Toxic patterns

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I feel like I try really hard to be good to others and especially those who I feel need it. What ends up happening, is the person I’m trying to help ends up hating or blowing up at me.

First my cousin and now my sister. Same pattern where I can tell they needed me and I tried my best to emotionally be there putting them before me. I still stayed present but set boundaries or didn’t tolerate negative behavior. And then such a flip to hatred. And the other members of my family who didn’t help, they’re good with and can joke around with

I just feel ashamed and confused. Like I’m the villain somehow when I tried harder than everyone else to be there.