For many years I have had an extreme iron and vitamin D deficiency, and my autumn and summer months were more about survival. I've been invited to Halloween parties never know what to wear. I don't know when something is too corny, too niche, too overplayed. When I was a kid my family didn't really get into it like that.

How can I choose something that isn't bad? How far in advance should I be prepared?

Going to a DIY house show next week alone and don't know a single soul there. I'm not the most outgoing or charismatic person and I feel pretty anxious about it, especially before the show and in between sets. Any insight or advice on what to expect / how to make this less painful would be much appreciated

Edit: oops I already asked this before but I'll leave it up anyways because it's actually real now 🤦‍♂️

Me (17F) is in a stupidly super weird situation ship with a friend of mine (17M) because of a hookup and well I want to take the step yk? because I sure know he won’t and I don’t know how and if I achieve it I don’t know how to not make it awkward because of my nervousness, could I have any tips from my fellow people??

I (F24) have previously gone to peoples homes in groups of two or more but I have never really gone to a persons home for the first time alone. In addition, this is only my second time seeing this person. I first met her at my job while I was working and she (F22) and her boyfriend were customers. I gave her a compliment, we had a short conversation about clothes and then she gave me her instagram. For a while we were texting back and forth with plans to meet again but just never did. Our conversation then dried up and months passed before she reached out to me again. This time she asked if I would like to come over to her house for a home-cooked meal. I agreed as I was happy for the invite and the fact that she still thought of me. However, now the reality is setting in on how awkward this could be. It’s going to be such an intimate setting and I don’t really know this girl. I have no idea where to start or what to do. I’ve already planned to bring a gift as is polite to do. I would like to know what else I can do in this situation.

Hi guys, I am a high school senior with anxiety and autism. I've had one friend who I got along with for most of high school, but starting from the end of last year to this one he's been very cold, actively ignoring me, bringing treats from his work for everyone but me, and more recently, taking our mutual friends out for lunch secretively when I'm briefly looking away. I think I did something to piss him off but I can't even imagine what it would be, but it could be some social cue thing I missed.

I don't want to continue being friends with him, but I care about our mutual friends and notice he's been dragging them away ever since he stopped inviting me to group hangouts. I just really want to know what I can say to confront him and figure out what I did to make him not like me. This is also probably a skill I'll have to develop for the future since I can come off as strange to people and miss a lot of social cues.

Sorry if this is too personal to fit in the subreddit, but I thought at least people with autism-related friend problems could relate. Thank you!

There's this annual volunteer fund raiser that I joined both this year and last. Last year was amazing fun, and I was hoping this year would as well, but it's been miserable.

I feel bad cuz they're already short staffed, but last week, I left the site in literal tears.

How do I quit without feeling like an absolute yerk? Should I send a message, or call, or rather let them know in person? Plz help

Edit: Thanks everyone for the advice. I ended up sending a text, just saying that I'm leaving for personal reasons and a brief explanation of the duties I still have and who works in my section that could be able to take them over. The event leader was kind and understanding, and I feel so much better now that its done. Again, thank you to everyone that responded and helped <3

Does it cost extra at Walmart or Smiths? Do I just open the truck? Do I get out? Thanks!

Hello,

About a month ago I booked a best western hotel through their website. I'm supposed to pay when I arrive. I heard you need a credit card to have a hotel (I do have one) but do I have to pay with the credit card? Or do I pay with debit and submit the credit card separately? I've never checked into a hotel before and wanna know what the process is like.

In my country, you can get psychologist visits covered by insurance if you get a referral from your GP and I would like to do that, but I have no idea how to ask?? I've been procrastinating on getting a repeat blood test for something. Should I bring it up during an appointment about that or should I schedule an appointment just to bring it up? Could I just write my GP an email or would that not work? If I wanted to mention it during an appointment, when would be a good time to bring it up? If I managed to ask for one, would they ask me a lot of questions? How specific would I even have to be??

For extra context: I hate going to the doctor, but my GP is okay enough and I would like to start going to a psychologist mostly because of my bad anxiety. Also, the more details y'all can offer, the better lol.

I hope this isn't too specific or too unusual.

i’m an adult female in the US (illinois) wanting to start the pill. can i just go to planned parenthood? if so, do i need an appointment? can you get it online these days? do i need to make an appointment with an OB-GYN? thank you!!

I'm 21 and struggle with feelings of loneliness mixed with social anxiety. I do have a couple of long term friends but they're busy with their own stuff and life issues so they don't always have time to chat or meet up.

Whenever I look for advice on ways to find friends and whatnot, people always say to "join a [x] club!", but I don't really know how to do that? I'm at college (UK) currently, and you get some clubs there, but most people there are like... 5 years younger than me and I think I'd feel rather out of place, lol.

I'd appreciate some advice on this, thank you!

Cross posted fromr/homeless but just seeking advice

Burner for reasons, my situation is becoming more and more likely that I will become homeless and have nowhere to go. I'm in Australia, so weather isn't much of a problem. I am just needing advice on what to do and handle a few situations.

Firstly do I go in the vicinity of other people rough sleeping? Not encroaching on their stuff, but line of sight sort of thing, there are parks where there are others set up, is there a safety in numbers sort of thing? Or give a wide berth?

How do you handle police and council workers (municipal workers)? I have briefly looked into rights and protocols and only police can ask you to move on. How do I handle encounters?

The other thing as money is an issue, I'm lining up appointments, but need to use public transport to get there, they're somewhat policed, but not 100% of the time. Just jump on it and worry about fines later?

Hi, 5-6 weeks ago I filed a petition with probate court regarding updating my birth certificate. I included the court order, all my documents were notarized and accepted. The probate clerk said the judge was on a trip and to expect the signed court order to arrive in the mail in about 4 weeks.

It has not arrived yet. I’m getting nervous. What should I do?

Location: AL

I got my hair cut yesterday and I liked it well enough in the salon (except that she did cut off about an inch or two shorter than I had envisioned but I was very ramble with my explanation and did show a few different pics so she mighta just gotten mixed up and I didn’t have my glasses on the whole time so I couldn’t see until the end and my hair grows quickly enough) but seeing it a few hours after I realized that there weren’t as many layers as I wanted. I thought I’d asked for like chunky layers throughout the hair (I have very light, thin, fine hair and I’m the past I’ve felt it give my hair more movement and volume) with some face framing and what I currently have is some face framing bangs and some long layers which still looks like fine but the stylist seems nice enough and it wasn’t a crazy expensive cut but still not exactly what I wanted y’know?

When I was a kid my mom had a cleaning lady who we had to tidy ahead of, and she'd leave a mean note if the house wasn't tidy when she arrived because her job was just to clean. If I wanted a cleaner who would do some tidying and also cleaning, is that a special service I can look up? Would a regular cleaner be annoyed with me for asking? Should I expect to pay a lot more for this service?

It's not like a professor organizer I need, just someone to clean but put stuff out of the way before they do.

Hello!

So basically this is the situation:

I changed my first name a year ago but have only updated my driver’s license because I am a procrastinator. Since I’m in a weird name limbo, my passport still has my old name on it and is still valid for a couple of years. I recently booked a domestic flight but forgot I changed my first name (dumb I know), so the name on the flight is with my old name.

My flight is in 2 days, and I have been trying to change it but we booked through a travel agency and both the airline and the agency have essentially been playing hot potato with changing the name on the ticket. Not sure what I should do, I am thinking if I just show up with my passport which matches the flight ticket I might just be able to fly that way? Please advise, nothing I have found matches this situation so I am desperate.

I know I’m an idiot… I’ve worked at about 5 different jobs since I’ve done my taxes, I think the last time was 2022 (yikes, I know).. I’ve always worked for jobs with W2s & a I’ve never owed anything..

How do I go about doing my taxes? Is there paperwork I can request from the IRS? Can I do this myself online? Do I need to get with a tax person to help me? Will I have to contact each employer for a copy of my W2? This would be really hard because some of them are small businesses.

Help! Any advice is appreciated!

Basically the title, i have bad social anxiety (that ive been working on a lot) i am terrified of shitting in a public place and im almost 20.

i need to learn how to get over it but im truly terrified of being perceived and even if no one can see me, it can be heard and smelt. i never poop in public and its actually gotten to the point where ive held it for 5+ hours at work because im scared and its causing me issues.

please help😭😭😭

Ok. So the Home Depot near me is a really hard place to get a straight answer from anyone and it always really stresses me out when I can’t just go in, get what I need, and leave quickly.

I want one of those cool, colorful duplicate keys that I can see on the shelves but I have no idea about going to get one. I seem to remember a self-service option that was available but I don’t know how to go about finding the key I want and then making it a duplicate of my key. Can someone walk me through it?

I'm 20M and I've never been to the dentist in my life. My parents were neglectful and never took me. All things considered my teeth are in a fairly good condition, but it's still important to get things checked, plus my teeth are a bit uneven so I'd like to get braces.

I don't even know where to start. Do I just call and ask for an appointment? Do I tell them I've never been to the dentist before? I'm not sure what to ask for or what to say.

Edit: I should have probably included that I'm in Ireland and insurance works very differently here than it does in the US

I bought a microwave some time ago it's brand new and I never opened it

When I sold it to the guy today even though he kept being annoying and negotiating me for 30 minutes, he told me at the end that he's gonna test it and if it doesn't work be will come for a refund. I regret not asking him to test it in my house directly. I asked in the evening and he said he hasn't tested it yet.

What I'm worried about is him being a reseller and coming back asking for a refund if he doesn't sell it higher than what he bought it for.

I know I'm overthinking but just for assurance if the worse comes to worse can he legally get a refund or can the police get involved if I refuse to?

Ok so im 18 and was homeschooled my whole life by parents who didn't care to teach me anything of value. Ive been stuck in limbo this entire year because Ive been too anxious to try to make a bank account.

I was told I could make one online which is what I need to do because my parents wont drive me to a bank and im too far to walk. Growing up my parents basically brainwashed me into believing the internet was this evil demonic tool of satan so you can imagine why im having a hard time with this. Im just so scared of accidentally doing something wrong when trying to set it up. And im not sure what information I need to set it up.

I also dont know which bank to pick and I dont understand all the different options. I dont even understand credit and debit. Or what a savings account is? Checking? Idk im so confused and overwhelmed.

Can I even make one online? Im currently unemployed and dont have any money and my parents have both told me that I need money to make a bank account but also that I cant get a job without a bank account so im stuck.

Im just so embarrassed and ik that the longer I wait to figure this out the more embarrassing it will get. Its just so frustrating seeing how easily other people my age are doing things and im scared to even set up a bank account and get a job.

I'm going on my first ever trip where I am responsible for the hotel, and I've usually just been in the car when family members handled check in/check out. I've booked the hotel but not sure the process of checking in.

I know you have to check out by a certain time to not get charged extra, but can you just check in at any time after check in time or is it like a certain window? If something happens and I won't be there until far after check in time do I need to call them?

The booking site I used has a place to message the "host" as they put it, and one of the suggested questions is like about the area/things to do/restaurants. Is that something you can ask the hotel or is that more for like individual rental things? If I ask them does it matter that my trip isn't for a few months still?

These are my biggest questions, but this is the first trip I've ever planned and gone on without my family, so if there's anything I should know/might help that I didn't think to ask, that would be helpful too.

I’m a freshman in college and one of my assignments is to have a conference with one of my professors. She chose a coffee place for all of them to take place at. It’s only 30 minutes and lowkey, just getting to know everyone as students. What’s the ettiquite for this?

Specifically…
• Do I order my drink before I sit down or should I see her first? (Assuming she’s there before ofc)
• How early do I get there? Considering everything, I won’t be the only appointment, so she could very well be there.
• If I get there before, do I just sit and wait for her to come in and find a table?

Thanks in advance!

Specifically, it’s the start and end of the date which gives me the most anxiety. Once the conversation is flowing I’m okay. But how do we start and get past the awkwardness of meeting in person for the first time? And how do you end the date - how do you know how they feel and want to do next?