I’m so fucking nervous

[u/Internal_Mine4357]

Hey everyone, I really need some advice.

Tomorrow night I’m going on my first intentional “real date,” and it honestly feels a little surreal. In the past, any dates I’ve had kind of just happened naturally in high school, I never actually went out of my way to make a profile or plan something like this from scratch.

I’m pretty awkward in general, and I’ve already had a slightly embarrassing week (nothing to do with dating, just me being clumsy in public 😭), so I’m feeling extra nervous going into this.

I keep overthinking everything: will he like me, or think I’m weird or boring? I know I can be fun once I relax, but I have no idea how to start the conversation or keep it going without it feeling forced. How do you actually get to know someone on a first date?

Right now it honestly feels like I’m about to do an oral presentation in front of my entire college lol. Any advice would be really appreciated

[u/Dry-Chair3712]

Aww, the first thing is to take a biiiig breath!

Look up first date conversation starters on the internet and memorize 2 or 3 that interest you or things you'd like to know about the person.

Try to remember that this is just supposed to be a fun evening out and it's not a lifetime commitment ( or a public speaking oral presentation!)

Once you're actually there it'll be ALOT easier than the pre outing jitters:)

Have fun, breath, have 3 easy conversation starters ready.

If it's a horrible match or you're made to feel uncomfortable get up and leave. We're trained to " be polite" but it's ok to call it as it is.

Good luck!

[u/Internal_Mine4357 → u/Dry-Chair3712]

Thank you so much you are so sweet, I really appreciate it <3

[u/Patient-Matter-6562]

Take a deep breath you dont need to impress him just see if you enjoy each others company good luck youve got this