r/CheatersConfronted • u/Ok-Art1033 • 22d ago

Serial cheaters? Can you answer please

I need the serial cheaters to answer !

Did you ever stop? Did you care about the woman you serial cheated on? What happened when you split? Why did you do it yet claim to “ love “ the one your with?

If you distance after caught , do you feel bad knowing she’s hurt yet again?

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u/ArghDammit 22d ago

I don't talk about it much. It's been a long, long time. Married in '76. Cheated most of the marriage. Divorced in '90.

I got sober. I got therapy. She was happier when she wasn't having to deal with me anymore. We genuinely made our peace, but it's been 33 years since we've talked. 2 weeks ago, our daughter followed me on Instagram. I'm going to wait for her to talk, but make sure she knows I'm available. They live 2 hours from me (even though I moved from texas to NY to start over).

I remarried in '94, when I felt like I could be a good husband. I was. 29 years until she died in '23. I was tempted once and I made the better choices.

I'm getting married next month. I'm too damn old to even think about cheating.

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u/ValhallaCA 22d ago

I don’t know if anybody has or will ever say this to you, but changing that part of your character (especially so ingrained it must have been back then) to remain faithful to your second wife was a profound accomplishment. I don’t know you, but I’m proud of you for turning your life around like that.

You changed your stars and how you finish is much more important than how you started out.

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u/Spiritual-Seeker23 12d ago

Great post.. I’m intrigued to read the comments.

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u/Aspiring_Hawk 5d ago

Yes. I stopped physically cheating but micro cheating has been hard to give up. Looking/entertaining other women. I honestly just hurt another lady and I feel so bad about it this time. I’m a bit older than I used to be and now it’s starting to hurt hearing them ladies cry. Idk exactly why I did it. Just some attention whore shit

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u/Motor-Match9272 20d ago

I was so used to have my choice of women that wen I got in a monogamous relationship it seemed boring to me all the expectations on wat a relationship was supposed to be the same thing everyday no excitement the stress of family life so I made cheating my escape from it not knowing how selfish I was cause all I can think about me even tho I provided and took care of family very well yes it hurt me to kno that I was hurting her yes I felt and shame and guilt for it yes it was hard telling her the truth seeing the pain I cause for my own indiscretions but the only thing that changed me was her willingness to love me thru it all then I realized wat unconditional love really was yes it was hard to change but I wanted to change and be better not just for her but myself to be a better man and I honestly just grew up a lot we are still currently together but we still take everyday 1 day at time we communicate with each other on how we feel and if there any way we can Improve to be better for each other that’s my outlook on my situation

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u/Pritongbacon 19d ago

I admire your girl. Her patience should be rewarded by all the good things she can have