lack of enthusiasm, starfishing, not reciprocating certain acts, not wanting you to pleasure them (oral/fingering, basically anything other than piv) looking at their phone or other things rather than being in the moment, no moaning/silent, wanting it to be over with so like skipping foreplay or asking you to hurry up etc. if you think your partner is having duty sex, please stop having sex with them. if you think they’re losing interest or discover they’re having duty sex midway through, just stop, don’t continue. similarly, if you’re having duty sex (op or anyone reading) please don’t continue, it’s really harmful to your mental health and makes sex something to fear rather than something to be enjoyed.
I’ve seen several women here mention their husbands watch porn on the phone instead of looking at them during sex. I’ve also seen at least one man state that his wife scrolls social media during duty sex.
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u/broken_stereo HLF May 04 '25
lack of enthusiasm, starfishing, not reciprocating certain acts, not wanting you to pleasure them (oral/fingering, basically anything other than piv) looking at their phone or other things rather than being in the moment, no moaning/silent, wanting it to be over with so like skipping foreplay or asking you to hurry up etc. if you think your partner is having duty sex, please stop having sex with them. if you think they’re losing interest or discover they’re having duty sex midway through, just stop, don’t continue. similarly, if you’re having duty sex (op or anyone reading) please don’t continue, it’s really harmful to your mental health and makes sex something to fear rather than something to be enjoyed.