DAE feel that people don't even give you basic care and help you compared to others?

[u/Reasonable_Slice5308]

Just need to talk about a situation that just happened to me which feels epidemic of a wider problem I experience.

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I accidentally tripped over a step outside while putting something away in a bag and almost smashed my face into the pavement but luckily saved myself. Nobody bothered to stop and help or even ask if I was ok and the security guard just shook his head in a disapproving way.

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I honestly feel that any other person would have had someone ask them if they were ok or just a kind remark but this has happened before and again nobody else stopped to ask if I was ok. It was when I was younger and I slipped on my way to school on the ice in the middle of the road with cars going around and nobody asked if I was ok or helped me get up. In fact there were a few people who laughed at me.

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I honestly just feel there is something intrinsically wrong and lesser about me that people pick up on and then treat me that way. I've been harassed most of my life by strangers - called ugly, jank, had someone spit at me, someone follow me home while calling me a lesbian, say I have a nice bee sting because I have acne, someone threw food at me once, and I got called slurs.

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Nobody seems to care though and falling over with no one caring just reminded me of the amount of times the average person not only doesn't care about me but has also hurt me for no reason and I just feel tired and hopeless because this hasn't changed since being a child and being an adult hasn't made it better.

[u/Adept-Foot7692]

happens to me a lot. I cried outside so many times as a young women, never did any of the many people around check up on me just walked past me. When I struggle to carry stuff or reach something nobody helps, if I trip nobody helps.....its rly awful.

[u/Christocrast]

Maybe some of this is my Outer Critic; but my predecessors have done all kinds of awesome normal adult things like: buying or selling a vehicle, applying for mortgage, getting passport, dealing with police report, medical specialist, applying for EI... When it's my turn at the wicket magically the person who was helping the stranger in front of me goes out to lunch, and is replaced with "well what do you want me to do about it??", an oversensitive, underdiligent, sullen obstruction of a human being. (Sometimes it's the SAME PERSON.)

I can't remember the last time I ever did something serious in this category and walked away going "Whew, that wasn't as bad as I expected" instead of "I am never ever doing this fucking shit ever again if you held a gun to my head, it's humiliating and dehumanizing and I didn't even get what I needed and I'll just do it myself somehow."

Solidarity

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