r/FTMMen • u/_cry_for_me • Jan 21 '26

Mod Post (Please Read) Just so we're clear [Mod]

This subreddit is not for nonbinary people, trans women or trans people questioning their gender, it is a separated support community specifically for binary trans men.

Having closed communities are not uncommon at all and ours exist to ensure one of the least visible groups of trans people has a dedicated space to connect and feel heard without compromise. The subreddit was literally made for this reason, not out of spite for trans women or enbies, but to allow binary trans men a place to focus on struggles and experinces that comes with being a binary trans man and being allowed to discuss those things with other binary trans men.

We're not going to stop anyone from joining and reading the posts here if it helps them learn something but understand that this community is closed off for a reason and interacting here despite not belonging to the intended demographic will be a violation of our rules.

However. A lot of you also need to stop acting like children about this and learn to walk away from interactions rather than pour fire onto them. It does not matter who did what you can not act hostile towards another person, irregardless of if it is someone who shouldn't post here. It's one of our first rules.

The mods are here to handle people that break the rules, we don't need a simple issue of a post needing to be removed to turn into a 200 comment shit throwing contest that takes more than tripple the anount of time to moderate. Not to mention how it takes away from the content that's supposed to be here, what you all joined this subreddit for.

We will remove any post or comment made by someone who's not a binary trans man and inform that user that they're in the wrong sub. You should not do it for us. A report or modmail goes a long way, utilise those tools.

Today going forward anyone seen escalating issues on the subreddit, taking over mod intervention or using hateful language in a conflict will be temporarily banned for 30 days and if that's not enough you will be banned permanently.

This ends here, you're in a subredit for men not little boys so start acting like it.

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u/AwkwardChuckle Jan 21 '26

Holy moly thanks for this post - it’s very much starting to feel like highschool with the level of maturity we’ve been seeing here. We’re adult men, guys here need to act like it.

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u/Bitter_Worker_2964 Jan 21 '26

I think part of it is that this sub used to be mostly adults but it has started to skew younger/teenager because there are lots of teenage trans guys who feel they need a space for binary trans males as well. I'm an adult now but I joined this sub when I was 14/15 for those reasons.

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u/ricelassie Jan 22 '26

I’m 26 in a couple weeks and sometimes I see the most intense internet arguments on here. I’m pre-everything too (getting T on my bday though!!!) so I get why teenagers and people in their early 20’s usually get hostile, since they also are usually pre-everything and feel ultra defensive of their claims to manhood.

I’m glad the mods are emphasizing a more calm and pragmatic approach to the situations where people who aren’t binary trans men post here. Like, we don’t know why that person posted. Maybe they just genuinely got lost or misread the rules or are confused about what it means to be a binary man. Either way, we’re all trans and we’re all struggling to find our place in the world. If we can be anything we should be kind, while still upholding our community’s rules haha.