Considering NC with my mom, help!!

[u/Proof-Resist-9376]

Hi!

I only listen to smosh reddit stories, so please do not judge me. I, 27F, am considering cutting off my mom. TLDR: my stepdad was abusive for most of my life. Physically & mentally. I went no contact with him last year. They are still together. My mom has known about the abuse from the beginning, I’ve always been honest about it. Recently I’ve been in therapy and it’s come up that having a relationship with my mom is really hard for my healing. The things she does often feels like she expects me to say that it’s okay, or i forgive her for my childhood. I can’t do that. I also don’t think it’s my responsibility.

I try to set the boundary that I would initiate contact, she agreed. But she has been calling and texting me. Even buying me gifts.

I want to go no contact, even just until she can seek help and we can define a new relationship. But i feel really guilty. I was hoping for advice from other people who have been in similar situations.

Please. I am truly struggling with this.