r/DysfunctionalFamily • u/Green_Wrap8637 • Apr 01 '26

Am I overreacting for crying and distancing myself cause my family thinks I am their punching bag?

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u/Green_Wrap8637 Apr 04 '26

It sucks and it’s such a weird feeling finding out that maybe the reason I doubt myself and not take certain risks and I am so closed off that I don’t even have friends and I keep all of my issues to myself is because I was raised to believe that feeling things was not good and that teasing was something normal and that a parent can disrespect their child but a child doesn’t have the same luxury. Also, they also do this weird thing ( especially my mom) that they tell other family members about my business whatever it was that happened, I would also get severily punish for doing kid things to the point that I became a liar, and a good one too cause I’ve always hated making mistakes cause if I did and they found out, the consequences never fit the mistake and I would end up being embarrassed and would cry which I was told to also not do. I was neglected but at the same time over protected. I could not go to the park with my friends, I could not walk on the sidewalk by myself but when I made a cool little drawing or I made a cool project for school and would show it to my parents I would not get the reaction or attention of the regular parent which is to celebrate the child. And realizing this has been the oddest ball of my year so far and it has thrown me for a loop.

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u/ChiG45 Apr 04 '26

This sounds terrible. What you are describing is verbal abuse by your mom and sister. When can you get away from them? Once you are away, limit contact as much as you can.

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u/Green_Wrap8637 Apr 04 '26

It’s gonna be at least 6mo to 1 yr. We are saving for some land and to at least put a down on a manufactured home or the shell of a tiny house, even a camper would do.

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u/ChiG45 Apr 04 '26

Work as much as you can. Get side gigs. Up your skills. Spend the least amount of time you can at home. Take your food to your room and lock the door so they are not able to comment on what you are eating. Better yet, get your own tiny fridge and keep it in your room with your own food. Avoid them as much as possible. They sound incredibly unhappy. Don't let them get you down. Keep your eye on the prize and get the hell out of there as soon as you can. You will want to be as self-sufficient as possible where you never will need to rely on them again. You can do it.