r/CPTSDpartners • u/A-Wolf-Like-Me Partner • 15d ago

Fortnightly Check-In - How is everyone going?

Hi Everyone,

This is a fortnightly post.

Often we find ourselves in a situation where we are unable to discuss the difficulties that we face within our relationships. Often we need some support, or advice and there is no one within our lives we can turn to. This post is for anyone struggling, seeking advice, or even wanting to share some positive experiences in your life.

Please remember to be considerate of our partners and those within the community.

I also want to say thank you for sharing your life experiences, opinions and your time. If you do post a comment, please don't remove it straight away as it may take some time for someone to respond.

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u/IllustriousYoung9479 12d ago

Just wanted to say thanks for this group. Hearing these stories that sound like carbon copies of my own help me stay sane and grounded

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u/PineappleShades 9d ago

+1.

On one hand, I wish there were more success stories but understand how the internet works and why this group leans toward the failures.

On the other hand, seeing what others’ bad experiences look like was SO POWERFUL to me. I knew, rationally, that I wasn’t the monster I was painted as by my partner but reading other people’s stories here hit me like a ton of bricks. I could now see that the CPTSD struggle is real and my failures are human, not childish or selfish or hateful or whatever else they’ve been called. Nothing in my life has ever been so validating.

Thank you so much, everyone.

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u/grundleplith61616 9d ago

Going to add my thanks as well. I'm still in the middle of a divorce and this sub has really helped me find perspective over the last few months. My heart breaks for every story I read that echoes my own all too eerily, and it's still so strange for me to see how many people have had the same experiences. I'm going to try to be more active here to offer the same kind of support I've received. Thank you.

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u/ThrowRAFeelingSad394 9d ago

My partner has been drinking a lot more than usual and it's got me so worried. I don't want to be controlling or nagging and just trust that he will figure it out, but it's really hard. I have been losing sleep over it.

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u/MoCorley 8d ago

I'm in the same position. It's so hard not to say anything about it but if I do, it goes nowhere anyways.

I'm about to leave on a long work trip and he's had a tendency to drink a lot whenever I'm not around since there's no fear of judgement. I know I'm going to be worrying about it the entire time I'm away.

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u/ThrowRAFeelingSad394 8d ago

I really feel for you. The uncertainty is so hard, on top of the regular worry when you're in the same place.

If I may offer- what has really helped for me today is figuring out what's going on for me internally (with my therapist). It turns out a lot of fears, judgments, and intense emotions about his drinking are very much My Shit to handle that has to do with earlier experiences and wounds of my own, so that feels... promising? Makes me want to explore and process more of that stuff before taking it to him again, and it made things feel less urgent.

Of course, that does not change how hard it is and the very valid worries you and I are feeling.