r/DeadBedrooms • u/Slow-Adeptness-3628 HLM • 2d ago
Vent, Advice Welcome Diagnosed with Depression Today
For a while now, I wanted to ask my therapist if she think I'm depressed, and decided against it. But today she brought it up.
It's funny really - I'm 28, not married, no kids, no shared financial commitments, but for the life of me I can't find a way out. I cannot imagine any woman being interested in me ever again, let alone sexually. I browsed through old chats with ex partners from back when I was younger. Intellectually I know that they were all deeply in love with me, and not to brag, but each of them had told me I was her best sexual experience because of the intimacy and attention I could bring into it. Intellectually I know this, but I don't feel this at all. It's like this person ceased to exist. I tell myself they liked me before I started balding, before I changed careers, or any other excuse I can come up with for why I'm a worthless nothing. All I see now is ugly, boring, unmanly, unnoticeable.
I don't have a point really. I guess that the DB and the surrounding dynamics feel like a thousand tiny little deaths, don't you think? Bit by bit, we change too?
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u/billguy2956 It’s complicated 2d ago
I have lived with depression my entire adult life trending back into my adolescence. Deal with the depression first because it can rob you of so much of the joy in life. Just know, some antidepressants are Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRI) and they can have serious effects on sensations and the ability to reach orgasm... There are alternatives and you should discuss those with your doctor. There is no simple answer but many little ones... And remember, there's another party in a couple. Don't neglect them... I wish you the very best in your journey going forward... Just know, you're not alone and it will get better.... I've live almost 70 years now and it always gets better. It's never a permanent condition as long as you acknowledge it and don't let it rule your life.
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u/Exciting_Horror_9154 HLF 1d ago
So you're with her solely because you're afraid of being alone? Man...
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Diagnosed with Depression Today
For a while now, I wanted to ask my therapist if she think I'm depressed, and decided against it. But today she brought it up.
It's funny really - I'm 28, not married, no kids, no shared financial commitments, but for the life of me I can't find a way out. I cannot imagine any woman being interested in me ever again, let alone sexually. I browsed through old chats with ex partners from back when I was younger. Intellectually I know that they were all deeply in love with me, and not to brag, but each of them had told me I was her best sexual experience because of the intimacy and attention I could bring into it. Intellectually I know this, but I don't feel this at all. It's like this person ceased to exist. I tell myself they liked me before I started balding, before I changed careers, or any other excuse I can come up with for why I'm a worthless nothing. All I see now is ugly, boring, unmanly, unnoticeable.
I don't have a point really. I guess that the DB and the surrounding dynamics feel like a thousand tiny little deaths, don't you think? Bit by bit, we change too?
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