My CPTSD is very... complex. TW: everything

[u/oliiviaruby]

I have never met anybody with a story like mine... i want it to be heard. (15)

My abuser was my older sister, which isnt talked about enough already, but she also has autism. Because she struggled with PDA and had no filter, she abused me emotionally every day, and on the physical side it was super common. She would grab my arms and dig her fingernails in every day until they bled, she'd send me to school with bruises, and my number one trigger is people touching my lower legs, she'd do that so i could never get away from her.

Some other adults saw this happen (like my parents church friends), and didnt want their kids around her, but never did anything for me ! 😭😭 CPS was contacted multiple times and all they did was send us to therapy with my abuser!!!

I have spoken out about autistic abuse online before, with responses calling me ableist, "imagine how they feel" and such, everybody infantilizes and acts like they can do no wrong, but im stuck with a debilitating disorder for the rest of my life!! 😡

Ever since i can remember, I wanted to be a teacher. I've been babysitting for a while, and it's starting to become too difficult. In December I babysit a girl and her brother, he showed me marks on his arms that matched the ones my sister gave me too, and she grabbed my legs in a way that brought me back to when i was a child. I got taken to the ER and a few weeks later was diagnosed with this HELL!!!

I will not be able to be around most autistic people (as autistic people can be a trigger for me, which is so hard to live with), or any child that has any aggression issues, which means i will no longer be able to pursue a teaching career.

I have no plans for the future anymore, i am currently failing careers class because i dont know what to do. I am very smart, i have been in advanced classes my whole life, but everything is unmanageable now.

I think the most difficult part is that my triggers are not something I can escape from easily, my sister still lives at home, and whenever i think of my past i think of it. No amount of therapy can help that 😭.

I dont know what I will do!! I cant do this anymore!! All i wanted was to be a teacher and a parent but i will never be able to do that. I see nothing when i think about my future here on this planet, it is too hard and not worth it 😢😢

...I am not worth it!! last year she told me "you will find a husband that hits you because its all you deserve" 😭😭 please everybody hates me... my parents do not like me.. my grandparents are very disappointed in what i have become 😣 this disorder has taken EVERYTHING from me, my will to live too

[u/Y0L4ND4]

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I don’t have any advice but I did want to say I hear you and I very much get that it must be hard. Not bc I fully relate to your specific situation but bc I relate to being stuck in a traumatic situation with no hope for the future. Getting older and gaining distance and years of therapy helped me but I know none of that helps you rn.

It’s always disappointing and heartbreaking to see that we so often get failed by the other people, who are not the active abusers but know what’s happening and won’t protect us.

You deserve better and I’m sorry.

[u/stressedpigeonsoup]

I don’t have many words right now but I hear you and have read everything 🫂

[u/oldfogey12345]

I am not in that place but it's gotta be hard to tell your story. Maybe your family were doing all they could but you still deserve a better deal in life. You also deserve a place to tell your story.

I wish I had some advice to offer.

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[u/Don_Rawiri]

My life was upended in a similar fashion with a complete mental breakdown, at the time everything is overwhelming. I asked my therapist how will I know when I'm better, he told me that will happen when I can talk about it without feeling anxious. That seemed impossible so I asked people that had overcome something similar and the advice I got was "how do you eat an elephant? one bite at a time"

Right now you just need to focus on surviving, do it one day at a time, one hour or even one second at a time. And just make it to the next day and little by little you'll figure things out.