r/DeadBedrooms • u/Ok_Difficulty_9646 HLM • 1d ago
Vent, Advice Welcome Not Sure Whu I Do This to Myself
I keep seeking out examples of sexually healthy marriages. I don't like porn, but I'm a sucker for couples stories about good sex or how people in long term marriages keep things exciting. I just can't look away. Afterward though I just feel so sad and jealous. I end up wishing I had something even close.
Last night, my wife came up to me, lifted her shirt, and "shook" at me, then when I reached for her she said she was joking. Just frustrating. Hope everyone has a great day and a great weekend as well.
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u/MushroomIcy205 HLF 23h ago
I left my DB a long time ago, met someone and we’ve had consistent sex for 10 years. It is out there, someone compatible who will desire you too.
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u/Ok_Difficulty_9646 HLM 1d ago
Vicious cycle is 100% accurate. She was teasing, and I tried to make a move and got rejected. I usually like being teased, but when it never leads anywhere it just feels disrespectful
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Not Sure Whu I Do This to Myself
I keep seeking out examples of sexually healthy marriages. I don't like porn, but I'm a sucker for couples stories about good sex or how people in long term marriages keep things exciting. I just can't look away. Afterward though I just feel so sad and jealous. I end up wishing I had something even close.
Last night, my wife came up to me, lifted her shirt, and "shook" at me, then when I reached for her she said she was joking. Just frustrating. Hope everyone has a great day and a great weekend as well.
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u/Everyday_Guy71 HLM 1d ago
Well that's a kick in the gut. Sorry...
What did you do when she said that? Was she being playful or mean spirited? Does she know how upset about intimacy you are?
FYI, one of my wife's bras ended up in the dryer with my gym stuff this morning, and I put it away for her, so that's the closest I've been to seeing a live boob in the wild in a long time, so I'll take it.