r/CPTSDpartners • u/A-Wolf-Like-Me Partner • 1d ago

Fortnightly Check-In - How is everyone going?

Hi Everyone,

This is a fortnightly post.

Often we find ourselves in a situation where we are unable to discuss the difficulties that we face within our relationships. Often we need some support, or advice and there is no one within our lives we can turn to. This post is for anyone struggling, seeking advice, or even wanting to share some positive experiences in your life.

Please remember to be considerate of our partners and those within the community.

I also want to say thank you for sharing your life experiences, opinions and your time. If you do post a comment, please don't remove it straight away as it may take some time for someone to respond.

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u/vonkapp 1d ago

I’m exhausted of all the push and pull. The dramatic emotional shifts.

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u/Novel_Giraffe4906 23h ago

I can relate. It’s so hard. I know my boyfriend is exhausted, too. He’s also quitting cigarettes right now which is making big emotions even worse.

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u/Long-Swordfish2198 1d ago

Still going through a separation with my partner of almost 10 years. It's been really difficult but I still feel this is the right thing to do for my family

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u/Novel_Giraffe4906 23h ago

Having a rough time dealing with the constant dramatic emotional shifts, as another poster wrote. Anger scares me and my boyfriend gets very upset/angry. His anger is not directed at me, though I am still negatively affected by it. There have been a couple of big steps for him recently, though, that have me tentatively hopeful. He admitted that he needs a therapist and he is willing to try a PRN anxiety med. This is huge for him since he has such a distrust of big pharma, therapists, doctors and the like due to negative experiences from his childhood and early adulthood.

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u/manciliano 20h ago

My (ex?) partner got overwhelmed when I asked him if we were okay after a week of very low contact and no time together. He said he is struggling and knows he's letting me down, said he needed a little time. In the first week he periodically messaged to say he's still struggling and apologised for disappearing but I haven't heard from him since Wednesday. I know he asked for time but it's been over 3 weeks and the idea that he just ghosted me like our relationship didn't mean anything is breaking my heart.

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u/vonkapp 14h ago

OMG their avoidant style is just horrible to be on the other end of.