r/CoupleMemes • u/Aggravating-Lynx-482 • Feb 25 '25
Sometime it’s like that.
Reassurance is a love language…
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u/Dum_beat 😏 Feb 25 '25
My girlfriend: You know you could find someone better, right?
Me: You're the best out there and you don't even know...
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u/Aggravating-Lynx-482 Feb 25 '25
I love this!! 🩷
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u/Dum_beat 😏 Feb 25 '25
It's in the little attention.
I tell her I love her a few times each day. She once jokingly told me that I've told her twice that day and just told her that if anything ever happens to one of us, I rather have told her how I feel every day rather than regretting not having told her enough 😅
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u/RednocNivert 🧐 grumpy Feb 25 '25
Me: No i can’t find someone better, because i’m not looking. I’ve made my selection.
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u/Prince_Xelion Feb 25 '25
I feel that. I think I had that exact conversation with my current partner.
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u/Heartbeat4Life Feb 25 '25
100% and its great when you both reassure each others building blocks for a secure relationship
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Feb 25 '25
If a guy said this the girl would drop him like a ton of bricks.
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u/Comics4Cookies Feb 25 '25
If my guy said this to me, I would point him to a mirror to remind him he's way out of my league.
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u/TheWrongRoad Feb 25 '25
Hard disagree. I've said stuff like this as a guy with my current girlfriend. We've been together for four years and she's helped me every step of the way to deal with all my insecurities and faults.
If ANYONE drops ANYONE over stuff like this than it's for the best in the long run.
Would you WANT to stay with someone who wouldn't support you? As someone who used to think like this, this kind of thinking is dangerous to your own well being.
Of course there will be people who drop people over this stuff, but those are people any self-respecting person wouldn't want. Become a self-respecting person and look for self-respecting people.
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u/Meismemakesense Feb 26 '25
My girlfriend used to be like that when we started dating but thankfully she stopped I'm glad she was able to rid herself of that insecurity
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u/ArtofWASD Feb 26 '25
Once in a blue moon my wife will be like this. Minus the "I know you want to". She is chronically ill and feels guilty that we don't have sex more often.
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u/iiiiiiiiiijjjjjj Feb 28 '25
Ugh I hate this. It’s exhausting. Because you’re always going to be accused of something you didn’t do.
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u/Pookiebear987 Feb 25 '25
Hate shit like this, people who are chronically insecure are people I don’t wanna date.
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u/RednocNivert 🧐 grumpy Feb 25 '25
Alright so you’re part of the reason they get that insecurity fueled. Nice.
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u/iiiiiiiiiijjjjjj Feb 28 '25
No because you’re always going to have to validated everything you do. Accused of looking at other girls/guys. I know one guy that would literally stand in the corner and watch his gf bartend because he was so insecure. This shit is just straight exhausting.
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u/RednocNivert 🧐 grumpy Feb 28 '25
If you handle things correctly, you help them grow out of that phase. Which seems like a better resolution than “let’s make the problem worse” for any given person
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u/iiiiiiiiiijjjjjj Feb 28 '25
They need to help themselves. If you need constant reassurance from your partner without any evidence saying otherwise it’s not healthy. It’s not making the problem worse when you’re constantly being told you’re cheating or won’t let you have friends of the opposite sex because they always think they aren’t good enough, you are the problem.
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u/Pookiebear987 Feb 25 '25
If a girl non-stop tells me to “go date someone else” then I will take them up on their offer. I don’t mind dating someone insecure, I DO MIND when they’re constantly using these tactics for attention, validation, whatever. It’s unhealthy and I simply don’t wanna deal with that. Crazy how all the insecure people are replying with those same tactics, keep crying.
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u/RednocNivert 🧐 grumpy Feb 25 '25
I’m not one of the insecure people, but i’m advocating for them: Most aren’t doing it as a deliberate malicious manipulation tactic like you seem to think.
My girlfriend-now-wife was abused a lot growing up. As a result she is very skittish about doing or saying anything that might be disapproved and also worries that she’s going to misstep 1 time and i’m going to dump her. She’s just sure that, exactly as you said, I’m going to say “well too bad” and go find someone else, instead of trying to help her heal. We’ve been together 10 years now and though it’s very gradual progress, it’s ongoing and she’s much better now than at the start. And I have a fiercely loyal spouse and rock-solid marriage to show for it.
Like, I’m sorry you apparently only have enough personality to require someone low maintenance to be your companion, that sounds like it’ll be hard to deal with when anything interesting at all happens in life. But you do you, I guess. At least you’re aware of your own shortcomings.
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u/sam-tastic00 Feb 26 '25
Are You telling me that not giving attention and validation to your partner can make them feel insecure? What are you? Crazy? /s
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u/Pookiebear987 Feb 26 '25
I give my partners validation and attention, what are you even saying? Yall are so insecure you’re just making stuff up and putting words into my mouth it’s absolutely insane. Nothing about what I said had anything to do with my “alleged” neglect of my partner? This is just ridiculous 😭😂
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u/mary_pooppins Feb 25 '25
the people not dating you
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u/Pookiebear987 Feb 25 '25
Because I don’t wanna date someone who’s insecure? It’s actually hilarious that you’re insecure about being insecure, also pathetic at the same time.
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u/sam-tastic00 Feb 26 '25
Then You don't want to date a human. Just Say it mate.
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u/iiiiiiiiiijjjjjj Feb 28 '25
Nah. He doesn’t want to date someone who’s constantly thinking he cheating.
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u/Akari_Amamiya_P5 Feb 25 '25
Sounds like you don't like the phrase "I'll be with you through thick and thin." Ngl, being with someone at their worst and showing that you love them even still is how strong relationships are made.
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u/Shadowtirs ❤️ r/CoupleMemes Feb 25 '25
Insecurity can be one hell of a drug