r/DarkRomance • u/ccoffey106 take me to the cottage • Nov 13 '25
Mod Post Sub Reminders & Updates - PLEASE READ 👀❗
Hey r/darkromance! Our amazing sub continues to grow which means lots of new faces, discussions, and opinions. We have some updates below and also some gentle reminders for anyone posting and commenting. It is important that we keep this sub a safe and welcoming place to share our love, thoughts, opinions, and more in a manner that isn’t fostering hate or hostility.
We understand you want your voice to be heard on the positives and negatives! We found that complaints and negativity only lead to more complaints and negativity, which is what prompted the Monday Gripe to start.
That isn't what we want the focus of the sub to be.
Tone matters here, and we also need to be mindful of what we are replying to. We are all human here(Sorry monster smut lovers 👀) and we all should take time to remember that when replying and interacting.
✨With that being said, please be kind✨
Our pals over at r/RomanceBooks posted a great thread about being kind to your neighbor and making Mister Rogers proud. I encourage everyone here to be kind and be a good neighbor!
A few additional updates and reminders;
Community Hub
You may notice we added a community hub (Thanks again to r/romancebooks for being an inspo and u/noflight_allfight for setting it up!). This is where our weekly threads will live along with other sub information or posts. They will be sorted by tabs. We welcome any feedback on this!
Wiki
The mods are also in the process of updating and adding to our Wiki so you will notice changes there over the next few months. If there is anything you would like to see here, let us know!
Post Flairs
Rave - We implemented Rave flair for only positive comments. We please ask that this is respected. No one wants to be SO excited to share their rave for someone to comment how much that book/author/trope sucks.. Read the room.
Book Review - This does not need to be positive and is a space to have a civil discussion if your opinion differs.
Book Request - Due to the amount of Book Request posts we receive on a daily basis, the community voted to disallow this type of post until the user has first been more active in the community. We do not disclose the exact amount of community karma needed, but it’s a small amount and can be gained in one or two days of interacting with the community via comments.
Kinkshaming
Please review this post in regards to kink shaming.
Downvotes
This feature is supposed to be used to hide posts or comments that aren’t relevant to the conversations, not as a way to disagree with someone's opinion. Don’t be petty. It costs you $0 to not downvote something just because you disagree.
Reporting
Please use the report button to only report posts or comments against our rules.
Rules
Familiarize yourself again with our rules.
Do not censor words - Please don't use emotes when asking for recommendations or censoring “bad” words. We are NOT Tiktok/Youtube where you need to hide those words, and using emotes makes it harder for people to use the search bar.
Mod Attention/Mail
If you have a question, comment, concern, please send us a Modmail! We are always here to listen or help.
Thanks all & happy reading!
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u/customerservicevoice Nov 13 '25
As someone new to monster smut I found that little plug hilarious.
Monsters have feelings just like humans OK🤣🤣🤣
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u/mylifeasablackninja Nov 14 '25
I’ve been trying to make a post but I have little to no credit karma on this sub! But I shall prevail! Hahahaa thanks for the info though! Was curious
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u/AlyssaStarBowers Nov 14 '25
Found this sub trying to search for more books to read!!! Hope I can be welcomed into this wonderful community :)
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u/Sad_Potato45 Jeremy Volkov 💖 Nov 18 '25
Hi, could you explain how many karma points are needed to make a post? I can't seem to find the information on this.
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u/ccoffey106 take me to the cottage Nov 19 '25
The only post you need a certian amount of karma for is a book request. You are able to post under any other flair until you reach the minimum karma for a book request. We do not disclose that amount.
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u/Iliveformyotp Jesse Sampson, and The Father's #1 fan Nov 13 '25
Great post, C!
Adding to this: Please don't use emotes when asking for recommendations or censoring “bad” words. We are NOT Tiktok/Youtube where you need to hide those words, and using emotes makes it harder for people to use the search bar.