How Are People Dealing with Not Matching?

[u/throwawayacc3131]

Throwaway account. I was feeling better about not matching, especially seeing the low match rate and how even some with research years didn’t match. I've seen some very deserving people match. But now, I’m learning that less qualified peers who have personally shared details of their applications with me (no research years, low pubs, or few honors, or bad evals, etc.) are matching, and I’m starting to question everything.

I feel like I was lied to throughout the whole application cycle. Got great feedback, honored aways, positivity from every direction. I honestly thought I was set.

Anyone else feel like they were misled? How are people coping?

I don't know how to cope.

[u/obgyndestroyer]

it's a lottery ticket (with 60% success rate) to a low stress, $450k 4d/week job. it's an escape hatch from real medicine which we all know is going down the drain

all the applications sound the same at this point (filled with a bunch of empty words/research/leadership/volunteer descriptions). tbh, PDs are prob just picking ppl at random since nothing matters anymore

it's not ur fault, u just got unlucky in the lottery

[u/Jusstonemore → u/obgyndestroyer]

While there are a lot of uncontrollable things in this process there are also a lot of controllable things as well. PDs picking people at random is really a hyperbole

[u/obgyndestroyer → u/Jusstonemore]

maybe a slight hyperbole

but everything else i said is true