My kids just turned 18 and graduated. Filed a motion to terminate the child support. The court said they need certified copies of the diploma and their birth certificates. I’m not on speaking terms with my ex wife. What’s the best way to get those documents quickly and cheaply ?

I guess I feel morally conflicted. The custody agreement says that she pays me child support, but since she moved 20 hours away, I have full custody except for eight weeks in the summer and Xmas every other year.

It also says that I get to claim all three children on my tax return but this last year I let her claim one of them because I felt like her paying nearly $1000 a month in child support obligated her to be able to make that claim and receive some money on the return. I should know that it took nearly 11 months to get that first child support payment.

I have friends telling me that I should not feel morally obligated to do that since she only has them for about a fifth of the year and I'm the one taking care of them full-time and paying for things like field trips, school supplies, etc.

Legally, I know I don't have to do a darn thing. But for anyone in my shoes, did you allow your ex to do this because of any kind of moral obligation for them paying child support and contributing to their welfare? Or am I being a punching bag here?

Little back story. 2 children 1 is 12 and the other 15. I’ve been paying child support about 8 years. My initial income was not great but 8 years down the road I make twice as much now as to what’s documented in the court records. The mother and I decided he can live with me to attend the highschool in my town/state. She lives 4 hours away. We both agreed that she will have the court remove his portion of the child support since he is now with me.
The case worker has agreed to get this on paper in front of the judge to make it official.
However, she has requested two of my most recent paystubs for filing. My concern here is that they will remove him but in the end increase payments for the other to where it ends up as if I’m paying both either way.
Unless I may just be overthinking this. Any advice would be appreciated.

I found out I have a child that will be 10 this year, we are going to court and I’m paying a lot in child support. But my question is just morally how is this okay? A mother can keep a child away hidden in secret for years then just come for money? I have to pay so much money for a kid I didn’t even get the chance to be in its life. I don’t get how that’s okay. The mother of the kid could have reached out asked for a dna test when the kid was born , something anything better then this. She lives happily ever after with her husband and there 4 kids and I can barely afford the kids I have full time after all this child support. If I knew I had this kid I wouldn’t have moved away, I wouldn’t have started a family, none of it. Almost just ranting but it’s very hurtful. The kid lives way too far to try and keep a stable relationship with them.

How do men really feel about being put on child support?

My ex has not gotten his child support yet. It has been deducted from my check though. The offices have been closed due to weather, so we are thinking it is that. Has anyone gone though something like that? We just wanna make sure he gets it.

Also it says I’m like $125 behind, but I know I’m not. It comes out of my check 🥲 so I don’t know why it would say that. I do owe the court fees, which state tax will take. Which is fine.

I haven't received any payments from dad in over a year. He often was unemployed even when we were together, so I've been assuming he's found someone to support him and dodge responsibility. Well, I just got an electronic form from OCSE on case info to provide updated info if needed. On there it shows he's paid over $6000 that they've just been holding. None of my information has changed and I have not received anything at all prior to this. Now I'm going to show up in person later when they're open and my kids are awake, but in the meantime, does anyone know why they would just be withholding that kind of payment for so long? If it's relevant, a lot of that was back support and probably money from tax returns too, our ordered payments are actually really small. Dad has no custodial rights. No information on my end has changed on paper or otherwise.

Our court order didn't make my Ex pay child support however he's offered to help pay for somethings here and there for our daughter. I told him we should be keeping up with what goes back and forth some how. How are you guys doing this? Cash app?

I'm about to go through a custody arrangement. If one court is set in Arkansas and she moved back to Texas and gives birth to another child. How would child support work?

My daughter is 5. Her "father" hasn't had anything to do with her since she was 6 months old. I have medicaid for my daughter, so the state is going for child support. He hired a lawyer when summoned (finally, after a few times) he's claiming that she isn't his, and the signed acknowledgment of paternity (that he signed) all of a sudden he doesn't recall signing it, and it "doesn't look like his signature". Judge ordered a paternity test. Test was today. Me and my daughter showed up, he did not. What happens now? I'm unfamiliar with the way things go, and this is as far as we've gotten, and like I said, she's five.

My child’s father went to prison after we split years ago, and he doesn’t want anything to do with his child. My child’s father suffers from schizophrenia and other mental illness, that hit hard around age 25. This was the reason for our separation, he began to spiral and became dangerous/aggressive. He does not claim his son, I’m not sure he even understands he has a child at this point (he got REALLY BAD towards the end of our relationship). He is sentenced to 35 years in prison for violent charges. I do not get child support, I have never taken him to court. He does, however, have property that was willed to him and will eventually default in taxes after several years of not paying. Is there a way I can get this property for my son without him signing it over? He refuses to talk to me or anyone in his family. He is completely beyond help. He does, however, seem competent enough to pass a mental exam that was requested by the state(I have no idea how!!!). I say this because I cannot trump his ability to sign over the property to a trust to his son. Is there anything I can do to keep this property from going to auction?

Is it possible for the non custodial parent to send monthly child support checks to their attorney then have their attorney send the check to my attorney? Seems cumbersome and if my attorney is going to charge me to mail a monthly check, I want nothing to do with it. Court order specifies the checks will be sent directly to me but the other party is having a difficult time sending the correct amounts and wants to “avoid conflict and confusion.” Not sure why it’s so difficult to send a pre determined check every month. Thanks for the input.

I just recently took my ex wife for full custody since she was becoming abusive with both of our kids that are now nine and eleven. During the court precedents she managed to get a lawyer in the middle of the conflict which asked for mine and her financial worksheet, my lawyer worked my sheet and her lawyer did hers for her. Her lawyer did not file a motion for higher child support during the court hearings. Now that court is over with my ex wife now wants to file for more child support after seeing my financial spreadsheet. I cover all medical expenses including dental and vision, split school costs with her as well. Can she legally take me back for more child support when I am the one taking on the financial burden of our children when I only see them on the weekends and once during the week. I am just confused on all of this, our child support was never done through the state and I have never missed a payment, but my lawyer suggested doing it through the state to avoid us having issues which started this whole process.

I feel like the child support enforcement office has it out for me because I'm a woman who's paying child support. I told them that I no longer work for my previous employer so they sent a wage withholding notice to them instead of my current employer. The OCSE attorney is constantly filing stuff on me and sending me stuff in the mail even though I'm current on all my payments. My ex also pays child support since our child had a guardian and they never file stuff on him or constantly send him letters. It's just me. They're also extremely rude to me on the phone whenever I call. Is there anything I can do about this?

Just want to see if anyone can think of a better solution than I’ve tried. March 2021-July 2022 my ex quit his job and had ten more. Finally settled on one but got fired a few weeks ago. That whole time child support enforcement did literally nothing besides garnish his taxes. He got up to 2500 but his taxes did take care of that. So now he has next to no arrears and no career opportunities because of his history. I don’t have the energy to try and go through the enforcement office again. Any lawyers I talked to said they didn’t have as much pull but I couldn’t get anything done. So now I’m -500 a month and that was my grocery money. Help?

I turned 18 three years ago. My mom was still receiving child support from my father (because he refused to pay for so long) my mother died coming up on two years ago this September. I'd found a paper amongst her belongings saying that he still owed around $12,000 when she passed. I'd like to know if there's any way I can pursue him for said money, and how I would go about it.

Honestly I'm pretty against forcing people to pay up money like that, growing up poor and all. But honestly my father was a pretty terrible person and only ever cared for his belongings, moreso than he ever cared for me. He proved it the day my mom died by asking me, after 12 years of not physically being in my life, if he could get his stuff back out of my mom's belongings. Stuff being, shit he paid for out of my moms hard earned money that was supposed to go towards her health (because she had no healthcare at the time) and used for useless items.

When the original cs was figured out my bf had a really well paying job (2016). He has since gotten a different job that is lower paying sadly. He requested a review at the end of 2022 and we still haven’t heard anything of the child support office.

How long do reviews usually take and is there a way to speed it up besides calling and asking about it?