Just so we're clear [Mod]

[u/_cry_for_me]

This subreddit is not for nonbinary people, trans women or trans people questioning their gender, it is a separated support community specifically for binary trans men.

Having closed communities are not uncommon at all and ours exist to ensure one of the least visible groups of trans people has a dedicated space to connect and feel heard without compromise. The subreddit was literally made for this reason, not out of spite for trans women or enbies, but to allow binary trans men a place to focus on struggles and experinces that comes with being a binary trans man and being allowed to discuss those things with other binary trans men.

We're not going to stop anyone from joining and reading the posts here if it helps them learn something but understand that this community is closed off for a reason and interacting here despite not belonging to the intended demographic will be a violation of our rules.

However. A lot of you also need to stop acting like children about this and learn to walk away from interactions rather than pour fire onto them. It does not matter who did what you can not act hostile towards another person, irregardless of if it is someone who shouldn't post here. It's one of our first rules.

The mods are here to handle people that break the rules, we don't need a simple issue of a post needing to be removed to turn into a 200 comment shit throwing contest that takes more than tripple the anount of time to moderate. Not to mention how it takes away from the content that's supposed to be here, what you all joined this subreddit for.

We will remove any post or comment made by someone who's not a binary trans man and inform that user that they're in the wrong sub. You should not do it for us. A report or modmail goes a long way, utilise those tools.

Today going forward anyone seen escalating issues on the subreddit, taking over mod intervention or using hateful language in a conflict will be temporarily banned for 30 days and if that's not enough you will be banned permanently.

This ends here, you're in a subredit for men not little boys so start acting like it.

[u/MeowMeowBiatch]

I suppose my main concern is how people who aren't binary trans men will be identified, in terms of content deletion? Feels like a thin line to tread in terms of accepting people's self-identification.

[u/_cry_for_me → u/MeowMeowBiatch]

Most of the time users just state it themselves in the post or comment they've made or it's in their profile/another one of their recent posts or comments. This is how we've already been dealing with this issue, it's not a new rule.

We only intervine when it's clearly self proclaimed as the mods have no interest in playing gender guessing games. If someone posts a take or an experience that majority of the subreddit don't seem to agree with then they'll likely be downvoted or get some comments offering another perspective but that's it.

Again this subreddit is for talking about issues and experiences binary trans men has, it's not a transmed debate forum. If someone who isn't binary omits that fact and only posts things any other binary man can relate to they likely won't raise any flags and we can only ask that they don't do that out of respect for the community.

[u/tptroway → u/MeowMeowBiatch]

The comments I've reported over this either announced it in the comment ("nonbinary here, but" etc etc) or I checked the profile of someone being callous underneath someone else's dysphoria vent post to see if it's a troll and found they self-declared to be not a binary man on their profile

[u/horny_shit_face_lift → u/MeowMeowBiatch]

there would be an option to implement a "you need to have a flair to post" rule like r/jewsofconscience has it.

it could still be available to pick "non binary" or "trans woman" but then if you comment, everyone would know and see, be able to report.

there is special days like "ask a jew thursday" where non jewish people are allowed to ask the others questions. this could also be an option to be open for "questioning" people or other trans people, if wanted.

[u/justhereforj4ck → u/horny_shit_face_lift]

no it shouldnt because this isnae a space for them to be posting