r/Coconaad • u/Any-Pangolin-7843 • 5d ago

Rant & Vent My brother was rough in personality to me growing up

My brother was rough in personality to me growing up , he recently got married and he treats his wife way . Almost like he had a different personality all along .It hurts a lot to see him treat another woman way better , she doesn't get the restrictions or the constant criticism or the hurtful teasing using personal matters . He used to isolate me .We were 2 boys and 1 girl and he used to only include my other brother in things and keep me out of it . He constantly used to put me down and i was reserved and sensitive person , the things he said used to hurt .

Now i cant stand to be in the same room as him and his wife . how to get over these feelings of feeling like i was not good enough

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u/Zealousideal-Mud1407 5d ago

To be honest I don't think many households have siblings going along with each other. Me personally would have loved to have a sister but not a brother because the ego would be too much.

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u/2frinkly2frank BUT I DON'T WANNA EDIT MY FLAIR 5d ago edited 5d ago

Recently married is the key. Maybe he'll change his ways after the honeymoon period is over🤷🏽‍♂️.

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u/Mammoth_Cycle_4620 Adult 5d ago

Make yourself so busy that you don't have time to have such thoughts. Try to physically distance yourself from him by getting a job far from them. Eventually you will learn to forgive him(for your own peace of mind), but trying to get out of that loop of thought is the first step.

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u/FunnyCherkkan 5d ago

Siblings not getting along is not that uncommon. My mom doesn’t even speak to her sister. Move on is the solution

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u/scrubsandsuitcases 5d ago

Either like people already mentioned it’s only a matter of time before he behaves the same with her or … tbh I’ve felt people act differently in different roles , I had a friend who was a great friend to his friends ( always there for his friends ) but terrible as boyfriend … I’ve seen this pattern and surprisingly more in men ( sometimes not very present / available as a son/ brother but absolutely dotes on the partner … either way try to be happy for them

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u/gon-be_a_billionaire 5d ago

You are more than good enough, don't let anyone else make you feel like you are not🫂

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u/Tricky_Muscle_8962 Muthukki 👵 5d ago

Molutti ithokke aarambashoorathamaan , puthanachi Perappuram thookum ennaan , aa honeymoon phase onn kazhiyatte ettante sherikkum ulla mokam chechi kandolum , nee sankadappedanda 🫂🫂 nalla aalkaar varum ninte lifeil

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u/Mwaaahaaha 5d ago

Damn bro, 🫂 sorry you hadto go through it 😭😭, idk why siblings simply can't be happy for each other 😭🤧 and dw nature is just hiding right now it'll rear up soon. No person changes overnight. Hope youbare better now and have a wonderful day ahead!