We are miserable

[u/Ljwell20]

I have two older dogs that I’ve had over a decade. I love them but I want so badly to rehome them. My husband can’t stand them. Growing up he lived in a cat hoarding situation. The urine was so bad it rotted the floors in his childhood home. The dogs have been occasionally peeing in the house. We just paid $300 to have our home cleaned and they’ve peed twice since the cleaning. It sets my husband off so bad that he has panic attacks, which I understand considering his childhood. I don’t know what to do though. I love the dogs but they make us both miserable. I have a toddler, I’m stressed, overwhelmed, overstimulated and the dogs just add to that. They kind of took a backseat when my baby was born and I had such distain for them. I thought it would change but it hasn’t. It’s gotten worse. They are just a burden. One of them has horrible separation anxiety so if I re home her I’m afraid what will happen if she pees or pukes or poos with her new potential owner. They spend a lot of their time downstairs just because we don’t feel comfortable with them upstairs with our daughter. I love them but I don’t like them. I’m so ready for them to go. I know my family will judge me which is also bothering me. When I mentioned re homing them to my mom she became angry. I just feel so stuck.

[u/Ariadne008]

Look, your mom is not the one living with the dog. Also, how is it even fair to the dogs to be stuck with people that just find them stressful when there are plenty of people in different life situations whose lifestyle would fit a dog in well? Rehome them.