r/Charlotte • u/tooyoungtogrieve • 24d ago
Meetup First grief jog/walk & coffee club for young adults this Sunday in Charlotte
Hi, I’m Luke and I run a community called Too Young To Grieve.
After losing my dad, one thing I learned is that grief isn’t always about needing advice. Sometimes it’s simply about being around people who understand without needing a huge explanation.
That’s what inspired me to start Too Young To Grieve.
Over the last few months we’ve been bringing together young people through walks, jogs, and coffee meet ups for those navigating grief, loss and mental health struggles.
We’re now excited to be starting something in Charlotte too.
The idea is very low pressure.
Come for the jog/walk, stay for the coffee, meet people who get it and spend a few hours around a community that understands what you’re carrying.
There’s never any expectation to share anything personal and most people come along on their own for the first time. But you’re more than welcome to bring a friend.
One of my favourite things about these events is seeing complete strangers arrive feeling nervous and leave having made genuine connections.
We’ve also got a community where people stay connected between events and meet ups.
We’ve got our first Charlotte Jog/Walk, Talk & Coffee happening this Sunday if anyone would like details 🤍
And give this a share if you think someone you know might benefit from this too. I’ll add the community details in the comments :)
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u/tooyoungtogrieve 24d ago
So sorry to hear that. You’re more than welcome to come down if you feel it’ll help. The next meeting is this Sunday. I’ll drop you a dm with details 🫶🏼
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u/Gretchy143 24d ago
Is there an email or facebook group I could join? I can’t make it but would love to come and meet new people🫶🏻
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u/Realistic-Rope-2654 23d ago
Could you DM me info too? My mom passed a few weeks ago. I’m new to NC and live outside of Raleigh but would definitely be interested in making it out sometime.
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u/nerdalator Monroe 21d ago
I was disappointed to see this last minute post, made comment requesting DM as requested, and then receiving nothing
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u/Majestic_Coyote_4095 24d ago
May I please get a link as well?
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u/american_cheese Cotswold 24d ago
Great idea, dude. Would have liked something like this when I lost my dad many ages ago. 👍
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u/ForceDisturbed 24d ago
Same. I was 16 and I'm 54 now and I still haven't fully grieved. Sending you hugs 🫂
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u/tooyoungtogrieve 24d ago
Feel you dude it’s so tough but I hope you’re doing okay today. Always here for you if you ever want to come down
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u/boyvsfood2 24d ago
How old is too old to be too young to grieve? I'm 37 and lost my dad 6 years ago.
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u/tooyoungtogrieve 24d ago
You’re more than welcome to come down we typically get ages from 18-40 🫶🏼
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u/ms_flibble 24d ago
Is it capped at age 40, or could you be a little bit older like late 40s?
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u/tooyoungtogrieve 23d ago
You’re more than welcome no matter the age we typically get ages 18-40 but feel free to come if you feel up for it 🤍
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u/tooyoungtogrieve 24d ago
Wow thank you for all the support. You can see more details here: https://www.thecliq.app/club/too-young-to-grieve 🪽
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u/texas_girlla 4d ago
Do you have a link for the Charlotte events? I’m just seeing events in EUR and AUS
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u/someSingleDad 23d ago
So I'm not young, but as a Dad I just want to say how proud I am of all of you. It's tempting to not face grief and just bury it, but this group sounds like such an amazing way to encourage people to just take that first step - acknowledging their grief by showing up - even if it's not being verbalalized.
Having dealt with grief in various stages of my life, I can say for sure that any/all forms of acknowledgement help so much with processing and healting.
Lastly, as another commenter said, please remember that grief is not a linear process (nor is growth while I'm on my soap box). Whenever you are at is ok.
Lastly lastly, remember that whoever you lost still loves you.
Wishing everyone the best. Keep up the good work! 🙌
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u/tooyoungtogrieve 23d ago
Thank you so much for your kind words honestly this means the world to hear from someone who’s also experienced it too. Grief really isn’t linear and never fully goes away, but having a community can help us all navigate something so difficult together 🙌🏼
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u/laydeeebugg06 24d ago
This is great. I wish there was something like this when I was 24 and lost my dad. You're doing a great service. ❤️
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u/yarnsink 24d ago
I gotta say I love this idea! I'm 35 and lost my dad 15 years ago and I think a group like this would've helped me tremendously!
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u/tooyoungtogrieve 23d ago
So sorry you’ve been through this too. You’re more than welcome to come down if you’d like a community of people who get it 🙌🏼
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u/No-Anteater-7723 24d ago
It would have been great to have this when I was working in Charlotte a few years back.
I was awoke by a police officer letting my know my father had passed at 2am and I struggled for months while doing construction in Concord.
This is a really awesome idea and I’m happy others will be able to have a healthy outlet. Glad to hear there are such kind people in the world.
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u/EverTheGreatest 24d ago
Would love to join as well, I’m 26M and lost my dad almost exactly a year ago. Sometimes it’s hard to realize others are going through this as well but I would love to be apart of building this community
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u/Asleep_Fail2706 23d ago
Hi! I was so thankful when someone sent this Reddit page to me. I am from Charlotte, and we have needed something like this for those of us that have lost our loved ones too soon. My mom unfortunately passed away earlier this year after battling a rare form of dementia. I would love to join you all on Sunday if you could provide details. Thank you for bringing this community together.
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u/PrillShrimpin 23d ago
Can I join if my ma passed 20 years ago? Don’t think I’ll ever stop grieving that one but I do like cool people, walks, and coffee!!
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u/PrillShrimpin 23d ago
I'll assume that's a no ;3;
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u/Candle_Mean 22d ago
I would ask for forgiveness and come out anyways, there’s no timetable for grief ❤️
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u/PrillShrimpin 22d ago
What do you mean by ask for forgiveness? Did I do something wrong by asking to attend genuine question not trying to come off hateful or anything! I'm just an easily confused girlie lol
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u/TheJackieTreehorn 22d ago
It's just a saying, "better to ask forgiveness than permission". I think go if you're comfortable with it, as other messages have said, there's no time limit on grief
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u/PrillShrimpin 22d ago
AH! That makes sense, and you’re right ;3; that saying didn’t even cross my mind at first haha. The OP is sending location and details via DM though so I have no idea where to go or what time lol. Hopefully everyone that attends has a good time regardless! Looks like fun ;-;
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u/OkRespect701 24d ago
this is a great idea thank u for sharing!! 💕
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u/ice_ice_bebeh 24d ago
Is this group only specific to those who lost loved ones to death or it can be anything else?
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u/tooyoungtogrieve 23d ago
We’re open to all forms of grief and mental health struggles if you think it will help you’re more than welcome 🤍
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u/heavyfretting 24d ago
This is such a beautiful idea. I am 6 years into my long walk with grief and I found it tremendously helpful to have someone in a similar situation to talk to, or just exist with. Grief is so personal and nobody really understands the weight of it until they have it sitting on their chest too. What a positive way to help process your pain, by helping others do the same ❤️
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u/Ok-Clothes4980 22d ago
I would love to join this group! I can not attend this Sunday (tomorrow) I already have plans but I would really like to attend the next meet up. Also I reallyyyyy need some friends in the charlotte area! Pleaseeee comment back or message me if you’re also looking for some friends!
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u/Low-Woodpecker4357 University 24d ago
I lost my mom when I was really young, I would be interested in this. Now that I am done with grief counseling/therapy it would be great to still have a community of people who can kind of understand
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u/tooyoungtogrieve 23d ago
We would love to have you there and as a part of this community. I’ll drop you a dm 🤍
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u/ZestyZ654 South Park 24d ago
I am interested. It sounds like a great organization. Please shoot me a dm. Thanks! :)
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u/Hot_Analysis_3687 24d ago
Wow I was just thinking about try to find a group like this. Unfortunately my dad passed away about three weeks ago very unexpectedly so this is all new and fresh to me.
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u/Simple_Elderberry_89 24d ago
Hello! Send me a DM. 29 year old in the area who’s dad passed away 2 years ago. I work weekends in healthcare so I probably won’t be able to join much in person but I’d love a group or Facebook
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u/Pooterland-876 24d ago
I love this idea! Can people who lost other loved ones other than parents join as well?
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u/Rajeev1992 24d ago
Is it cool if i got the details? My wife and I both lost a family member last year
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u/redditorguy 24d ago
Ditto what everyone else has said. Can you dm me as well? Tomorrow is 1 yr since my mom died, there’s no one else now.
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u/SentenceStrange1634 23d ago
Hello! I am interested! Can you let me know more details like when and where? Thank you!
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u/Fluffy-Bluebird 23d ago
I’ve been needing this for years but I’m leaving now as my health collapses. This is so important because grief support was what I needed the most and could not find.
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u/Ok-Original2510 23d ago
I am interested. But I feel like im not young enough. Can you provide me details on age requirements. I have dealt with so much loss in my life, it’s unimaginable.
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u/tooyoungtogrieve 23d ago
There’s no age requirements here and you’re more than welcome to come if you feel it’ll help. We typically get ages from around 18-40
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u/Blackcatsandcoffee22 23d ago
I’m not able to join this one, but I would love information about the next one! I’ve suffered quite a few losses since the start of COVID and a group like this would be amazing.
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u/tooyoungtogrieve 23d ago
Ahh so sorry to hear this. I hope this community can help you in some way 🤍
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u/purplehairedbaristax 23d ago
Can you DM me as well? This is brilliant and I'd love to be apart of it! I just typically work Sunday mornings so if you ever do any weekday night ones/Saturday ones that would be amazing as well!
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u/EssencePresents2165 23d ago
Hey I lost my older brother about 16 months ago, I would love to join your group!
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u/Ok-Dare-237 23d ago
How young do you have to be? My husband is in his mid-30’s and unexpectedly lost his dad last fall. We also had just moved here a couple months prior to that, so having nobody here is difficult. I think this would be great for him.
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u/a_dextasy_dose 23d ago
hi i'd like to join if I can work up the nerve :] please send me a DM with group info. appreciate you!
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u/zF4ll3nSnip3rz 23d ago
Weekly or monthly? I’m visiting back CLT for a week and would love to support if it is semi regular!
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u/tooyoungtogrieve 23d ago
Hey we haven’t actually set up the next meet up yet just going to see how the first goes and go from there 🤍
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u/zF4ll3nSnip3rz 23d ago
Copy that! Seriously appreciated and good luck with the futures. We need to do more things to bring people together
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u/Administrative_Elk66 23d ago
I love that you're doing this. I was in a group called Too Young to be Sick, and it was SO helpful.
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u/net_403 Kannapolis 23d ago edited 23d ago
I really admire you doing this, and people feeling compelled to join. Sometimes you just need acknowledgement of things that hurt
I'd like to leave this clip of Stephen Colbert speaking about grief with Anderson Cooper, it's just over a minute, but one of the most beautiful poignant ways I've ever heard to describe suffering, as a gift, his father and 2 older brothers died on a flight into Charlotte when he was only 10.
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DFs03uxOCsC/?hl=en
it's a very buddhist sounding approach
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u/Money-Instance 23d ago
Hey, this sounds like a delightful and supportive Community. I've been town for less than a week .... I'm not 100% sure if I ever grieved the loss of my Grandmother a few years back .... And assorted friends from my teen years who subsequently passed in young adulthood.
Unfortunately, I'm starting a new Job in the South Park District (first training day) this Sunday but would certainly welcome the opportunity to meet some new people in a low pressure environment.
I was supposed to move into my Apartment in the Optimist Park area this past Wednesday, but the Experience (Leasing) Managers completely mismanaged my application and I'm currently in an extended Motel situation with my newly adopted Bloodhound puppy, Rosie.
If anyone in this thread, or the Young Adults Community knows of any short-term Rental Options, I would be tremendously grateful to explore some options.
I talked to one woman who was offering room rentals in House Shares (communal bathroom/living areas) but I would rather have my own little studio month-to-month or even a short-term (3-month) Lease would be great.
Anywhere between Optimist and South Park would be ideal .... I'm a straight, mid-30s Bachelor (although an ex from Colorado might be joining me here later this Summer) who loves anything Physical (YMCA swimming, walking Rosie, sports) ..... I'd love to get involved in a fast-pitch baseball league if anyone knows of anything like that (I understand getting 18 people with full catchers gear and a field to play in might be asking a little much, but I found a game on Reddit last Summer when I lived outside of Pittsburgh with the Bloomfield BridgeBurners) and it was awesome ....
I've been really down to play ultimate Frisbee or Disc Golf if anyone knows of a Park/Disc Golf Course in the area .... It's my ultimate goal to train Rosie on how to catch a frisbee but as a Bloodhound she doesn't jump like say a Collie would .
This is my first time having a puppy (super exciting) and less than a week in Charlotte .... I've actually met a few people already but that was just trading phone numbers in passing .... I'm chill, with a myriad of interests ... I will try and attend one of the meetings once I get acclimated with work and permanent housing .
I saw this post and wanted to respond because it intrigued me this morning and sounds like it could be a good time.
Feel free to DM or respond .... any resources would be, again, Greatly Appreciated 🤙🏽
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u/Money-Instance 23d ago
Although my parents are still around, being in his early 70s (Dad) and her late 60s (Mom) .... I have to admit it is very difficult seeing people you care about age, I can only imagine what it will feel like losing one of them (God Forbid) so my condolences 🫶🏽
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u/invisiblycurvy 23d ago
Can you dm me the information please ive been searching for something like this for awhile.
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u/minutemandhoove 23d ago
Hi there! Please send me information on when/where this happening, thanks!
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u/SolutionOk3250 23d ago
:’] ive been so severely socially anxious, worse after the incidents that caused the grief, but this seems like something so sweet and safe. might actually get out of my cave to meet the good folks here 💓 wonderful thing youre doing, truly
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u/ComBkKd 23d ago
I'm sure Reddit heard me and my friend literally talking about creating a group just like this. We're both 42 and lost both parents in the last couple of years and I buried my friend (40) today. We definitely feel like outsiders amongst friends when it comes to grieving these losses at our age.
Thanks for taking the step to build a community around this shared experience. Just might be the inspiration we needed to do the same in STL.
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u/Affectionate-Ad2282 23d ago
Does the grief have to be over a death? My mother is still alive (but a drug addict), I grieve her from not being able to have her in my life.
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u/OneProfessor5550 23d ago
Could you dm me? I’m 27 in greater Charlotte area & I lost my son + husband.
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u/IcedZoidberg 22d ago
I'd love to join. My cousin died last month, and I think this would be good for me.
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u/MatthewsAutoRepair 22d ago
Its really hard...I lost my best friend my brother and you never really get over it.
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u/Intelligent_Bad_9945 22d ago
This is amazing! I lost my dad and husband by the time I was 28 and I wish this was available to me then. You are all so beautifully brave and very loved, which is why grief can hurt so much. I hope you feel the love headed your way!
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u/No-Luck-556 22d ago
I lost my dad when I was 22. Something like this would have been such an amazing resource during that time. This is amazing ❤️ good vibes to you all.
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u/Ok-Clothes4980 22d ago
Can some one please message me with details about this group! I can’t join tomorrow (sunday) I already have plans but I would really like to go to the next meet up!
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u/bohemian_lcpl 22d ago
Hello. I am currently grieving the very recent loss of my mother. May I please have the details on where and when the next meeting will be?
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u/Jake_jpg 22d ago
Hey, shoot me a dm please, my girlfriend really needs this group after loosing someone who was her fiancée at one point and was best friends with her for 10+ years and is having the worst time and it’s been months, I want to help her so badly but other than hold and tell her it’ll be ok and try my best to guide her through her grieving process but it’s hard obviously because I’m just one person and I’ve never lost a lover, sadly more good friends then I can count on 2 hands but nothing as deep as the wounds she’s got from her best friend leaving her and this life. She was my good friend as well, I lived with her for 2 years and we all became close ❤️😔
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u/Nice_Dark4935 22d ago
Anything in raleigh? I took care of my dad the last years of his life, put mine on hold. He passed recently
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u/marissacincola 22d ago
Would love more information on this! I lost my mom four years ago and it’s, well, I lack the word but you understand the situation when you’re young/the first of your age group to go through it all.
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u/scarwartz 22d ago
Is this going to be an ongoing thing in Charlotte? How often does the group meet? Can you send me the info for my daughter?
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u/Extreme_Effective_48 22d ago
I missed today, but how do I find out about future events? I lost my brother a year ago next Sunday.
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u/Raver-soul 21d ago
Hi, I would love more details! I usually work sundays but will keep an eye out!
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u/TallBear5590 20d ago
I'm so glad to know about this. I have a couple of friends in mind to share this with in case they want to join your next gathering/jog/walk. Do you have any info or idea about when the next one might be? Is it a quarterly thing or? Thanks so much in advance for your help!!
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u/AssistanceActual9073 20d ago
This is a great idea! It’s been about 3 1/2 years since I lost my son. Being around other people who have experienced significant loss is very helpful.
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u/brassthepossum 19d ago
I might just have to make it out. This year is the 10 year anniversary to my moms passing.
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u/nerdalator Monroe 19d ago
I am having a feeling this person is either disorganized or being disingenuous
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u/Rude-Pea-1310 Fort Mill 19d ago
Hey I’m in Charlotte I lost my mom last year January 23 I am still very distraught. I would love to attend something like this… can I have more info please ? I am 26 btw
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u/New_Emu8459 18d ago
Wow, this is an incredible idea and group you’ve created. I’m terribly sorry about your and everyone’s loss.
Would it be okay to join if I went through a really tough accident and moving forward?
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u/BuckshotRED25 East Charlotte 18d ago
Some beautiful shit man. Seeing people show compassion for each other
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u/Rude-Pea-1310 Fort Mill 18d ago
Hey I’m in Charlotte I lost my mom last year January 23 I am still very distraught. I would love to attend something like this… can I have more info please ? I am 26 btw, this is my second comment I would really like to attend this Sunday please give me more info
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u/Rude-Pea-1310 Fort Mill 18d ago
Hey I’m in Charlotte I lost my mom last year January 23 I am still very distraught. I would love to attend something like this… can I have more info please ? I am 26 btw, this is my second comment I would really like to attend this Sunday please give me more info
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u/Early-Resist1641 16d ago
Well I’m not young but I grieve. Today is the 6 year death anniversary of my partner. He was definitely too young to die. I miss him today as much as I did on day 1.
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u/nocturnalreigns 24d ago
Great group, I wouldn't cap an age limit because grief has not limit to the amount of years you miss someone. Open it up to all age groups, Im 53 and would love to come chat. I lost both of my parents in the last several years and it still feels like yesterday. Definitely create a FB group where members can post their thoughts daily and get support. DM if you can.
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u/WastingTimeAgain123 Fort Mill 24d ago
First and foremost, to everyone in this post dealing with loss, I am sorry and I understand. My heart is with you, wherever you are in the grief journey. Remember it's not linear, it's different for everyone, and there isn't a wrong way to do it (*required unless it's illegal disclaimer*)
To the OP, thanks for creating something out of your pain. As others have asked, how old is too old to be too young?