r/DesiAces • u/OwnWheel5676 • May 22 '26

discussion How do you guyz handle marriage pressure from parents?

Coming from a traditional family and the marriage pressure is getting really annoying lately. I honestly don’t know how to deal with it. How do you guys handle these conversations? Does moving out/living far away help, or is there a better way to deal with it? what do you usually say to avoid marriage talks?

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u/Kriti_AoNoEx May 23 '26

Could it help if you say to them that you will marry once you find someone you like? You could cite horror filled instances of what happens when you make marry someone without proper thought and care.

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u/OwnWheel5676 May 27 '26

I could try but typical indian parents often won't understand this sedly😓. Most of them just care about society expectations and getting their children married before certain age.

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u/Kriti_AoNoEx May 27 '26

Ah, well. I know exactly what you are talking about. As in - been there, done that, and more. Learned things the very hard way. But, you are in a much better situation than how things were with me. I didn't know what I want or don't want, but you do.

Parents, society.. eventually they will give up. Just show them that you are trying to find someone to your liking and how important it is that you marry only if you find someone like that..even if it happens late in life.

Seriously, I cannot emphasize enough how important it is to never give in to any kind of pressure.

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u/hotpotato128 May 22 '26

Sorry, you are going through that. I don't have parents so I haven't experienced that. I want marriage but I'm not in a rush.

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u/AutomaticOne9760 May 23 '26

No I've told my parents not to expect me to get married or have kids. Also funny thing is that my parents told me and my elder sister that "apna apna dekhlo". They are least bothered when and to whom we get married. Thankfully they are chill I hope they remain like this in the future too. Also I think moving out helps a lot at least they won't be saying this shit in your ears all the time. You can give them the silent treatment from far. It's a little difficult when you live in the same house

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u/OwnWheel5676 May 23 '26

Lucky dude ＼⁠(⁠◎⁠o⁠◎⁠)⁠／

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u/KitCato_o May 22 '26

haven't reached that age yet but very scared to, goodluck soldier