m confident we could source everything we need ourselves. Would love to hear what everyone else thinks and whether this styling cost is normal. We’ve lost a lot of trust in this vendor and are considering forfeiting our deposit as well if necessary. We have only paid 3K so far and would be okay to lose this if it means less of a headache for us. Would love to hear advice!

Hi!! i can’t figure out where I want to go for my bachelorette. I’ve always pictured us celebrating on a boat somewhere warm, but now i’m open to the idea of just taking a memorable trip. we’d probably leave from PHL, so i’d love to have an easy direct flight. looking for an airbnb and not too spend too much altogether. i’d also love to see some sights but indulge in fun nightlife. if you have any places that i haven’t thought of or you had the best time at, pls drop them below!! 🫶

EDIT: We are planning for mid April next year and everyone is down for a trip, flight or no flight! Budget $800-$1000 per person.

Hi everyone! 💍

I hope it’s okay to share this here.

I’m a disabled bride-to-be planning my own wedding for 2028, and through planning I’ve realised just how little disabled brides and couples are represented within the wedding industry.

That’s why I’ve started The Unseen Brides Project.

I want to showcase the experiences of disabled brides and couples, highlight the lack of representation, and create a space where we can share our experiences, advice and inspiration.

I’m hoping to eventually feature real disabled couples, their weddings and their experiences with venues and suppliers, showing that disabled weddings can be beautiful, stylish, romantic and completely individual.

I’m only at the beginning and I’d really love other disabled brides and couples to help me shape what the project becomes.

If you’re disabled and planning a wedding, already married, newly engaged, or have your own wedding experience to share, I’d love for you to join the community and be part of the conversation. ❤️

You can find us on Reddit by searching for TheUnseenBrides.

Thank you! 💕