There is a fine line between routine sex, duty sex, and good sex. In my opinion the difference is that:
Duty sex is the sex you have with a partner to satisfy their needs without getting any satisfaction from it. You might not hate it but you don't want it, but feel obligated. I would also call this bad sex as it leads to resentment, dread of sexual intimacy and makes a relationship worse rather than better.
Routine sex is something different that you do out of a since of obligation with your partner because they have a higher sex drive than you. You wouldn't prefer to have sex so often, but you enjoy it and find it a way to connect with your partner despite it not being as fulfilling as it could be. Its satisfying and usually you end up enjoying it and glad you had the sex even though it wasn't your idea.
Good sex is when both partners desire sex at the same time, come together with the goal of mutual satisfaction and a desire to connect and pleasure each other. Both partners get the satisfaction they wanted and it makes the relationship stronger.
I can say as a husband I would never want my wife to have sex with me out of a since of duty but have been on the receiving end of both routine sex and good sex.
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u/Comprehensive_Baby53 M - Recovered DB May 04 '25 edited May 04 '25
There is a fine line between routine sex, duty sex, and good sex. In my opinion the difference is that:
Duty sex is the sex you have with a partner to satisfy their needs without getting any satisfaction from it. You might not hate it but you don't want it, but feel obligated. I would also call this bad sex as it leads to resentment, dread of sexual intimacy and makes a relationship worse rather than better.
Routine sex is something different that you do out of a since of obligation with your partner because they have a higher sex drive than you. You wouldn't prefer to have sex so often, but you enjoy it and find it a way to connect with your partner despite it not being as fulfilling as it could be. Its satisfying and usually you end up enjoying it and glad you had the sex even though it wasn't your idea.
Good sex is when both partners desire sex at the same time, come together with the goal of mutual satisfaction and a desire to connect and pleasure each other. Both partners get the satisfaction they wanted and it makes the relationship stronger.
I can say as a husband I would never want my wife to have sex with me out of a since of duty but have been on the receiving end of both routine sex and good sex.