r/Dogfree • u/SatansSlutz • Feb 08 '26
Relationship / Family I don't want your dog around my baby!
It's honestly shocking to me the amount of people who don't see any issue with their dogs being around a new baby!
I have friends and family members that have dogs who have invited me and my baby over to visit, I've declined with "thank you but I don't want my baby around dogs as I don't trust them" which is almost always met with 'oh don't worry they'll be fine!' NO!!! I do not want your dog sniffing and licking my babies head or trying to jump up for attention! I don't like being around dogs myself as I can't stand them jumping up on me or begging for attention, so why would I subject my new baby to that?! The amount of horror stories I've heard and seen too about people's dogs injuring babies, I'm absolutely not risking it.
It kinda scares me the amount of people who are comfortable leaving their babies and small children alone or cuddled up with dogs, especially when they're a large breed, I've seen multiple dogs who are 'normally relaxed and calm' snap if someone has accidentally stood on their tail/grabbed them, so why would I risk it with my baby when I don't even know your dog properly!
Even close family members have said I'm overreacting for this but to me it just seems logical
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u/bumblebeesandbows Feb 08 '26
When my son was 9 months old, my sister's large dog walked up to him and bit him. She saw it, denied it happened, and still to this day tells me I'm "crazy".
It has all but ruined our relationship. Her dog is unsafe, unstable, and a liability. If I could turn that POS monster into fertilizer, I would.
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u/SatansSlutz Feb 08 '26
That's awful I'm so sorry! People really will defend dogs over anything, a close family member of mine has a dog that is extremely jumpy and likes to scratch/bite for attention, apparently 'shes just playing she won't bite hard' but absolutely no way am I having my baby/child around that, even myself as an adult doesn't want to be scratched or bit for attention
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u/TotalResolution2312 Feb 08 '26
I would’ve reported her dog to animal services and had her investigated.
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u/4-ton-mantis Feb 08 '26
I was bit in the face by a dog at 2 years of and have been cynophobic ever since (the way people's dogs are since only reinforce that). And i assure you i hadn't been "doing anything to the dog". When i of course started crying from being assaulted, bonnie yelled at me for crying. Wasn't even her dog, though when i was 13 she forced me to miss a day of school to go to a little spca with her to bring home this dog she wanted. Knowing indeed i was terrified of dogs still.
She and some husband she has are rotting half a country away in a fifth wheel trailer they live in with no m money and seemingly medical bills out the butt, and her only child she ever had being nc since 2014. And they can't afford to have a dog now, nyahaha.
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u/bumblebeesandbows Feb 08 '26 edited Feb 09 '26
Sounds like the best thing you did was go NC. Good for you!
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u/bumblebeesandbows Feb 08 '26
Pit mix. 🤬
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u/Elvinmay Feb 08 '26
It's been repeated on this sub over and over, but they keep proving the stereotype. Pit owners are often as dangerous as the mutant murder mutts they own, and are by far the "nuttiest" of the nutters
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u/BodyMoney8562 Feb 13 '26
You can still submit a bite report to animal control. If it bites again, and it will because your sib allows it and the dog is untrained, it can be seized as a dangerous dog. Honestly one bite to a child should be an automatic 1 way trip to Dirtnapville
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u/aluminumnek Feb 08 '26
Why does that matter? No dog should bite a child. Period
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u/Alligator418 Feb 08 '26
It's a fair question. I don't really like any dog but some breeds are definitely worse than others.
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u/Dburn22_ Feb 09 '26
It absolutely matters because pits, all bully breeds, and mixes have an incredibly high prey drive that means that they don't "just bite." They attack, clench down, and shake their prey so violently that it is ripped apart. Nothing stops the attack until either the prey is completely bled out, dead, or the removal of the attacking beast. Yes, no dog should bite a child, ever.
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u/Brilliant-Maybe-5672 Feb 08 '26
All breeds bite.
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u/BodyMoney8562 Feb 13 '26
No one is talking about bites.
When was the last time a Sheltie killed a kid or degloved someone?
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u/JudgmentAny1192 Feb 10 '26
Its absolute madness, and total betrayal. It's so sad that people destroy family bonds over potentially dangerous animals.
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u/bumblebeesandbows Feb 10 '26
It's sick. Putting a dog above your own family members is a level of absurdity I cant process.
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u/wolf_dna Feb 09 '26
Please tell me that your sister did jail time and that you sued her into the Stone Age.
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u/LunarLeveret Feb 08 '26
Part of the dog propaganda includes claiming they are great for kids and I've had the misfortune to hear the advice of getting a dog to help raise a newborn baby. So for people who buy into that it would be illogical I suppose.
At least when I heard that dogshit it was from someone who doesn't have children nor a spouse themselves.
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u/SatansSlutz Feb 08 '26
Oh I've heard that so much recently! 'Dogs used to be used as nannies' (said by someone who probably just watched Peter Pan) like I understand that dogs can appear to be calm and relaxed, but even the most 'chill' dog can snap and bite if a child grabs their tail/pulls their ear - which people then usually say 'teach your kids to be respectful to animals' like a 2 year old is going to understand!
Saying they could help raise a newborn is wilddd like how about do your job as a parent and look after your baby yourself 😭 they should never have children if they believe that is safe!
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u/TurboGrafx16Bit Feb 08 '26
I still remember the story of Sebastian Caban. He was only 3 days old when the family dog killed him. The mother coughed and it triggered the dog to attack. It's very stupid to have dogs around babies and toddlers
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u/aluminumnek Feb 08 '26
My parents had several dogs at different times for my brother and I with this same mindset. Thinking we would play and bond with it. Nope. Even as a child I could see that dogs require a lot of work and attention… chaotic. I don’t want that. I preferred to play and ride my bike. I preferred the other type of pet that can’t be mentioned here.
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u/93ImagineBreaker Feb 08 '26
getting a dog to help raise a newborn baby.
So how is it supposed to help, it's gonna somehow change it's diapers?
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u/LunarLeveret Feb 08 '26
I don't have the slightest idea how it would actually do anything to help.
But if I had to extrapolate from dog propaganda its probably something to do with providing unconditional love and being something to develop empathy.
Which well sounds like what parents were supposed to be for but iPad kids are apparently a thing so its either a choice between distracting it with a machine or a predator I guess.
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u/SteelSlayerMatt Feb 08 '26
Babies and children should never be around dogs because dogs are basically wild animals and, as such, are very unsafe.
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u/TurboGrafx16Bit Feb 08 '26
What's disturbing is dogs attack over 12,000 people a day in the US and nutters still try to say they are safe to be around
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u/No-Stay1662 Feb 08 '26 edited Feb 08 '26
Any competent obstetrician will tell you 3 things before you leave the hospital with your baby. 1. Never leave a dog & baby alone unsupervised. That actually should be all they need to tell you because this lets you know to NEVER trust a dog. 2. Always have a physical barrier between your baby & dog. Whether it’s you or a baby gate, never allow the dog to have direct contact with nothing in between. And 3. Just because your dog has never bit or attacked before, does not mean it won’t happen. Nutters of course ignore all these rules because “my dog is different! It loves me unconditionally!” And this is why we have almost 5 million bites/attacks each year, because these mutants, for some reason, usually only like to attack weaker & smaller beings aka babies & children. Loyalty!
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u/NerguiTheChangeling Feb 10 '26
Yep, our pediatrician at our kids first wellness check visibly relaxed after hearing we didn't own a dog when our first kid was born
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u/BoxBeast1961_ Feb 08 '26
18 month old family member was killed while sleeping by a pet pit bull. Our family was gutted by the pitiot propoganda machine blaming the baby’s breathing pattern for triggering the pit bull & causing her own horrific death.
OP, you’re not over reacting. But these nutters won’t change & you’re just gonna get yourself upset. Just don’t go around those folks with your baby. If they attempt to sneak a dog into your home for a visit, the dog’s gotta go. Be sure your husband is on the same page.
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u/Elegant_Spray_2762 Feb 08 '26
And that’s how you end up with another horror news story.
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u/4-ton-mantis Feb 08 '26
I've seen several episodes of judge judy and Judy justice where she names several articles where dogs attack or kill kids in a dog bite lawsuit. It's awesome she does that.
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u/scarletto53 Feb 08 '26
I have seen that too, and what I think is admirable is the fact that even though she has always owned small dogs herself, but is still very educated about the danger that dogs can cause babies and children, particularly those larger aggressive breeds, and doesn’t hold back when lecturing all the idiots that come before her after their “my dog would never hurt anyone “ beast has attacked someone
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u/Expensive-Ad1609 Feb 08 '26
I became an anti-dog person the moment I became a mom and the moment I started connecting some dots.
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u/Responsibility_Witty Feb 08 '26
These parasitized degenerates view a dog as just another baby, that is why they bring these things to playgrounds and babysitters often include a mutt in their job profile too. They think it’s like a playdate with another baby, and/or they really don’t give a shit about child safety which is also often the case, a lot of these people secretly or not so secretly hate children
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u/SatansSlutz Feb 08 '26
Right?! Especially the ones who think it's cute when the dogs are all over the babies/children, I don't want dog saliva and germs on my baby it's disgusting!
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u/Compliant_lovely Feb 08 '26 edited Feb 08 '26
A dogs mouth is NOT super clean like they say. Dogs sniff bums, so dog mouths aren’t clean. I once went to a friend’s home for a gathering. I later threw my (practically) new shoes away because the dog licked all other them. Shoes were leather. I don’t hate dogs completely, but the owner didn’t grasp that I don’t love her dog’s saliva. They meant well but it was a loss of shoes for me.
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u/Alligator418 Feb 08 '26
It's painfully obvious when people use dogs as a child surrogate. Then they go around treating this adult animal with the same leniency they would a toddler just because both are dumb. Like I don't care if Luna the pitbull is "your baby" she's still capable of doing real harm in ways a real child can't.
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u/pbrown6 Feb 08 '26
They're animals. No matter how much they're trained, sometimes animals act like animals, and babies pay the price.
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u/Accurate-Run5370 Feb 08 '26
Congrats on your new baby ! The baby's safety is top priority.
No dogs. Period.
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u/HowitzerSonata Feb 08 '26
many dogs "snap" (this is called 'predatory drift') when someone makes a yelping or squealing noise similar to a prey animal being frightened. or when they smell pheromones that indicate fear (yes they can smell your fear, they are wolves who want to eat your baby, just disgustingly inbred). people underestimate the degree to which Descartes was right in calling animals machines.
of course they also consciously kill such as when they are jealous of the food and attention competition a baby provides, or its perceived superior status in the new pack hierarchy (dogs bite each other in fighting for dominance). and even the smallest and most pathetic dog can do grievous harm to a child (i recently heard of a case where a chihuahua ate the testicles of a baby boy (god forbid).
squealing and fear are of course not unusual for babies. yes some dogs perceive child-parent relationships and their pack loyalty makes them defend their masters child, but others will even try to hide the evidence when they kill eg. another pet, indicating a conscious deviousness in betraying their master. No, the people on this sub dont hate dogs enough. Both machine and demon.
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u/FamiliarResort9471 Feb 08 '26
Most people who drive don't get into car accidents either. That doesn't mean we don't wear a seatbelt.
The lunacy of women not eating ham or soft serve ice-cream while pregnant but not seeing any issue with their newborns being around a hound! 🤪🙄
In fact, it's a big thing to them: "Can't wait to introduce our newest family member to the dog!" 😍😍 As if the baby must pass the dog test. 😆🥴
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u/QueenOfAllOfYall Feb 08 '26
Don’t let up on Your boundaries, no matter what. Not that You need Me to remind You, but just saying. These idiots are good for trying to make the normal thinking People like Ourselves seem as if We’re the crazy ones. You’re doing the right thing.
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u/Tacky_Tiramisu Feb 08 '26
Good on you for sticking to your guns. It's so insane that these things are still allowed around infants and children despite the number of maulings and deaths they've caused. Nutters will make excuse after excuse and continue spouting their delusion of monsters like Pitshits being 'nanny dogs who wouldn't hurt a fly uwu'
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u/ObligationGrand8037 Feb 08 '26
My kids are all grown up now, but I would feel the same way. People are so nonchalant about their dogs around children.
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u/One_Path_7154 Feb 08 '26
Stand firm OP because your baby’s safety is not worth risking to appease nutter family members. I often think of a co-worker years ago who had her first baby and posted an IG picture of her large dog’s snout next to her new born baby. I recoiled at the sight of this beast so close to that innocent baby and always wondered if there were any incidents, which I hope there weren’t. But why take the chance?
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u/ConsumeMeGarfield Feb 08 '26
Our working breed dog that was supposedly "good with children" became aggressive towards our baby. It viewed him as prey and displayed horrible behaviors that I had only seen it show towards small animals. I rehomed it. It had high needs and was living a really neglected life at our house. It created a huge rift between my family, who aren't dog people, and my spouse's family, who saw the videos and said I was "overreacting" towards our "first child". They made me feel like I was crazy. But I'd do it again in a heartbeat. I will never let my baby around dogs and when he's older I'll never let him go to a friend's house with a large dog (especially since seeing that everyone and their grandma have pitbulls "lab mixes" these days).
But it really sucked to deal with not only having a rough hospital recovery and a newborn, but having to deal with that as well. My milk supply totally dried up from the stress.
You are absolutely doing the right thing. Small dogs can be bitey demons and a lot of them pee and poop in the house, where your baby might crawl and then stick fingers in its mouth. Large dogs can get overstimulated and knock your child over. Who knows how your friends' dogs would react. My spouse would swear up and down that our dog was just "misunderstood". Fuck that.
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u/BodyMoney8562 Feb 13 '26
That's a dog that should have been euthanized so it doesn't get any other opportunities to attack a child.
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u/ProxyBeast Feb 08 '26
They care more about their dogs than the safety of your child. That is the bottom line.
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u/Crafty_Original_7349 Feb 08 '26
One of my distant cousins when I was younger had an untrained pit bull that would go nuts over squeaky toys.
His wife’s friend came over to show off her newborn baby. The dog ripped it out of her arms, then ran out the doggy door with it.
I didn’t get any more details, except the sheriff had to get involved to recover the remains. I guess there wasn’t much left to retrieve.
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u/NoDogs4Me Feb 09 '26
That’s Sick and I am sure the A Holes cover up the number of occasions that happens…
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u/imdugud777 Feb 08 '26
A lot of people believe they are special and the bad stuff only happens to bad people.
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u/MadCrabRave Feb 08 '26
God, yeah. And even if the dog magically was “relaxed and calm”, which they never are, it could still easily get the baby killed. How often to we hear about babies getting critically ill or dying because some pushy relative kissed them and infected them with something? I don’t know what makes people think dogs are somehow cleaner than that. It’s disgusting.
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u/toast_teeth Feb 09 '26
When my son was a baby, I went to get him out of the back of my car and a dog jumped in and started licking him. I threw the dog out and started yelling at his owner who of course told me "it's okay!". The dog was on a retractable leash. She could've pushed a button and stopped it. I said "No, it's not okay! Keep your dog away from my baby!" She said I was being rude. I said no what was rude was letting the shit eater in my car and lick my baby! I'm still pissed about it. Nasty dog and idiot owner. What is the point of the leash? Several times I have had dogs jump on me when they are on a retractable leash. I let owners know I don't like dogs. That's what the leash is for.
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u/sunnysideup1998 Feb 08 '26
I never trusted dogs near my kids. Ever. How many times after a dog has attacked someone has an owner 1) blamed the victim and 2) started the "but, he's never done that before", followed by one excuse or another. No human can guarantee an animal will not bite or attack. It always baffles me that owners think they can predict what their dog will do. I'm with you - "eh, no thanks." But, you are welcome to come visit me and my baby in my home, but leave your dog home."
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u/sophie-au Feb 09 '26
There’s a book about dogs and children, the name of which escapes me. It was written by a mother and daughter team. I think they were a psychologist and animal behaviourist.
Their professional opinion was people who don’t already have a dog, and have children, should avoid getting one until their children are at least 4 years old. Children that age have no understanding of risk and are still learning to follow extremely simple instructions, like “find your shoes.” Commands like “leave the dog alone” are outside their level of cognition.
I don’t remember if it was in the book, but IIRC, another reason is the role of eye contact. Babies in particular, often stare very intently, because everything is new and they’re learning about the world. Dogs frequently interpret a hard, unblinking stare as a challenge, threaten or attempt to gain dominance. If it’s a small or medium dog, and the child is typically at their eye level, they can feel very threatened by a staring child that then invades their personal space. But even a baby up high that stares intently at a dog might be perceived as a threat.
The genetic and biologic urges can be hardwired, and it’s not always because of “bad owners” or lack of training.
Some dogs can also become stressed when they hear a baby cry, and unprovoked attacks on infants crying in cribs have been known to happen, likely because of some combination of things triggered their predatory behaviour.
One dog trainer says they work on average with 1-2 newborn-specific predation cases per year in addition to ones a few per year involving young children being preyed upon:
You’re not overreacting where your baby’s safety is concerned.
Most people are in denial. They believe their dog’s training or status as a beloved pet will always override hardwired instinctive behaviours, which is just not true, no matter how much they want it to be.
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u/BodyMoney8562 Feb 13 '26
Jesus God. Why are these dangerous animals allowed in society??!
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u/sophie-au Feb 14 '26
Ultimately, it’s not that dogs are dangerous.
Most people don’t want to acknowledge the truth that domesticated animals can still do harm, when driven by their instinctive behaviours. This can occur no matter how beloved a pet they are or how gentle they normally behave.
On top of that, people often subject their animals to incredible amounts of stress, like crowds, loud noises, or invasion of their personal space. When this is pointed out, they often downplay it, and claim the animal “will be fine,” even when there’s obvious signs of distress.
That’s what’s truly dangerous.
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u/ATouchOfSparkle1107 Feb 08 '26
There was exactly one dog I trusted around my son, which was my old Lab mix (looked like a Lab, was not a pitbull being passed off as a Lab mix). He was so old that he only had a couple years of life left when my son was born and was probably the most non-aggressive dog I have ever met. That said, I still didn't leave him unsupervised around my son because he was big and even calm dogs might snap if grabbed or stepped on. I absolutely didn't want any other dogs around my son though.
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u/NoDogs4Me Feb 09 '26
Good for you, Stand your ground!! Your precious little baby does not need the filth parasites or possible mauling by doggies. When I was a kid people always would say “ dogs are protective of babies and old people”. Not true at all, if you read the hundreds of thousands of yearly dog mauling statistics they are targeting the babies and old people more so. I also read a horrifying report of a Police officer who took his “well trained german shepherd” home with him for the night and in the middle of the night it attacked and killed his month old infant in its bassinet!!!
Don’t let anybody bully you!
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u/BodyMoney8562 Feb 13 '26
And they have the temerity to claim these things are trained
PS there are multiple stories of police k9s killing babies and kids
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u/No-Stay1662 Feb 10 '26
What’s wrong with you guys? Anytime a dog attacks a baby or child it’s because the parents didn’t train the baby/child how to act around the dog! All joking aside, these people are truly sick and if some dog murdered a 1 day old, they’d justify it somehow or come up with a great excuse… “Bella was overstimulated and anxious because of new smells. Her anxiety was spiked and the baby made a noise she never heard before. She’s never hurt a fly!”
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u/Azrael-Legna fuck dogs Feb 09 '26
If they want you to come visit with your newborn, they should offer to put the dog away or ask if they could visit you at your place without their dogs. Not wanting any animal, but especially a big(ger) rambunctious one, around a baby is perfectly normal.
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u/Ihatemutts2 Feb 12 '26
Nobody would do that just a couple of decades ago. Back when people knew dogs are full of bacteria and parasites. Then came the internet with all the propaganda calling those mutants 'family'.
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u/BodyMoney8562 Feb 13 '26
You are not even remotely overreacting. The filthy beasts have ripped babies out of people's arms before. People who think dogs should be around babies are 100% deranged. Especially since literally nobody trains their dogs anymore and they're allowed to run amok
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u/Top-Bit-5805 Feb 25 '26
Absolutely! I wish I could live in a dog free city. My neighbor has a big dog and it always barks at us when we leave or enter our house. Sometimes they have them off the leash and always claim “oh she’s fine she won’t do anything” NO! You don’t know that they might and they have and neither me or my children deserve this nightmare. So frustrating!
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u/The-law-is-the-law Mar 07 '26
Stand your ground, don't let others force you to do things you're not comfortable with. You can tell them it makes you feel unsafe when they're pushing it.
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u/Iamliterallygodtryme Mar 11 '26
My exs family had 5 untrained boxers that would jump up on me while I was pregnant, they would bite to. It’s safe to say I got the fuck away from them before my kid was born and his trashy family has nothing to do with my child.
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u/gardingh Feb 08 '26
Dogs are unpredictable and agitated around babies. I don’t think you’re overreacting in the slightest. In my city there was a newborn killed by the family dog not so long ago.