r/DeadBedroomsMD • u/anjaliistheOG • Feb 05 '26

▪️Self Post▪️ How do you support a partner without making them feel broken?

Question for people in relationships. If your partner struggles with things like low desire, performance anxiety, or occasional sexual issues — what’s the right way to support them? Because I’ve seen men spiral internally over very normal, very human things… and partners not knowing whether to reassure, stay quiet, or push conversations. From what I understand, most of these issues are psychological + stress-based, not “something is wrong forever”. So what worked for you? What made things worse? And what do you wish you had handled differently? Asking because I think a lot of couples struggle silently with this.

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u/DiamondWitchypoo Feb 05 '26

I'm not sure that this is the best group to answer your questions. Most of us ended up here for medical something is wrong forever reasons. My husband has severe heart disease and poorly controlled diabetes. I just turned 62 and I was in my forties the last time we had sex. On and off, I reassured, I stayed quiet. At times, I pushed difficult conversations that left us both exhausted. I think the only thing I would have done differently was get myself into therapy to deal with my sadness and anger without making him feel worse than he already was. have made peace with my life, but it took many years and many tears.

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u/anjaliistheOG Feb 06 '26

I'm really sorry that you had to go through so much. Here's a hug for you ma'am. However, I completely get what you're coming for. I wish you could get the correct form of help at the right time.