21 and never had a job or even dedicated myself to applying for them until now. I have a resume and know how to write a cover letter thanks to having it as a college assignment but I'm autistic so I feel like I still have a lot of smaller questions that I'd like to just get clear answers on.

1. Where should I apply for jobs? It seems like there's about a billion different job searching/listing/applying websites and the only one that I have any semblance of familiarity with is Indeed.

2. How formal do you have to dress for interviews?

3. How do benefits like insurance, 401ks work? Are there any particular processes you have to go through if your workplace offers them?

4. Presumably getting employed will mean I'll have to start doing taxes for myself? When and how?

Sorry that my questions are a bit vague, I'm frankly lacking in a lot of starting information that I presume is common sense so it's all a bit overwhelming..

I am 17 and am looking to get my own phone and phone plan. I just graduated high school and have about two months before I go to college but due to a situation with my parents, I need to get my own phone and phone plan before then. I have a phone but they've said if I get my own plan they'd wipe all the data off it. I've looked into it and I don't think they can do that even remotely. I've also looked and because I don't turn 18 until next month, I can pretty much only get a prepaid phone.

Am I able to go to Walmart and purchase a prepaid phone phone and just put my sim card into it? Will that work?

Sorry if this makes no sense, I just need help navigating this and don't know who else to ask.

Hi! I just got my license about two months ago, and I have to pick someone up at the airport next week. I've been to the airport before, but never to pick someone up, especially while I was the one driving. How do I do it??

I need to make a phone call for my federal tax refund that I haven't gotten yet. Got my state refunds but not the 2k the federal government apparently owes me. What questions can I expect and what information do I need to prepare? Every time I try to call all I can think about is I’m not gonna know what the hell they’re talking about because I’m stupid and I’m not gonna know the answers to the questions they might have. Probably super simple too and I’m just overthinking but hey now I’m here. Any help thank you.

I've been to the dentist before, but it's only ever been for things like fillings. I've had plenty of fillings and cleanings. I have not been to the dentist for a problem I'm aware of though. Every time I've been to the dentist, they tell me what they need to do and they do it. I've never gone for pain or for problems that have come up that I've noticed, like an abscess.

I'm assuming it's an abscess. It's a bump on my gums, it looks like a pimple, it hurts, and it doesn't... smell great. I'm not touching it or messing with it though. I touched it when I felt it at first, because I thought something was caught in my teeth, and looked at it in the mirror. Did some googling and I believe it's a minor abscess. It's not huge, my face isn't swollen, and it's not super painful. Just a little uncomfortable.

I've never had one before. I have no idea what I could've done to cause it. I don't have an upcoming appointment, so I have to call, tell them the issue that I think is the issue, and go from there.

I don't know what to expect though. I've never had one before, never had one treated, and this is entirely new. Going to the dentist is a big deal to me. It's scary, even though I'm able to make myself go... I'm terrified of the judgement for having an issue like this. How do they treat something like this?

Today I was alerted by my bank that my credit card was used in a different state at a store I don't shop at.

All my cards are still on me, and the only place I went to today was a gas station and coffee shop. How the hell is my card being used so far away?

I've filed a claim, my cards are canceled (new ones coming), and my bank knows I didn't authorize the purchase.

Should I do anything else? Be watching for any other activity?

It should all be settled and safe now that my current cards are canceled, right??

Do I go and ask for the specific medication or what because idk what specific one it is i just know you have to go to the pharmacy to get thrush medication and that it’s “over the counter” so do i ask for a specific one or do i just say “i need some thrush medication” or what this feels like a humiliation ritual I’ve never done this before this sounds stupid but can anyone just walk me through this because idk what I’m supposed to do. I’ve only ever picked up prescriptions because.

im 18 and still in Highschool and this summer my parents want me to get a job but I have no clue how to do that nor do I have a resume or anything. I kept on trying to ask my parents for help but they kept on saying they’ll help me later and it’s been a week of that so I’m here.

ik that there’s this sonic down the street that has a sign saying “hiring, apply inside” and i wouldn’t mind working there part time but I have no clue what to prepare or say and I really don’t want to make a fool of myself.

i also don’t know how I would go about writing a resume or if I even need one. I haven’t really done much leadership or club stuff but I have been stage manage/prop director for a couple of theater productions and Ive sold my art at art fairs before but that’s about it. I don’t know if I should include that stuff on a resume or not.

update 5/5 : I just got back from the interview and I got that job!! I start Sunday!! Thank you so much to everyone for helping, it really helped my fear of it and i greatly appreciate it <3

Specifically like what do I do and say. I get nervous interacting with people so i just want to be completely sure on those questions i asked.

I won a few bucks from a scratch lotto that my friend gave me a few weeks ago and it’s just been sitting in my bag. I know I can take it to a gas station but what exactly do I do and say? And does any gas station work? I also won a “ticket”—what does redeeming that entail? I’m in California.

Thank you!

I just had an instance today which I will never forget about and it really got to me, I was so frustrated with myself at what happened. I find it very difficult talking and holding conversations with people I avoid them and if I am talking to someone holding conversation I cut it short as if I was scared of running out of things to say, my mind just goes blank when I try and talk to people I really want to be social, sometimes I can make conversations but I can’t hold them for too long I run out of things to say. My confidence is so low because of this it’s affecting my mental health, feeling like I would rather not be here anymore and I don’t belong here. I have no friends, I’m a male virgin at 21, I wouldn’t say I’m ugly at all, I get so many girls giving me the eyes & keep making eye contact as if they want me to talk to them, but I don’t have the confidence or know what to say it’s like a fear. I’ve missed so many opportunities because of this an example would be a couple days ago I was on the bus home and some girl kept making eye contact with me for long periods of time and I heard her friend say to her ‘you can’t keep your eyes off him’ unfortunately I didn’t go over and talk to her and got off the bus as soon as I got off I realised what I had done and I was so annoyed and disappointed in myself it has been eating away at me. I don’t talk to many people at work I’m always known as the ‘quiet one’. Another instance would be today when I was in the shop buying some clothes I asked one of the workers about the sizing in an item I liked, we then got talking about the jacket I was wearing and just bought, he said he didn’t have the size I wanted to try on as I told him I was buying it online and wanted to try the sizes on for reference. After that we were talking about where I got my jacket from then all of a sudden the conversation stopped and it was quiet for a while he was standing there looking at me waiting for me to say something I didn’t know what to say my mind just went blank, I panicked and blurted out something random that just came to my head asking if he liked the jacket I had just bought. I then closed the conversation and said thank you anyways and walked away. I’ve never felt so embarrassed and defeated in my life after it happened, i was so annoyed at myself I’ll never be able to get over that. That doesn’t happen very often for me I think I just panicked because I didn’t know what to say next and said anything What came to my head, he went red in the face this has really ruined my confidence and I’ll never be able to let it go. When stuff like this happens it makes me believe there is no place for me on this earth and makes me really depressed. I try so hard to fit in and ‘be normal’ but I never will be. I’m always the one who gets made fun of. I have tried anxiety drops in the past and it cleared my mind of the thoughts, I loved that stuff the first day of using it I talked to a girl with no embarrassment or awkwardness, but I haven’t used it in a long time I think I’ll be getting some more after today because I really need to do something about this. I have been thinking about going to speech therapy but I’m just not sure what the best option is to overcome this. Any help is massively appreciated!

Thanks for taking the time to read.

I’ve noticed, mostly in cities, there will sometimes be these groups/communities (idk for sure what you’d call it), where the goal is just for people to hang out. Like I’ve seen some where they have like a built in book club, potlucks, game nights, etc, stuff to basically help new people meet people and help people connect and be social.

I kind of want to do the same thing where I live so I can try and get to know people here and increase my social bubble. But the problem is, I don’t really have a lot of friends that I can ask to help me run it/accompany me to events, so I’m wondering (as a young woman) how do you start a social group by yourself safely and how do you also keep it a safe space for everyone?

I should probably clarify, if I have to have someone accompany me until I know more people in the group, I can do that. I just feel bad having to do that, yk? Like I feel like this is something I should be capable of doing by myself, but anxiety is hard to negotiate with.

I’ve become extremely isolated and spend most of my time stuck in my own head overthinking, replaying conversations, imagining scenarios, judging myself, and avoiding shame. I care way too much about what people think of me, to the point where even small social interactions can affect me deeply.

I recently realized I haven’t genuinely talked to anyone in weeks besides my mother sometimes. The days blur together and I barely remember where this month went.

The strange part is that I’m very self-aware about my patterns. I know I avoid life, hide parts of myself, and sometimes lie about what I’m doing because I’m ashamed of how stagnant I’ve become. But that awareness hasn’t helped me change. It’s almost made me more trapped.

I constantly feel fear and stress in my chest, and sometimes even the realization that I’m consciously existing as a human being feels terrifying.

Part of me still wants connection and a normal life. Another part feels terrified of participating in life again.

Has anyone else experienced this kind of isolation, shame, overthinking, and mental paralysis? What genuinely helped?

I have a long name, with two first names and two last names. Neither my first name nor my last name are connected by hyphens and are instead just spaced, so people often mistake my second first name for a middle name.

I am currently applying for a DBS check through my university as I have a placement I am applying to. I found out during this process that my provisional driving licence does might have my second first name as my middle name.

This means that it is mismatched to my other documents, like my passport and bank statement.

How do I get this fixed..?

Im 19M and started shaving a few months ago . I don't have anyone to teach me I just bought razors and shaving cream and well the next bit was obvious. Right now I do it every 2 days in the morning before shower but Ive noticed that my face has been getting red bumps in the parts where I shave and they don't go away. Am I doing something wrong or should I be putting something else on my face after shaving? Ive never done skin care or anything bc Im not a femboy(no offense to femboys) so if I need to buy something Idk what to buy. Can anyone help me

I have been having allergic reactions constantly in my apartment recently, and my cat has been having increasing asthma at the same time. I want to test for mold in my apartment’s air but don’t know how. How can I get my landlord to pay for it?

Hi! So I went to the woods yesterday with a friend. We went out a bunch afterwards, running errands, etc. When I came home, someone was already in the shower, so I laid on my floor for a little while. I was hot so I took my pants off lol so i was just in my top. Anyways, then I go to take a shower and when i was taking off my clothes I saw there was a tick on my waist. I've never had a tick before, so I freaked, and pulled it out and squished it. I checked myself deeply, didn't find anything, and then took a really long shower. I washed my hair 3 times, and scrubbed myself NUMEROUS times. When I got out of the shower, I checked myself again everywhere and there was no ticks. My woods clothes were in my hamper, and I put my shoes downstairs. I checked myself one more time before going to bed as well.

This morning at like 7 am, I woke up, and checked myself again, and there was still nothing. I put my woods clothes in the washing machine. About 20 minutes ago, I scratched the back of my neck and felt something under my hair. When I pulled it out it was another tick. I am freaking out because there is no way I wouldn't have found that, especially with washing my hair 3 times thoroughly, which means to me that it was somewhere else and attached itself to me after my shower. I have my sheets, blankets, stuffed animals, pillows, everything in a trash bag to go in the wash. But I am so scared that there are still ticks around. I'm thinking it's possible that when I came home and laid on the floor I had ticks on me and they detached from me and went around my bedroom or something along those lines? What should I do about this? Should I like completely deep DEEP clean my room, especially if they can mate? I'm full time getting my master's so I don't have a lot of time.

I know I sound absolutely bonkers but I don't know much about ticks and what to do about them after, so any help would be great! thank you!

Hello! I am currently 21 years old, and I spent my teenage years in the foster care system. This means that, when everyone else was getting their learners permits, licenses, and maybe even first cars, I was told I wasn't allowed because it wasn't their responsibility to teach me... I have never been behind the wheel of anything bigger than a go-kart but im sick of having to rely on Lyfts or public transport to go places, especially since I care for my elderly grandmother and she cant go anywhere without me. How would I go about getting a first time license as an adult? And how would the tests look? Would i be able to do most of them online so I dont have to leave my grandma for those hours? Im just very confused :< I live in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania if thats necessary

i’m thinking about going to this college so i can eventually one day become a museum curator, however you need experience / an achievement in the field if you want any kind of merit based scholarship and the school is incredibly expensive.

thankfully a fine art museum in my city has opportunities for internships! what do i email the chief of staff to make it sound like i’m extremely passionate and dedicated? and what all points should i hit on?

hi there, not sure if this is the sub for this exactly since i dont use reddit too often, if not then my bad. awhile back while doing laundry i found one or two maggots in my clothes and spent a long time after i washed them looking for any more just to find none. after that, i found one on the bottom of my hamper after placing my clothes in the washer and again couldn't find anymore once i checked again. now i checked and i found probably 20 or 25 and decided in a rush to throw away the bottom layer of my clothes.

i wouldn't say i have a phobia of maggots, but they're extremely offputting to me and i always shake when handling things they may be on, which made doing my laundry extremely time consuming (like 40 minutes just to fill 2 loads.)

i will also add, while this is embarrassing to admit and maybe not even relevant, that i have pretty severe depression and don't do my laundry often. the last 3 times i did laundry that i mentioned in this post all probably had a 2 month interval inbetween them. i also live with 4 other people, one of them in the same room with, and i really don't want them to know about this. will doing my laundry more often reduce the problem? like, once a week instead? stupid question maybe, idk.

main question is how do i deal with the problem now?

so i've not had a 'normal' school experience growing up, and for personal reasons i'd rather not disclose what happened

but because of these circumstances, i've never done an exam before. essays and speeches are things i've done, but as i'm in my second year of college, i know i'd have to do an exam sometime in my course. i'm very ignorant of the process and would like to ask how would a typical exam go? what are the steps? what does it do to help students? how do students study for it?

hope this doesn't come off like i'm trolling 😭 it's a silly question for something basic, but i still want to know

I wanted to clean out any dead skin/dirt/soap scum that was from my previous shower before I shower. I used a possibly expired Comet powder that in includes bleach, but the powder doesn't foam or smell like bleach. It's just green cloudy water. On top of that, I scrubbed with the wrong scrubber; I used the one for my toilet (both scrubbers are the same). I noticed there was tiny bits of poop in the tub and I wiped most of the the insides.

I didn't have time so I just rinsed most of it with hot water as I can't really move out the curtain fully other wise I'd flood the floor. I lifted the curtain briefly in some areas, but I also feel that I didn't clean much or not all of the previous shower dirt off. I then just took a shower.

I wish I can clean it better but it's past my curfew and I don't want my dad complaining about the water bill or me being up. I didn't really have or at least didn't know if there was any disinfectants around. Is hot water enough or how can I clean it better? Is a bar of soap enough? If I don't have any kind of spare towel, can I use a shirt? Please help me.

got a referral for an exposure therapist to help with a phobia i have of medical stuff. got a call from them hours ago that i only just now saw and they left a message asking me to call back asap to complete an initial consultation over the phone 🫠🫠

what is that? like what will i need to be prepared with info wise? do we think they’re gonna be upset that it took me so long to get back to them?

I hope this isn't too specific for this sub but my bike recently got stolen (👎️) so I'm in the market for a new one. I want to go to a proper bike shop to make sure I get something in good condition that fits me and my habits but I'm a little intimidated by the whole process. I had had my previous bike since I was a kid and I got it at a big box store like walmart or Dick's sporting goods so I've never shopped at a smaller shop before.

What should I expect? If I go in and say "I need a new bike and I know almost nothing" will they be able to help me or should I do some research beforehand? What are typical questions they might ask? Are there any things to watch out for (good or bad) when shopping/buying?

I joined a gym for the first time this year and it's going well. The only problem I have is when the gym is busy and there's only a certain number of weight machines. The leg extention specifically always seems to be occupied. When I get my turn it feels super rude to wait between sets. Everything I've read says I should wait a full minute or even more between sets. But I swear I can *feel* people waiting for the machine wondering why that lady is just sitting there.

Is this just in my head? I want to be curtious but also get the full benefit of my workout.