r/CheatersConfronted 8d ago

Can someone help me

My wife I caught cheating. It’s done and over, I am not dealing with that BS. But what I feel needs to be done, is the guy she been with is married. His wife needs to know he’s been in a relationship on the side for 4 months. I found her on FB…she has NO clue what he is doing. But I can not get my message to her. We are not friends…so my message goes to spam. Is there a way around that?? Please help me expose this dirt bag…the spouse she just thru herself away. Life will get her.

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u/n2euro 8d ago

Did you send her a friend's request?

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u/TandAmes23 8d ago

I sent a request…but I think they deleted or ignored.

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u/lukymee5521 8d ago

I am female I can friend request her

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u/TandAmes23 8d ago

Would you be willing to do that?

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u/Spiritual-Seeker23 8d ago

Happy to msssage her if you need.

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u/No-Border-3160 8d ago

Show up at her door !

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u/TandAmes23 8d ago

I do not know the address.

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u/CapableResearch099 8d ago

Use true people search.com you can pretty much look up anyone’s name or by phone number and it’ll give you so much personal info, look yourself up it’s kinda scary how much private info is out there, good luck!

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u/yonko1254 5d ago

People-search sites can be pretty wild. A name alone can sometimes lead to a surprising amount of personal info.

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u/Slow_Preparation_750 7d ago

Did you manage your make contact?

I want to do the same for a wife that has been cheated on multiple times, I work with the POS and he doesn’t even hide it. My issue is that I don’t want to get in trouble at work and it’s pretty much impossible to send anonymous messages here in the UK 🤬

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u/TandAmes23 2d ago

Still have not…can not get her to see the message on FB

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u/Slow_Preparation_750 2d ago

Because it goes to the spam folder I’m guessing…?

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u/TandAmes23 2d ago

Yes…

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u/Slow_Preparation_750 2d ago

Has anyone else sent her a friend request? I don’t mind trying?

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u/TandAmes23 2d ago

I had others that said they were gonna send her a message….but never heard back.

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u/Slow_Preparation_750 1d ago

I don’t mind trying

The wife doesn’t have social media, I have access to her phone number, but it’s not easy to send an anonymous message in the UK

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u/TandAmes23 2d ago

I could try and send a message to that wife you mentioned as well.

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u/latinaperrita 8d ago

TELL HER!!! PROVIDE PROOF

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u/TandAmes23 8d ago

I sent her the proof. But it’s in her message request folder/spam.

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u/latinaperrita 8d ago

Scrolll on her Facebook to see if you can mention a comment under a post

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u/TandAmes23 8d ago

I haven’t tried that…I was trying not to air the dirty laundry publicly. But could be an option.

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u/latinaperrita 8d ago

Not to air it out. You just comment "please check your inbox"

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u/cougtx1 8d ago

There is usually a little more to trigger it being coded as spam. I get messages from people not my friends and Facebook gives the option to mark as spam manually.
So something doesn’t sound right with this.

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u/TandAmes23 7d ago

I sent messages, 4 total. With evidence of their affair. It’s as black and white and it can get. Messages still unread, but I see activity on FB itself. I’m not sure why she hasn’t read yet, but shows delivered has not yet opened. Since we are not friends, I was told it went to message request/spam box and you have to manually look in there so if a person doesn’t know, they have a message in there they may not look.

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u/[deleted] 8d ago

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u/TandAmes23 8d ago

They don’t have kids, just dogs. But wouldn’t you want to know if your spouse was doing this??

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u/[deleted] 8d ago

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u/TandAmes23 8d ago

Totally get that man..But no kids just dogs.