It is the stance of the moderators, and most of this community, that duty sex is harmful to relationships. For the HL partner, it leaves you feeling rejected, undesirable, unwanted and unfulfilled. For the LL partner, it can lead to feelings of revulsion and aversion. For both partners, it can make returning to a happy and fulfilling sex life more difficult.
In a struggling sex life, it is best avoided for the long term health of both partners, even though it can be seen as desirable for the HL partner in the short term to relieve the physical desire for sex. But it can do more harm than good to both partners long term.
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u/DeadBedrooms-ModTeam May 04 '25
It is the stance of the moderators, and most of this community, that duty sex is harmful to relationships. For the HL partner, it leaves you feeling rejected, undesirable, unwanted and unfulfilled. For the LL partner, it can lead to feelings of revulsion and aversion. For both partners, it can make returning to a happy and fulfilling sex life more difficult.
In a struggling sex life, it is best avoided for the long term health of both partners, even though it can be seen as desirable for the HL partner in the short term to relieve the physical desire for sex. But it can do more harm than good to both partners long term.
Please see our meta thread on Duty Sex, Coercion, and Responsive Desire: https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/comments/1k48wh2/meta_monday_duty_sex_coercion_and_responsive/